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Fibroids and excessive bleeding

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I am a 45 year woman who has never had a child ( I have been pregnant several times but never full-term) I am very active and very healthy. I live in the US Virgin Islands (St. Thomas) and I swim and do yoga daily. For the past 6 months I have been bleeding very, very heavy - with large blood clots. Once I drove Myself to the hospital because the bleeding was so severe. For the past 4-5 moths I have been taking 5-6 birth control pills (Ogestrel) a day to control the bleeding. My GYN says that taking tese many BC pills is very bad and I have been diagnosed with fairly large fibroid. It has been suggested that I have a hysterectomy to control and stop the bleeding. I DO NOT WANT a hysterectomy - I checked on having the UAE procedure (blocking the blood supply to the fibroids) but was told the fibroid in my uterus is to large. I do not want to lose my uterus. Every woman that I know that has had a hysterectomy is overweight and has a large stomach. I know that sounds vain but a large stomach and being overweight is unhealthy.

I just want to die right now! I feel so old and so horrible I cannot stop crying. My other half is 17 years older than me and he is a surgeon in St. Thomas and he wants me to have a hysterectomy - I DO NOT- I would rather bleed everyday and take my uterus out. Plus I have heard that Drs. just sometimes go ahead and take the ovaries also. I dont know what to do - I want to just die - I feel old and I have nothing to look forward to. This feels like the end. I need some advice. Please.
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replied February 13th, 2010
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Hi Wendyrobinlittle,

If the medical professionals to include your husband has suggested you need a hysterectomy due to your condition, albeit, you are extremely emotional about it; in the end that is perhaps what you will have to do.

I know and have seen many womnen who have had a hysterectomy and not a one has a large stomach or is overweight from the procedure itself. However, I do know women who haven't had the procedure and some of them have large stomachs and are overweight as most of us will have if we don't exercise and watch our diet.

I don't think I, or anyone have to tell you that taking 4 - 5 bc is unhealthy for you. You are by far, increasing your chance of developing a blood clot, heart problems, high blood pressure, a stroke, etc. We oftentimes, are faced with difficult decisions in life but we have to put on our big girl pants and do what is best not only for us but for those who love us. How about stop with the bc's, listen to your husband and the other medical professionals and do what you know in your heart is the best thing in the long run.

If you think your sex life will change due to a hysterectomy, it won't. Most of the women I know say it has increased their sex life, now they don't worry about getting pregnant, so they do it whenever and as often as they like. If you are worried about not being a mother, you can always adopt or use a surragut.

Good Luck,

Faded Rose
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replied February 13th, 2010
Death = hysterectomy
Thank you for your reply - I know several women that have had a hysterectomy and they all have huge guts. One even had a tummy tuck after the surgery and still has a huge gut.

Right now all I see is death anyway - this makes me old and I have nothing to look forward to but more agony and pain - death is next.

I never wanted kids and I dont want them now. But I dont want to lose my insides either.
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replied May 27th, 2010
I hope you see this I wanted to try to help you in telling you part of my story I'm 43 years old and never had children and like you I was taking birth control pills but only 1 a day because I was bleeding every day for ten months because of fibroids the pill made the bleeding not so bad but could not stop it I did have a UAE 3 years ago but it stopped working so I had an abdominal hysterectomy 2 months ago I was so fearful but I ok I'm really doing good I have a flat stomach and my weight is normal not over I'm sad that I had to go that far I didn't want to lose my uterus it sometime makes me sad but I didn't want to bleed to death that would have hurt my mother very bad so I did it now I'll be fine and I'm thinking I might adopt a child one day life goes on so I'm telling you if you don't care about living for yourself there is someone who loves you please do it for them do it for your husband or your family your friend fear is normal crying is normal I still cry sometime but I know I just need time and now I can live knowing that bleeding problem is over please get help and if you need to talk I'm here ThereseA
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replied September 6th, 2010
Warning on Choosing an Optional Hysterectomy Under Age 45
Unless you have a condition that could easily cause an early death, seek alternatives to a hyserectomy, especially if you are under 45. There are studies which show that there are increased risks of early death for those who have a total hysterectomy and do not take hormonal replacement. Heart disease, dementia, strokes are among the things that can go very badly; not to mention vaginal prolapse and urinary incontinence within 20 years.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/P MC2697609/?tool=pmcentrez
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