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Can't get over girlfriend having sex with another

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I met a girl 7 months ago and I fell for her. A month later I made her my girlfriend. We hanged out most of the time, I was never so in love before...soon a thought came,"ohh, this is what called love!". I then asked her if she is a virgin! She straight away said yes and vice versa. Okay now then 1& half month of together...I started the talk about having sex and then she denied saying sex after marriage! I was a bit doubtful so decided to tell her that virginity is something which cannot be hidden etc...few mins later she said she got something to say. Then she said she wasn't a virgin! A thunder struck straight through my brain! I'm into pieces! And after deep thinking i finally thought i can get over if I have sex with her! So we had sex and after that a several times. Now I'm still after several sex I can't get over. The picture of her with someone else makes me crazy. I'm so doomed. Please suggest me what should I do to get over this. I often have depression due to this reason.

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replied March 29th, 2018
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Welcome to e health forum.

You need to clear your mind about the concept of virginity and understand that you cannot own another person in this life.

Having a girlfriend, wife or any other form of relation lasts only as long as both of you are interested in each other and work to maintain the relationship.

Once there are various factors due to which the relationship breaks down, then it is unlikely that a couple would continue the relationship. Hence it is unlikely that everybody would be able to have a single relationship in their life, unless they are patient enough and committed enough to keep working on the relationship, even if it brings them sorrow, trouble or depression. Most people in such situation would not like to carry the heavy burden for the rest of their lives. Hence they would break up and move on in life.

So, as explained ... if you find someone whom you feel compatible and comfortable with, then you should not mind if she has been in any prior relationships and consider the fact that she is interested to be with you at the moment. Dwelling on the past would not let you enjoy the present.

If you need help to clear your thoughts, it would be recommended to consult a psychiatrist who can provide proper counseling and help.

I hope this helps.

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