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Broke my hand in anger. Boyfriend ruining pregnancy.

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I thought I had the loveliest boyfriend possible, always treating me to things, telling me I'm beautiful, telling me he loves me; when I fell pregnant 10 weeks ago although it wasn't planned, I was happy and he seemed to be too. However the last couple of weeks I've discovered things about my boyfriend that have made me feel as low as it is possible to feel. First of all I discovered he'd been going on porn - a lot. This is something he promised he'd cut out at the start of our relationship saying he didn't need it anymore now he had someone to love. The arguments settled and a week later I thought everything was fine. Then I discovered he'd spent the past 2 weeks smoking weed with his friend every single time I'd been at work, it made me feel sick and betrayed. It's another thing he used to do and swore he'd cut out. He made me go so crazy that I've actually broken my hand punching a fire wall. I've had several panic attacks the last couple of days. However the icing on the cake is that I found out a couple of months a go he'd been texting this girl behind me back, he claims it was innocent and I believe he hasn't cheated on me (mircale I believe anything he says) but there's just something wrong about it. I feel like I'm at the bottom of a deep pit of loneliness, lies and deception. I'm stuck with this baby inside me and I've never felt so horrible in my life Sad he swears he's so sorry and he's going to do everything in his power to make things right, but I just don't know what to believe anymore. Do I keep taking chances for the sake of the baby? The way I'm feeling mentally must be so harmful for my unborn child Sad
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First Helper User Profile HarleyStarlet

replied September 24th, 2011
Run, don't walk, for the nearest exit. If you think it's bad now, wait until baby arrives. You are responsible for another life now, not just your own. You are not "stuck with this baby inside" you. You made a choice to get pregnant when you failed to use protection. One doesn't fall pregnant. Now take responsibility and raise the child or give it up to someone who will.
This is a life changer either way. Get out of this toxic relationship. If you keep the baby you've got to commit yourself to doing whatever is best for the child. If you give it up, you've got to take a look at your life choices to avoid making the same mistakes over and over.
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replied October 5th, 2011
Hey Harlett,

How are things now can i ask how old you and bf are? I am 32 and had children with my ex it didnt work out but it sounds like there is some immaturity in your relationship and that in itself may not mean you both cant grow up...still together.

You punching something pregnant is not cool not for you or for baby you must look after yourself x It's hard to learn new ways to cope but baby comes first.
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