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do i have to tell him?

Hi, i havent been on in a while, but here goes. I am 18, will be 19 in feb, and i have a 5 month old son called Seth. I left my partner because he was psychologically abusive, and was starting to get violent. Two days later, i found out i am pregnant. I have got a protection order and a parenting order on him, but i dont want to tell him about the baby, nor do i want him on the birth certificate. I am approx 4 wks pregnant. Is it wrong for me to do this. I also want to change my sons name from Seth Hunter Robinson to Seth Hunter Robinson (as a middle name) Hailwood. Do i need his permission for that?
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replied December 1st, 2008
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Id' consult with a lawyer. You need to do what is best to protect you and your children. There is not really a right and wrong---just what you can do in the moment. IF you feel safer or more secure, look into changing Seth's name legally and I'd agree to now allow the new child to carry your Ex's name, either. Are you seeking social services for help, too?
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replied December 1st, 2008
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im not seeking social services, but my lawyer seems to agree with my reasoning, i just feel guilty because i am stopping my children seeing theirm father
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replied December 1st, 2008
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if he is legitimately physically and psychologically violent or abusive, you're doing your kids a favor by proceeding in this direction. you have nothing to feel guilty about. you're protecting innocent children from him. i'll pray for you and your kids.

good luck.
jasmine
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