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My boyfriend of a year left me. Everything was amazing, and so perfect. We got engaged at our anniversary date, and I think it may have triggered Mania. It also doesn't help that the summer also tends to trigger it as well. He told me that "We don't have much in common" and eventually it changed to "I was never in love with you". He told me he needs space away from me, and that he doesn't want to be my friend until sometime in the future. It just doesn't make any sense to me, because he told me how much he loves me every day. Even after we broke up, he told me that I was one of the most amazing people he has ever been with, and cares about me so much.

I have unfortunately been having a really hard time giving him his space. We have been broken up for a month now, and this whole month I have been trying my best to give him space, but its really difficult, and I am going to continue to try.

I honestly don't know what to think anymore. I love him, and I let him know that I really are about him and that I am there for him. But he ignores my texts and calls, and he tells me that he does not love me, and does not want to get back together with me. I am not sure if it is because of his bipolar disorder, or if it is because of cold feet, or that he really doesn't love me at all. (He told me that his BP is unstable right now, but claims that everything he is saying is how he really feels)

It just doesn't make sense that he wouldn't love me though, because we spent every moment together, and he expressed his love for me very frequently. I am really scared of losing him, because he means a lot to me.

I am trying my best to give him space, and possibly only send him a text once a month, just to let him know I care about him, and that I am there for him.

Someone please give me some advice. I am so hurt by some of the things he has said to me, and I am trying my best to not take them at heart. Is he aware of the things he is saying? Or does he actually mean what he is saying to me? Is he just pushing me away? I don't know a whole lot about BP, and I was just seeking some advice, or some stories.

I just hope that one day, he will talk to me, and let me know what happened.
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replied June 30th, 2011
PLEASE consider this
I know what you are going through. My heart hurts for you. BUT, you need to leave this man, NOW, and never look back. He will hurt you EVEN WORSE in the future. Trust me. My fiance and I had a fairytale life, we did everything together, we had such a connection. Granted he had an episode a few months into our relationship but we worked past it, and I eventually got over the mean, hateful things he said. We had a cute little house that I painted and renovated. We watched movies every weekend and ate dinner together every night. We enjoyed drinks on the back porch and talked for hours. During all this, he would randomly say, 'I love you baby, you know that?' and my heart soared. I had never been happier.

I am now 7 1/2 months pregnant with his child, and a bout of third trimester morning sickness triggered his mania a month and half ago. My life has been hell ever since. He has accused me of things that my loving, supportive fiance would NEVER say. He has called me names and said things about my pregnant body that will damage me forever. This from a man who for the past 2 years has been EVERYTHING to me, loving, generous, kind, telling me I'm beautiful, intelligent, that I'm the love of his life, that didn't know what he'd do without me. Now, he is without me, and by his choice. We had a small argument, my hormones flared, I said some things I didn't mean -- but he TOTALLY flipped. Its like walking on eggshells, and I can't have a life like that with a newborn son. He locked me out of our home that I worked so hard on, pregnant. He told me I wasn't welcome, in the home we were preparing for our baby. He told me I tried to kill him, that I didn't care about our baby, that I was a w*ore and that he would just get a DNA test...while he goes out and parties and pays for hookers. I NEVER EVER imagined this man who I shared so many special moments during the last 6 months would ever do this. I left to go to my parents for a while, hoping he would get it together. I came back to our home and he had trashed it in drunken anger. Our neighbors told me he wasn't safe. There was used condoms everywhere and a woman's writing on the calendar on the fridge....and the countdown to my due date was erased. I cannot describe the pain I felt. This man who told me he would support me, take care of me, that he would never betray me and our son....turned into the most hateful, ugly person I've ever been around. It is scary and heartbreaking. I can't list the hateful things he did and said in a matter of a week. He called the police on me. He called my parents and told them I was out of control. He told me I was mentally unstable and he couldn't be around that anymore. He made hurtful comments about our sex life, which we both always agreed was fantastic. He has denied our son. He has accused me of killing our son. He refused my calls when he knew I was in danger of sleeping in a homeless shelter for the night. He had sex with other people, in our HOME, when I was gone for merely a week.

This is the nightmare that is bipolar.

Please, get out now before you become more attached, make more memories, or start a family. I know its hard. I sit here with nothing but my son to look forward to, no money, no home, completely relying on my parents because of what my fiance allowed his bipolar to do. I loved him with EVERY FIBER of my being. I miss him. But he will ultimately destroy my life if I let him. I can't fix him. Dear God, I want to, but I cannot. Please feel free to email me anytime.
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replied July 19th, 2011
wow thats a really encouraging story. in my relationship i am the one that has the bipolar and all the other problems....i get scared all the time that i will do or say sumthing he will leave and i will never see him again. so it just goes to show me that i need to work harder to keep it under wraps......u are a strong women for making the decisions that you made for the good of yourself and your child and i admire that.. good luck on the rest of your journey through life and may god bless you and your child! have a blessed day
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replied June 30th, 2011
Hi Both of you Michelle is so right Seriphym this is bipolar it is absolutely awful!! I was due to get married at the end of this year after 4 years with with now ex fiance. We lived together and one day completely out of the blue he left and threw our whole relationship away!! He was my whole world he had told me everyday that I was his soul mate the one his life etc and then like an alien had taken over his body he said the most cruellest nastiest things he told me he was a gutless spineless individual didnt want to get married or have a mortgage that wasnt him!! He left me to pay to pay a massive morgage on my own has given me no help before he left he was talking about having children!!!! He is now in therapy I sit here in disbelief that he actually did all this the lovely person that I thought I knew could never have betrayed me like this!!! Get OUT NOW AND RUN VERY FAST if I knew that I would have had to go through this ordeal years ago I would have never gone out with him and certainly never got engaged! I dont know how I will ever get over this my heart goes out to you both message me anytime we have to stick together and help each other x I love him so so much but I cant fix him
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replied June 30th, 2011
"I sit here in disbelief that he actually did all this the lovely person that I thought I knew could never have betrayed me like this!!!"

I feel the same exact way. I'm not trying to sound condescending at all, but be glad you don't have children/and/or pregnant with this man's child. I will have to deal with my bipolar ex for the next 18 years. Someone I loved SO much...would have done anything for...has done and said practically everything I feared the most in a relationship. I can't explain the sick, numb feeling I get every time I wake up. I wish I could say time or therapy will help your ex....it won't. Bipolar only gets worse with age. At least your ex admits he has a problem. Mine...puts the blame on everyone but himself. Mainly me. *I* am the one who is mentally unstable. *I* am the one who threw our relationship away...when we only had a small argument most couples would get over in a few days.

I honestly think that if I stay with him, or go back to him, I will end up just as crazy as he is. Bipolars are intelligent, manipulating, and sly. An unmedicated bipolar who drinks? A ticking time bomb. And me and my son are paying the price.
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replied July 20th, 2011
Frankly a reponsible bipolar person will tell you up front, no children period. I have bipolar. And I will not have any children. There are women who also do not want that. Despite the hype you hear sometimes, a reponsible bipolar knows how bad it is and does not want to pass the genes on (They know now it is more than one gene) Yea I have a PhD, big deal. Yes I went to the top of stae government when I was 29. (Then I saw that working for politicians will not be good for me.) I would give all my degrees back and leave my unversity job, if I could just not have bipolar and take a simple job being a bus driver. 16 yearts of age was my last year without it. I have had it now for more than 30 years and it only gets worse. Almost every day, I think why did they stop me when I was 19 and resolved to shot myself? I do not believe a fair God would punish ill people who sought relief. But a fair God woudl not give illness and war to people. I figure God really is not in control of everything. (There is the spirit of good and the spirit of bad at work in this universe.) Then it makes more sense. I have been to the best docs,the worst docs and the all so arrogant and stupid social workers, who could not balance a chemistry equation to save their life. I went to see one of the best docs in New York. That was more than 20 years ago. I never drink. Other bipolar relatives have. The bottom line is he said it would get much worse in my 50s. He is right. Bipolars do not achieve out of joy. They achieve out of necessity or they die. And they need something they can do by themselves, such as writing. They constantly have to show to themsleves that they are worthy of being alive. Having someone love them should help them and it does and they shoudl love back. But it is not enough. My older brother has done more with his life. But he always hypo-manic. One of his sons has the bipolar that I am familiar with. I feel for him. He is going to have a hard life.
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replied August 1st, 2011
i have it and i will have kids and i do not believe one illness will control my life. i am not manic right now nor am i depressed. i see a psychiatrist bi-weekly and I think that it helps. having a good friend support group helps. not putting myself into stressful situations helps. bi-polar disorder does not mean the end of my family's name (no kids as you suggest)
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replied July 1st, 2011
Every relationship is different, even if there are similarities. I feel as though if you truly love someone you will be there for them no matter what, but you also have to take into account loving yourself. You must love and respect yourself to truly love another. I know exactly what you are going through. You can look at all of my previous posts. Ive been with my BP man for a year and a half. Just 6 weeks ago he broke it off with me yet again. Telling me "he needed to get himself back", "needed space", "loved me only as a friend". I too tried to give him space, let him know i Loved him and that i was there for him. He ignored me for over a month. And I had given up, I started to move on. I was so heartbroken, I didn't think I would hear from him again, and was just as confused as you. Did he really not love me? Or was this just the bipolar? Well.. Its definitely bipolar, and possibly borderline personality disorder. Hes back. he called me out of the blue crying, telling me how he missed me so much, and he tried to live without me and couldnt. I was hesitant to even put myself in a vulnerable position, but I fell right back. Here was the man I fell in love with again. He was no longer cold. He Can change overnight. It was like a switch just flipped and he was madly in love with me again. Wants to get engaged! Move in together. Making plans again. In my mind I can not commit to these things,bc deep down I know he is unreliable. It kills me to know this. My heart loves him so deeply, but my mind is telling me no, its not right. Hes going to change again. And I was right within one week, he needed space again. Broke up over text, within 24 hours called crying saying he did infact love me more than anything.. Bipolar relationships are so tough. I don't believe they want to hurt us. I referred my Bf to this website. He was amazed at the similarities betw us and other posts. He even admits its crazy how he can just flip. But when he does its like he feels its the right thing to do. He feels as though hes empty and needs to get himself back. But he does deep down love me and knows it. Hes just as confused as I am. I think first you need to decide how if this something you are going to be able to tackle. relationships are hard enough, tackling bipolar disorder is an emotional rollercoaster. You need to be strong, and be able to take care of yourself first. He will be back. I promise you that. If your relationship was truly as perfect as you imagined, it probably was. Just know that today is not the end of the world, it is just the beginning of any life you want to live. I feel sometimes we dwell on the drama of these incidences and instead of giving it so much life, you should give yourself a life instead. Make personal goals, And just be the best person you can be. Everything else will fall into place. If its meant to be, then it will be.
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replied July 1st, 2011
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I could have written all above nearly word by word. Only the circunstances change, the behaviour is the same. Im away from the man who promised to take care of me, who was going to give me ' a lot of love and care', who was 'my husband' and who was going to spend the rest of his life with me. Now he doesnt love me, only as a friend, and keeps writting cold emails telling me he does not love me. The first time he broke up he was so strange that he wanted to say goodbye at the underground station, one of each side of the barrier.he took some weeks to be back, but one saturday morning he phoned me again and was back to normal, I could sense by the voice, and we stayed togehter again for some more months, when he broke up again over something stupid. We are still separated.
The inconsistencies were too great. For ex, he said our relationship was not only love or sex, it was given by God to us. He said he took years to know what real sex was (with me). Some time later, he said our sex life was no good and he had indeed had better sex elsewhere!
Im quietly waiting for him to be back, but I dont know if I can go on with this.
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replied July 3rd, 2011
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Well, you are certainly not alone. When I first met her, within a few months, she kept asking me to get married. I kept telling her that I loved her, but we should get to know each other better first (marriage was pretty much a necessity, since she was Canadian and I was American).

Finally, after fourteen months I asked her, but in a way that really upset her (I can understand why the way I asked hurt her). She would not speak with me for two weeks until I flew up to see her and ask her again. I thought she was just being a typical woman overreacting.

We got engaged and she was so happy. About five weeks later she called me up on my birthday and started freaking out about how she was too young to get married. She was experiencing many symptoms of hypomania the whole time (but I was too ignorant to know it). Finally, after being on an emotional roller-coaster for over a month, she decided that she wanted to work things out.

That was my first taste of a full blown, full length episode, and that was just the "mild" hypomanic version where the most severe symptoms were paranoia (she was having feelings that everyone was talking about her, like she was "youtube famous" for some viral video) and racing thoughts (she normally is not super-gregarious, but she started getting very talkative and drinking heavily to slow down).

Now, I have gotten my first taste of the dysthemic/depressive episodes. Maybe she is better now (we have not actually spoken in three months). However, the average length is 12 months for untreated Bipolar II episodes, so I doubt it.

I would not be surprised if in a few months she tells me that this was all a mistake. It really tears at my heart, because I love her, but I am not going to keep going through this over and over again. Of course, I could be wrong. She may be serious about breaking up this time, but the fact that she will not even have a phone conversation with me right now is a pretty good sign that she is episodic (shutting down communication seems to be her MO when she is upset).
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replied July 3rd, 2011
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My bf is also shutting me down, writting ice cold emails, this from a man who had a relationship of one year and a half with me, who would phone me day and night, wanted to go out with me the whole week and weekends,who said and wrote many many lovely things to me.There was no reason why he should change this much, I have done nothing different, I was the same loving self I have always been.Id like to add that Michelle story really got me, I felt incredibly sad that this happened to her because of Bipolar, I thought that I was so alone in my suffering with my bP love, but other people like Michelle is also going through hell.Id love an update from Michelle to see how she is doing.
My ex now wrote to my daughter and said things that are so disloyal to me that I gave him up completely.There was again no reason for that.I only helped him in my life, he took money, never paid,I helped him even from day to day. I was the most loyal girlfriend he could have had and he still accused me of being unfaithfull and of trying to 'buy' him when I gave him things he needed like a mobile phone as a present. Thats how his mind works.
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replied July 6th, 2011
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My Bipolar fiancé left me over 19 times in a 2.5 year period. I finally came to my senses and shut her out completely. You need to do the same....rid yourself of this person for good.

Chris
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replied July 16th, 2011
my husband has left me after 2 yrs of marriage. he left me before and came back 6 months later. we den mars ried.he is on drugs and off his meds says he loves me but not in love with me. he rings old girlfriends, is on swingers sites and hav sex on line. porn and escort sites.i miss my bp husband so much.i wont reply to his calls as it makes me cry for days. my life is shattered. my heart is broken. any advice would be welcome.
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replied July 16th, 2011
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Callah99

My heart goes to you.The description of your husband fits my ex.He loves porn, thinks nothing of it, he says he loves me but is not in love with me, exactly, but is always back. I have strong reason to believe that he is with a woman he met in a bar last year, a woman he calle all sorts of names, saying she was easy, and she is absolutely stupid. He sent me a really manic email two days ago, I cannot even describe it, talking about love in a very smug way, like if he knows everything about it and i know nothing. I think he is really seeing the 'easy life girl' and at the same time writting that Im such a wonderful person, he cares a great, great deal and he is so sad about it all, however he does not feel love.
The fact is, sex for me is sacred, with one person only, for him is a free for all and we disagree basically.I think he is with the woman for sex only. he is a terrible commitaphobic as well. I know Im better off without him, and Ill try harder this time, I told him not to contact me when the little affair wears off like he did last time.
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replied July 20th, 2011
Not all bipolars have learned how to channel that energy that causes these infedelities. If they can learn that that is a false drive, then they cannot learn not to cheat. I have bipolar but I do not do cheat. A way to do it, without cheating is to just read about an activity, without engaging in it. (It is a way to cope with a temporary distraction.) After a limited amount of time get back to work or being with the people that matter. It takes a lot of intelligence on behalf of the person with bipolar to figure these things out. Meds are not enough and so called "therapy" wuill just get you more confused, becuase anything less than an M.D. does not know anything about this. And there are very few good docs.
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replied July 16th, 2011
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Michelle

Id love to email you, like you my heart has been broken in a million pieces, like if bomb has blasted it.I dont have your email, though and dont know how to get it through the site.
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replied July 19th, 2011
It is easy to sit on the outside and say what to do etc. However only you know 100% of the situation. It is hard with your head pointing one way and your heart going in another. However, the best thing would be to move on. You will not change this person. The only thing you can change is how you react to them. It may suck now, but just think would u want the rest of your life to be a rollercoaster? To one day feel like your on the mountain only to the next day be treated like crap?

I was with a bi polar gf for close to 2 years. I finally wrote a mean/hatred email to her. The sad thing is she will come back. They cant keep friends, spouses etc. I just pray that I will not take her back. We broke up prolly close to 10 times over the two years. We would go to dinner, play with her kid from previous marriage (wonder y that didnt last??) etc. Then one day she be like, well i dont know if i like you etc. I got caught in the trap of trying to understand her. Sure, deep down i knew it would never work, but it puzzles the brain of the non bipolar person to be getting mixed signals from week to week. After we broke up we talked everyday, slept with each other on occasion and acted like a couple. All for her being i dont wanna be togehter etc even though i begged u to stay the night and go on a date etc. They see no wrong in their decisions. I was told that she was perfect and it was me that was screwed up. She had been diagnosed BP and would not take Meds. Also drank alcohol. I know she never cheated, bc i was never allowed to leave her side lol. My way out of the situation was to write a nasty letter. She deleted me and my fam off fb immediatley and will not return calls or texts. but if i got the letter i would do the same lol. sad thing is we have deleted each other off fb about 3x a piece. a week or so goes buy, we hang out, east dinner catch a movie, sleep together and suddenly she wants to try again and claims this will last forever. trust me, just run like hell.
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replied July 19th, 2011
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Evan

I know exactly what you mean.We have broken up in March, some days after he wanted to have dinner, during dinner he said we will sleep together again, some days later texts me saying if we were together we would be going travelling, I phoned him and he was sooooooooooooo sweet, wanting to travel with me. We go travelling, we have a great weekend, we hold hands, listen to music, make love. Two days later is his birhtday, we go to eat in a posh restaurant, immediatelly he breaks up again, says goodbuy and now is for good, etc, soon after is phoning again to have lunch Sunday, now Im abroad and he and I talk everyday by email, he says how sad he is that things became like that, I feel sorry too, we are sure going to meet and it will start again. OHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!! If I take him back it wont be long he will start 'I dont love you' and 'I need to be alone'.
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replied July 19th, 2011
Im sure i loved her. But not enough to continue a relationship and marriage. What bugs me is that i am blamed for everything. im the one who is mean. but what she doesnt get is that her action/words/ etc drive the hate outta me. i mean im not gonna sit there and take her attitude. we talked last week about getting back together and had a decent week. then saturday she tells me about a boy she met. and she was like well i thought u and i were just friends. im like yah but didnt we sleep together two times last week and talked about getting back together etc? i had it at that point.
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replied July 19th, 2011
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Yes, I know that line 'I thought we were just friends', he also gives me that even after we start seeing each other again, sleeping together again, etc, so when he says that I feel that there is no point anymore in trying. He can say very different things, once on the phone he said he has feelings for me that are NOT of friendship, that we have been togheter for so long, that he would not abandon me, also emailed me saying he missed me so much, we cannot live apart, he wa eagerly waiting for me and when Im finally in his arms he says coldly ' I dont love you'. ARGHHHHHHHHHHHH!
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replied July 19th, 2011
I feel like crap that i have not heard from her. even though i was miserable with and without her. she would give me the cold shoulder then i would lay back and the na few days later it would be "hey lets meet for lunch" or lets do this tonight etc. they wont end things trust me. like i said they cant keep anyone and use you as as a security blanket. i mean i ripped her a new one with that email. sure i feel bad about it. i dropped her stuff that i had at her house. she was on the couch crying. i just walked out. who knows what will go from her. if history repeats itself, a week or so of no contact and then a sudden call/txt wanting to hang out. then its back in the same rodeo all over again. a month or two of complete happiness on both sides and then a cold shouldr until i give up and walk out
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replied July 19th, 2011
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absolutely the same here, amazing how BP people are similar.He broke up with me in September and met me once more to talk it over, he was SO cold I hardly could recognize him, i remember thinking, his body is the same, I recognize the clothes and the shoes, but where is HE? It took some weeks and I was in a bus coming back from another town and he phoned me like nothing had happened and asked me if I wanted him to get me at the station. I agreed, we went for lunch and so we started again, after he had said that he would never again have anything to do with me. (for no reason). Some months of happiness and he repeats the whole thing, breaks by phone, continues to ask me out, continues to email me, we travel and sleep togheter and are still `separated`in his mind.He still cannot love me, he is very sad about it, but he is feeling something at least. Now I said I wont contact him again, this will change things in his mind.
He said very hurtful things to me completely misterious to my mind, for ex, when he broke with me he said he is open to any woman but not for me. Why, I ask , if we have been together for so long, if he has feelings for me, he said he cares deeply, he said Im wonderful, etc, so why is he not open to me? after he said he is not really open to love (anyone). Contradictory statements, like nearly everything he says. Im now carrying so much hurt that I feel afraid of opening a new email from him in case he is going to hurt me further.Im trying to be separated from him and give him a lot of space.
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replied July 20th, 2011
The point is the body of a person in a cycle is not the same. His brain chemistry has changed. In fact I have learned to feel it in my skull. I've come to know that if have that tingling feeling and do not get extra sleep in some way, I will pay for it later For some odd reason many people (especially social workers, who cannot hold a candle to a nurse, let alone a medical docotr) believe that the heart or stomach or lungs can have sickness but the brain never gets sick. Well it does and it cannot alwas be fixed with talk. The best way to describe bipolar is like having a fever. You cannot think. A fever can be treated with just aspirin. (You cannot just talk someone out of having a fever) I have also had regular fevers that you treat with aspirin. But bipolars feel bipolar illness much worse and it is complex to get competent treatment. When bipolars say they do not want you , etc., they are paranoid of everyone and it does not mean anything. Even if they are receptive of you during those times, they wil be somewhat shy. (It is the chemstry in their head, not rational thinking.) I know it is confusing and I think your posts are justified in their apparent unhappiness. The best relationship I have ever had was with a girl who had lupus. I did not complain about it. I did not expect her to be "normal." But I saw how intelligent, sensitive and good she was and how she knew what life-long illness was. I would help her when the lopus sprung up. (Everyone will get ill in this life, very ill and eventually die.) I never cheated on her in the 10 years we knew each other. But the last 4 years of it I became more distant. There were issues in the family I was born into. And I could not deal with them. If I had let her help me with that, I could have got past that. Once I got that figured out, I realized how much I had been distracted and the price for that.
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replied July 19th, 2011
I admit i get hurt as well. but lately ive just try to be mean back. i know immature. but show them that their actions hurt. give them a taste of their own medicine. i used to find txt mssgs she would send to friends saying how awesome i was, and that she never would know what to do if i ever left, and all these plans of moving in buying a house etc. and then 2 days later be like, im not sure if i can do this. thats y i sent that email. told her i want nothing to do with her, im dropping her stuff off today, and so on. i think we both love our significant other, but it comes to a point of just wanting to understand y sometimes. like i know a long term relationship will never last, but at least can u tell me that you love me etc or y? they tend to forget things as well. such as what they said to u or y it may have hurt u. even last week we where looking at houses and either i was driving to slow or to fast i mean its like what gives. cant win for losing. plus she is not medicated.
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replied July 19th, 2011
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They tend to forget things!!!! I have never seen anything like that. John forgot everything he said to me, forgot that he asked me to be his girlfriend and even said that to my son, forgot that he was going to move with me and help me to do the house, one week we were planning the move, the things we would do, we bought stuff for the house, we planned to travel soon after moving in, etc, and next week he said he was not really move in with me,he was not sure about anything, soon in another email he mentioned how he was looking forward to my good food in our flat, and to be able to sleep together in our own bed, but soon he would say horrible things like he wanted his own bed in the flat, he was not capable of sleeping in a double bed all the time. He even said he would stay in the spare room once, this without any problem between us, just said that calmly while eating in a restaurant apparently in good mood. I nearly died everytime he starte that again, in the end we decided not to move togehter anymore, I even sold the flat I was buying, now he is sorry things went that way.All that was really peculiar, since we have been together for so long, we sleep together in one double bed either in my flat or his or in a hotel, now suddenly he could not sleep in a double bed anymore, even though he was really happy about moving in and having our own home. After he starts that he normally breaks up again.And some time later he comes back like everything is normal and would start talking moving in together again, but I gave up, Im normal.
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