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Caught my girlfriend watching porn

When I first began dating my girlfriend I told her I am against her or me watching porn when official. I think it's on the same level as cheating almost to get off to other people when in a relationship. If she's dating me and is thinking about getting off to other people, she should break up with me. Anyway, she promised she wouldn't. Recently I found out she has been watching it the whole time lying to me. I can't get the thought of her getting off to other people out of my head. That and she lied so the trust is broken. It's only porn now, but what about in 10 years? Skyping nude with some guy? The point is I can't get over it and I have to break up with her. I told a few of my close friends and they think it's a dumb reason to dump someone. I understand not everyone has my beliefs, but she agreed and promised me, then was lying the whole time.
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replied March 21st, 2013
Good for you Rick23 for sanding up on your convictions!

You deserve someone who cna give you their whole heart and many people comproise on that. Im sure that you meet her soon.

By the way, i don't think it's a dumb reason, and stand with you 100%.

Frist, she shouldn't be giving her heart away to anybody but you. Getting off to someone through porn is doing that.

Second, she not only lied to you, but continued to throughout the whole time. The lying in itself aside from the porn is reason enough to be concerned.

So i think you're friends are wrong, and salute you for standing up for what you believe.
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replied March 21st, 2013
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Hello,

Your beliefs are admirable and sticking by them is good.
I too consider porn to be bad for people generally and it is really poisonous for some.

You will discover it is hard work trying to live by ideals and age and experience usually find the young idealist learning to bend because it is difficult to maintain the effort. Certainly I advise you allow some room for normal human weakness in your world because as time moves on it can become very lonely being the only perfect man around; or should that be the only man demanding perfection...

Good luck!
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