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Depression - hormones and the like

Hey yall - I am a guy here, trying to get a womans advice around the first trimester end point and trying to get a grip on the issues I am facing. I was dumped by my pregnant fiance just last week and im a wreck because of it. Shes gone as far as to say she doesnt think she ever loved me, kicked me from the house, etc. Calming down, I listened to what I didnt hear through my shock... she felt a ignored, that I wasnt a motivated provider and I wasnt being the partner she needed. Of course this wasnt communicated to me in any way during the time prior but I have even gone as far as cleaning the entire house, on my birthday to surprise her when she got home.

I have talked to many girls regarding deep details and 100% have said it sounds like hormones. No matter how cold, straight faced she was. Because in her mind she believes these small doubts and insecurities have materialized into HE CANT BE A GOOD DAD! HE CANT PROVIDE FOR US!

I have been reassured around week 14 into pregnancy (next week) she will be shielded a bit as the placenta fully forms and the hormones arent going AS crazy.. She will start to miss me and be back in no time.

In the mean time - ive lost my home, my wife, my baby and my family in one of the worst feelings I have ever dealt with. I am going to see a shrink friday to see if i can get some mental stability as its put me to the point of suicide. Any input from an outside source would be helpful.
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replied December 4th, 2017
Hi, and thanks for your query on eHealth forum!

Yes, it is true that hormones do go overboard during pregnancy. Also, sometimes the expectations are not clearly defined. It is also natural to be apprehensive about the child and future security, especially if there is a cause for it. It is very important to communicate clearly. You can start establishing connection with her and reassure her. Also, it may help to speak to someone close to her. Please do see a marriage counselor, and both of you speak about your apprehensions and together find solutions.

Please consult your healthcare provider for further guidance. This reply to your query is just for education and counseling purposes and cannot be an alternative to actual visit and treatment by a doctor who can examine you. Hope this helped you in making an informed decision about your health. Take care!

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