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I'm 18, I waited until 18 to be sexual and it's been about 8 months since I've started to be sexual. I've run into a few problems that have bothered me and sometimes make me worry a bit.
1 of them being that I have never physically been able to really pleasure myself. I've never had or used toys and even though I've tried masturbating, it doesn't work. I don't feel pleasure from it, nor satisfied. If anything, I just get more frustrated, sexually and in myself. Books, hentai, my boyfriend, all turn me on, but as for physically pleasuring myself, I've tried and failed. As of yet I've never been able to make myself cum.

The second problem led into a very embarassing talk with my boyfriend. I can't feel myself cum. I feel satisfied after sex and (the embarassing part) one time asking my boyfriend if I had come because I couldn't feel it. He'd assured me I had and he's been around the bend a few times, enough to know. Yet I can't feel it, and I've never had an orgasm, which I know isn't all that uncommon. Not feeling myself cum though, like not being able to make myself cum, worries me.

Is there something I need to know or is this normal in some sort of sense?
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First Helper LilVixen

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replied March 11th, 2010
Welcome to the ehealthforum. I am glad to help you out.

I can understand your agony. In your case, it looks like you are not able to orgasm because of psychological causes or hormonal problems.

Changes in the hormone levels can also cause dryness of vagina and hence anorgasmia(lack of orgasm).

Other causes are stress and anxiety, alcohol and drugs, relationship issues and medicines like blood pressure medications, antihistamines and antidepressants.

Talk to your partner openly about any fears or apprehensions, eat nutritious healthy food, exercise regularly and cut down on smoking or alcohol if you are taking it.

Also ask your partner to indulge in plenty of foreplay or use a water based lubricant. If still a problem, then please get your hormonal assay done form an endocrinologist.

It is very difficult to precisely confirm a diagnosis without examination and investigations and the answer is based on the medical information provided.

For exact diagnosis, you are requested to consult your doctor. I sincerely hope that helps. Take care.

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replied April 10th, 2010
confused sooo much .. need help asap, vagina, cant feel cumming
my girlfriend cant feel herself cum but can feel orgasm... i don''t understand this.. is this normal? .. i have to finger till she orgasms which can take 20 minutes at the most really.. she says it annoys her cause she really wants to feel herslf cum.. in the middle of fingering she just randomly stops feeling it.. but feels a huge jolt of pleasure and starts to get really close to cumming..

but when she actually cums and i go to take my fingers out but she says she didnt know she came and wants me to keep going till she orgasms cause she says she cant feel herself cum ... help me out please asap... does she have a problem?..
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replied June 16th, 2011
Find the right mix, don't panic
Hi. I used to have the same problem for more than 7 years, my first orgasm was two years ago, I was 27. In my experience, my problem wasn't hormonal or psychological, I just had't found the right combination of stimuli. In my case, I need a potent vibrator in my clitoris, in full speed, for over twenty minutes, while watching hard-core hentai with gang-bang, tentacles, rape, etc (soft-core normal hentai won't do, neither will regular porn, since stories are unimaginative, actors are dull and I feel guilty promoting a business where actual people could get herpes or AIDS). I suggest you find out what kind of sexual material turns you on, no matter how twisted, and buy a potent vibrator... with different speeds... good luck.
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replied April 4th, 2012
Sexual problem
Hi, I am 23 years old. I don't feel the need of masturbation yet. Even I cannot think of sexual activities with my boy friend. Some times I don't feel like imagining od sex with him? He will become my fiance within few days.Is it a serious matter or happens generally ? I am very worried about it.
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replied June 28th, 2013
Hi I have the same problem. I can not feel my self cum but my sexual partners in the past say I do cum and they are fairly experienced. I don't know what to do or what is wrong with me I have had one experience were he was fingering and I all of a sudden felt the erg to pee and I asked him to stop but that was only once help please!
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replied April 1st, 2014
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replied April 2nd, 2014
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I do not know what your age is -- but you need to have your hormone levels checked.. that would be uour first step to do..
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