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Hi, i'm a freshman in college. I'm 18 years old and will be 19 in a few weeks... I should be at the peak of my sexual life but sadly, thats not true. Last night i came back from a party with a girl and we started fooling around in her bed and what not, but in the 30 seconds it takes to pull out a condom and get it on, my penis starts going limp. this happens all the time

Even when i do insert erect it is only partially hard and can even go limp durring sex! i dont know what to do! that happens every time i have sex. i always have to make up an excuse like "im sorry im just really drunk" or "im really stressed out". This has ruined a recent relationship and is killing my self asteem.

I was in a relationship with a girl for 2 years and she didnt want to have sex so from age 15 to 17 i was still a virgin. we would fool around and i would get fully hard but she could never finish me. so i would always end up getting blue balls and had to masturbate after she left. for those 2 years i watched alot of porn and masturbated atleast once a day. even till today i masturbate between 5 to 10 times a week.

I really need your help and suggestions.
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replied April 14th, 2008
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This is just a possibility, but I've heard it mentioned often before and see from my view point of what I've learned in classes that it is possible. Bluntly speaking, one possibility of why you would go limp during sex, asides from anxiety, stress, alcohol, etc, is that your penis basically got used to ejaculating via masturbation. Frequent masturbation could cause this because the penis requires the same degree of stimulus that you get in masturbation to ejaculate. A vagina, feeling very different from what you've been used to for so often, doesn't quite do it for you.

As I said, this is only what I've heard, but can see it is logical (has to do with nerve ending and action potentials).

I and anybody else commenting are most likely not doctors, so don't take what we say 100% seriously, but my only suggestion that I can think of is, stop masturbating for a significant amount of time and just keep trying to get off with girls.
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replied May 9th, 2008
dude i know what you mean
yo man i am in exactly the same situation. Used to have a girlfriend back in the day for a while, never had a problem getting an erection. She never wanted to have sex or finish me off though. Resulted in me maturbating a lot. Now when i try to hook up with girls im never able to get hard. Dude it must be in our heads. Obviously if we can masturbate and get hard then we don't have erection problems. It must be that were too used to jacking off. I agree with what the guy above stated, dont jack off anymore. Get out of the habit and this could work.
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replied May 27th, 2008
Avoid over masturbation
too much masturbation tends to desensitise the head of the penis and then it is alot more difficult to sustain an erection.
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replied June 17th, 2008
He dude, don’t get depressed. Just chill. Not only are you suffering in this problem, many people are facing this problem like you. I have browsed the net for solutions and have found sites which sell pills like levitra for all this type of issue. I think you can try it !!!!!!
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