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Does this make me homosexual? PLEASE help!

so I''m very confused. I am just coming out of adolescence now, 17 years old. I have always grown up being girly, and having many emotional attachments to men. When i started to hit puberty, and i discovered masturbation, I thought of heterosexual sex, but being exposed to media lead me to discover things like girl on girl stuff, and i began to get very turned on by that throughout puberty. I hear alot of stories about lesbians and how they always knew they were "different" and had crushes on friends or female teachers and things like that, but i never had any of that. I always felt normal and never questioned myself. I have had numerous boyfriends and as I''ve grown up ive become very physically and sexually attracted to them more and more, especially recently with a guy friend of mine who I had serious romantic feelings for and was very turned on by him, all the time. As time is going on, Im finding I no longer fantasize about girl on girl action or womens bodies or any of that, I can fantasize about men and heterosexual sex and get off completely from it.

What I am confused about is maybe the thoughts i had while i was going through puberty mean im going to be gay? Im very scared, as I have always dreamed of finding the man of my dreams, getting married and having a family, and my biggest fear is that im going to become a lesbian and that wont happen for me. It''s turning into a pattern of obsessive thoughts, and im very worried.

Has anyone gone through the same thing? Having those curiousities and fantasies as they were growing up?

I would really appreciate help!! Thank you xoxoxo
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replied April 4th, 2010
Hi there, thank you for posting your question on Ehealthforum. This is not intended as a substitute to visiting your own doctor.

Everybody, if they were to be perfectly honest, goes through a transient period of bisexuality. What you describe here is absolutely normal and you have nothing to worry about going into the future. Talk to lots of people about this and they will agree with me.

Dr Andrew Rynne.

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replied October 20th, 2014
My advice would be follow your heart and what makes you happy and feel good and never worry for a minute what other people think, the ones that put you down are unhappy
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replied April 11th, 2010
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It is completly normal to go through a stage during adolescence. I have no doubt that you are completly heterosexual so stop freaking out.
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