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Im 16 and ive been trying to get pregnant for 2years and 8 months. I recently found that my doctor was just telling me stuff to get to his next patient. i went to Vanderbilt friday. They said they think i have endometriosis and wanted to do another laperoscopi. I could make it that far this time so i made an appointment to see another obgyn. What could it be, i mean, making my periods so heavy and so painful. It feels like im having to push like everything out, then the blod clots. Stds are out of the question ive been checked several times including friday at vanderbilt. could this possibly be whats hindering me from pregnancy? im eating right. i take vitamins. please help..
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replied June 1st, 2009
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It id doubtful your doctor just tells you stuff so he can move onto his next patient. You can request your medical records from his office, it will show the tests he has ordered and what the results of those tests were. If you don't trust your current doctor, see a different doctor.

You seem to have a whole host of issues with your period. Do you have endometriosis? You could. Can scar tissue (that is what endo is) cause your tubes to become bound up? Yes. But if you are telling your doctors that you have been trying to get pregnant for 2 years and 8 months, why aren't they testing you to make sure your Fallopian tubes are open? Or a follicle stimulating test?


Why all the STD tests? If you and your boyfriend are together and faithful, you have no need for these tests and they are a waste.
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replied June 1st, 2009
I had endometriosis and had the samethings as you. I had extremely heavy bleeding, crapms where I would cry and not get out of bed. Finally, I went to an actual OBGYN not a nurse practitioner. Come to find out, I had ovarian cysts along with it.

She told me there are 2 options to get rid of it not including surgery. They were birth control and getting pregnant. It is harder to get pregnant when you have, but it is not impossible. You could have a more complicated pregnancy.

On the other hand, this runs in my family and my sister got pregnant. She decided to just get the surgery and literally 5 weeks later found out she was pregnant. It happened about a week after her surgery.

It just depends on what you think. I got pregnant 2 times with mine but they ended in a miscarriage so it depends on how bad you want it. I am completely against surgery and medication but was forced to get it after my pills didn't work.

Since I got it, I have been pain free, cramps are bareable and I hardly ever need to use a tampon higher than regualar at the height of my cycle. Downside is I have to take my birth control until I am ready to have kids or it can come back within 2-3 cycles. I heard with getting pregnant, it hardly comes back. My sister got hers back after her 1st daughter, didn't get it after 2nd, but got pregnant again within 9months.
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replied June 1st, 2009
They also tried to tell me that I had just about every STD possible until I went to an actual OBGYN. You need to refuse them it's a huge waste of money. They will tell you that it could be they weren't showing up at first and now they have matured and will. It's a bunch of bull.
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jp1221,
that makes no sense, why would they say that? what symptoms were you having?

allielana2893,

doctors disagree with each other, i had a bleeding problem and i had to get a second opinion from a 2nd ob/gyn dr.


Endometriosis is the development of uterine-lining tissue outside the uterus. Symptoms include abdominal pain, heavy periods, and infertility. Treatments include pain relievers, birth control pills, and surgery.

if the doctor said you need surgery, then i suggest you get it. someone on this site said that a herb called palmetto stopped her menstrual cramps. birth control also helps.
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i had my son when i was 20y.o and i am 32, and he is 13 years old now.

life has been so hard, being a single mom. i love my son but having a child is like getting a life sentence in jail. you have to commit your whole life to this person.you should try to live life and do things that's fun, b/c when you have a baby your life will be restricted.

i hope you really think hard about having a baby. some young people think of the glamour, and then leave their babies with the grandmother, so they can go out.
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I had extremely heavy and painful periods, and I just became pregnant. so It is possible. Dont think you cant just because of that. But sometimes painful periods can be from ovarian cysts and ovarian cancers and stuff. I would definitly check that out. My mom wasnt supposed to have kids because of her cysts, but now she has 8!!!
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replied June 1st, 2009
Ok first of all why are you trying to get pregnant???? You are 16 and I don't think you really now how hard it is to have a baby to take care of!!! You really need to think about stuff before you do anything that will change your life forever!!!!! Any way about the endo yes it can stop you from having children but I wouldn't worry about having children right now I would wait until you are married and you can take care of that child!!! No one else just think who really would be taking care of your child??? When in school, work, going out with your friends ect....???? You willn't bc you have to support that child and go to school! Wouldn't you rather be in your 20s and get married and have a baby! That way you have the choice to stay home and take and really spend time with that child???
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allielana2893,
why don't you think about doing things the right way. finish high school, college, get a good job, have fun in life enjoy your youth, find a nice guy, a house, get married. bla, bla, bla.

i was told to get my own place when my son was months old. my son's father wasnt trying to find a job, but play nintento, i got a studio, when ever i went to work i had to pay for childcare. my family was no help. i cried to God everyday b/c i didnt have much money to pay for things i needed. it was so hard being a single mom. i wish i did things the right way.
like i said before im 32 years old and i missed out on a lot of things, and life was hard taking care of my son. he's a teenager now & i have to deal with the puberty and mood swings. it never ends!
what's your plan? whose planning on watching your baby while you go to school?
are you in love and your heads are in the clouds or something?
do you want a baby to keep your boyfriend?
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replied June 2nd, 2009
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Wow. I have no comment. I think everything I say will just be beating a dead horse, so to speak.

Good luck to you, my dear! And, dare I say it, perhaps your inability to conceive at this point in time is actually a sign from the fates?
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replied June 2nd, 2009
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well, looks like toasted trash is at it again. making young girls feel bad about the decisions they choose to make, and acting as if she really knows what she is talking about and cating as if she knows how prepared the girls are for the baby they want. If she was fated not to have children, God would not have given her this desire to conceive. Did you ever learn from anyone, the quote "follow your dreams". This girl has been in a steady relationship, is financially responsible and stable, and seems to me that she is dedicated to have a child. Im sure that you spend your lovely time going out of your way just to put your word in on every teen pregnancy situation. Unless you yourself has been there, or you personally know the user posting this forum, I would suggest you leave your nose out of it. Let the girls do as they please. Sure, a little advice wouldnt hurt anyone, but putting a person down on what they wish to do with their lives, is about as low as a person can get. I hope that you learn to read through your posts, and edit them before you post them, leaving out the rude, disrespectful things that you put into them. But do as you wish, just as the girl posting this forum will!
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Mariee2009 wrote:
well, looks like toasted trash is at it again. making young girls feel bad about the decisions they choose to make, and acting as if she really knows what she is talking about and cating as if she knows how prepared the girls are for the baby they want. If she was fated not to have children, God would not have given her this desire to conceive. Did you ever learn from anyone, the quote "follow your dreams". This girl has been in a steady relationship, is financially responsible and stable, and seems to me that she is dedicated to have a child. Im sure that you spend your lovely time going out of your way just to put your word in on every teen pregnancy situation. Unless you yourself has been there, or you personally know the user posting this forum, I would suggest you leave your nose out of it. Let the girls do as they please. Sure, a little advice wouldnt hurt anyone, but putting a person down on what they wish to do with their lives, is about as low as a person can get. I hope that you learn to read through your posts, and edit them before you post them, leaving out the rude, disrespectful things that you put into them. But do as you wish, just as the girl posting this forum will!


Marie, how do you know she is financially 'responsible'? In fact, at 16 years old a teenager has only just gained the ability to be employed (at least in my state 16 is the age of W-2 work). Are you aware how much health insurance COSTS? And rent and food and diapers - I'm not even talking daycare, which can cost around $1,000 a MONTH for an infant (up to one year). At 16, you cannot work enough to pay for all that - even if you have a boyfriend/significant other, these expenses are too much.

Shouldn't 16/17/18 year old instead be in school, going to dances, going on dates, spending half of Saturday sleeping in? Shouldn't a 16/17/18 year old work to spend their own money on themselves and having fun? Because I'll tell you this, real life comes fast enough and lasts for the rest of your life. So think of all the years of your life and quadruple them and then multiply that by 2 and that is how long you'll have to be a 'responsible' person. You cannot ever go back to being an irresponsible teen. This is your one shot. You are giving that up for what? Can't you have that in 5 years? 10 years? You can... I'm just saying, you are rushing and there isn't any need.

FYI: I have personally 'been there'. And my advice is to wait to have a child.
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replied June 3rd, 2009
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Well, Mable, if you would have read her post. You would see that her and her boyfriend both have jobs, and have been taking care of a baby together ALREADY since the child was a few weeks old. She is experienced, and seems well aware of what the costs are. I am pretty sure that if she is already taking care of a child, then she doesnt have any danced or dates to give up. And why would she go on dates, her parents are signing for her to get MARRIED. She is apparently sure of what she wants, and only asked for advice, not a lecture on what a mistake she is making, so please, keep the negative advice to a minimum, because honestly, your not doing anyone any good. You and others who like to critisize are only bringing stress and anger to the teenage reader. And since you have personally beenthere, just explain how hard it was, maybe it will change her mind. But she has made it clear she already knows how to take care of a child, and has enough money. So, dont out her down on the things that she CLEARLY stated that she can do.

And I am not trying to personally give you a "!**@! fest" but I am simply trying to defend my opinion, and I understand that you will do just the same
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replied June 3rd, 2009
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She has posted these things in other forums by the way. I am sorry if you havent read her other posts
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Actually, at age 16 she has to GO TO COURT to get married. It isn't simply a matter of her parents signing anything. A judge needs to approve the reasoning of why a 16 year old child should be getting married.

Oh, and by the way, I was a 16 year old married woman. So I'm not talking about things I don't know. And yes, you can think you don't want to go to dances or even the graduation or prom or anything like that. When you are older, it is the thing you didn't do that you will regret later in your life. The things you cannot go back and do. Can you have a child when you are 25? YES! Can you go to your high school prom when you are 25? NO. See how that works?

Even if she is working, she cannot be working enough hours (there are laws about children working) to financially pay for a child.

My advice will still be WAIT TO HAVE A CHILD until you are no longer a child yourself.
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replied June 3rd, 2009
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Re: Cramps & Heavy periods ?
AllieLana2893 wrote:
Im 16 and ive been trying to get pregnant for 2years and 8 months.


Okay, wait... you started trying to have a child at 14? Shocked
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AllieLana, whoah! Slow down! You are putting the cart before the horse so to speak. Are you still living at home? You're parents agreed to sign for you to get married in October? So it is safe to assume that they agree with you trying to conceive? Your fiance has a college degree but he is working construction? You are not finished with school? If your physician wants to do another lap you are not willing to do this? Endometriosis can only be diagnosed with a lap. It is not common for girls or women to have pap smears every 3 months. Are they thinking something else is going on? Your parents agree to you marrying early so why not just let mother nature take its coarse? Yes, taking care of a sibling does give you some experience but it does not prepare you for motherhood. If both your physicians have cleared you then why not just let things happen in due time? It is rare that anyone is financially stable to bring a child up. You have plenty of time to build a marriage and then........
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replied June 11th, 2009
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But if she has to go to court to get married, wouldnt a judge see that as a good thing? Im not sure how it would work, but if she is pregnant, isnt it better to be married to have something holding them together. Also, even on religious grounds, though she had sex before marriage, I am sure it is better she gets married before the birth of the child she wishes to conceive.
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replied June 12th, 2009
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A pregnancy is not a good reason to get married. A marriage won't hold two people together anymore than a child will. It will be one more thing to look back on and regret. The divorce rate in this country is amazing.

These aren't things you should rush into. Marrying someone doesn't magically solve anything. It doesn't make you love them more, or them you. If one of you decides you're unhappy, a marriage won't cure that. All it will do is complicate things if one of you decides to leave the relationship. And honestly, would you want your partner chained to you legally so s/he can't leave? That's not my idea of a happy relationship.

You can't undo becoming a parent. Short of giving him/her up for adoption, you are responsible for that child for at least the next 18 years. If they have special needs, you'll be responsible for them much longer. The financial needs a child has can not be easily met with a job acquired at the tender age of 16. A minimum wage job and a lack of a high school diploma will not get you far. You will be doggy-paddling in the ocean at best and drowning at worst.

Please ask yourself - what is the rush? Will things be the same or better in 5 years? If so, why not wait 5 years? If they'll be worse in 5 years, what would getting married or having a baby now do to prevent that? Babies add to the stress on relationships, they don't cure them.

What are your reasons for wanting a baby right now? Can you 100% honestly say that you can give your baby EVERYTHING s/he needs? Without relying on your parents? Without living under someone else's roof? Without borrowing money or requiring free child care from a relative? If you can't afford it now, there's little hope you'd magically be able to afford it in 9 months.

There's a saying: start as you mean to continue. Don't wait until something happens to be responsible. Go to school. Get your education. Enjoy your relationship without trying to rush forward. If he really loves you, he'll still be there in a few years. Get a job and save every penny you can. Work on becoming independent now. See if you can do it BEFORE you bring a child into this world. Keep asking yourself "Great! What else can I do?" Push yourself further. Expect more of yourself.

The big steps in life should never be rushed. Not if you want them to be successful.
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Im not sure how she feels about her boyfriend/fiance. but if they are happy, and have been together 3 years already, and their parents approve, I see no reason why they shouldnt marry. It really is better for a child to have married parents in my opinion. Seems like the right way to go if they are truely happy and understand what MARRIAGE means. Not all kicks and giggles, but working things out in ANY tough situation.
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