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baah, I don't know why I'm doing this, but here goes...

Ok, so, I'm a 17 year old girl, and I'm basically cursed when it comes to socialising and all that jazz. Needless to say I've never had a boyfriend, not that I could keep one even if I did have one cause I'm SO anxious,boring and lacking in things to say all the time and I always feel like everyone is having a better life than I am.

um...I only have like, one "friend" who I'm drifting apart from pretty fast, because I don't feel like I deserve relationships with other people because I'm just a huge lump of disappointment to everyone, (so I don't put any effort into relationships to avoid being disappointed if they don't work out) and no' one wants to hang around someone who is.. basically mute! (but I'm not actually that quiet -and I suppose can be quite funny?- when I'm with my family for example) but I can't bring myself to open up to anyone outside of them, so I'm just stuck.
Sometimes I think it would be sweet to have a friend(s) to do fun things with but I just can't imagine this ever happening, so a lot of the time I think it would just be easier to spend the rest of my life avoiding all unnecessary human interaction. But then I go back to really craving a friends or a boyfriend or SOMETHING.
I don't know what to do. Sad

/rant over.
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replied August 3rd, 2010
Well At Least You Have Friend Not Like Me Everywhere I Go People Around Are Always Saying Bad Stuff About Calling Me Names Or Whatsoever Plus I Don't Have A Single Friend Who I Can Hang Up With After Work.
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replied March 8th, 2013
would u not try to hang out with people in your work after work i mean
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replied August 4th, 2010
hello dear friend i kinda understand wat u going through some how u remind me of my self am funny and full of life around my famliy they enjoy my company but wen am out if that zone i become quite and gloomy and i bearly smile.. ppl tell me tht alwyes ruin the their mood wen am around its been 2 years i lost my ture slfe for the sake the ppl i have become deppresed for 2 years and now i meet friend out of nower and we r in very good tearms coz unlike other she accepted me the way i am .. and becoz of it i feel much better am 22 never had bf but am not in to love or relationships at all wat am trying say be ur slef dont let other define ur life do sumthing tht u really enjoy even wen ur alone this wat i used to do and i actully enjoyed it trust me in the right time the person u wer waiting for will come and light up ur days . just dont give up Smile
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replied August 4th, 2010
I am in a similar position I'm 22 year old male and my life is basically rough like yours.and I'm alone,isolated and depressed too. Good Look. I hope things get better for both our sakes.
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replied August 4th, 2010
listen to you -- all of you. you're obviously not alone in what you're experiencing. it happens, and it happened to me when i was in high school. outcast from neighborhood kids my age, i stuttered, i had a bad case of acne, and was friendless. and on top of it, depressed and living in an abusive home.

i left home right outta high school. joined the navy at 17 and never looked back. discovered that my abusive home life caused me sooooo much anxiety that i stuttered and broke out. i think the depression stemmed from feeling like an outcast.

i did make some friends in the service, and then in college. THINGS GOT BETTER.

fast forward 20 years - i'm now successful with plenty of friends.

hang in there kiddo's - the answer is there - each situation is different but an answer is there.

don't ever give up.
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replied August 4th, 2010
You honestly sound exactly like me. You can be a totally different person around family, but then go into your shell when around other people. Don't worry; things will get better, just keep trying and don't beat yourself up so much. I know that sometimes when I'm trying to socialize and I do something stupid I just beat on myself for it, but people don't actually notice it as much as you think. Everyone's a little awkard and embarassing at times, it just happens. Eventually you'll learn to move past it and people aren't going to condem you just because you said something silly. Oh, and all those kids out there doing "exciting" things and having a life? Most of the things they do really aren't that exciting. They just think they are. Plus, they do some really stupid stuff and get into real trouble. Once, I was frustrated like you so I hung out with some friends for the first time ever. It was my first "party" and they ended up buying alcohol and stowing it in the car. It was so retarded; believe me, you're not missing out. But you will get over this and have great friends and your own life. Plus you might be upset because you only have a couple of friends, but most likely those friends will be the best friends you'll ever have. I only have two but one is like my sister and the other is my soulmate (my boyfriend). They're my only two friends but no one else gets me like they do. Just encourage yourself now and then to do something you normally wouldn't do. I know I would volunteer to do things I would normally PANIC about just to get myself over it and I would do it quick so I couldn't think about it and back out. It actually kind of worked and I became a lot more open towards people. Don't worry too much about this; it will pass.
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replied August 4th, 2010
hi, girl.

i have the problem that you,but i think that i am not alone.
also like you i quite boring and have few friends.
but i repeat: i am not alone, there are a lot of people like me( you for example.
I think you've taken a big step, posting here.

bye carl
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replied August 4th, 2010
looks like everybody gone through it Smile
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replied August 5th, 2010
I think all of you have social phobia,thats what i have and you all have excatly the same feelings as me..social phobia is not something we grow out of...well, i didnt..have any of you spoken to a doctor?
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replied August 5th, 2010
There are websites that you can google to find friends of your own age. Perhaps you will start off by writing each other online and then when you feel comfortable, you may want to meet them.

You are all too young to feel so alone and isolated and this is the time of your life when you should be having so much fun and enjoy the company of others your age.

Check it out and see if it helps at all. Its not easy to push yourself but really try to do just that. It can change your whole world.

Please don't ever give up. I have made several friends online and it really can work for you.

Good Luck to you all!
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replied August 5th, 2010
I know how you feel I am the exact same way I am scared that I'm gonna be like this for the rest of my life
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replied August 6th, 2010
lonelygirl808 wrote:
I know how you feel I am the exact same way I am scared that I'm gonna be like this for the rest of my life


yeah, me too :/
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replied August 6th, 2010
Dollybru wrote:
There are websites that you can google to find friends of your own age. Perhaps you will start off by writing each other online and then when you feel comfortable, you may want to meet them.

You are all too young to feel so alone and isolated and this is the time of your life when you should be having so much fun and enjoy the company of others your age.

Check it out and see if it helps at all. Its not easy to push yourself but really try to do just that. It can change your whole world.

Please don't ever give up. I have made several friends online and it really can work for you.

Good Luck to you all!


Yeah, I suppose I could try this!
do you know the names of any of these websites?!
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replied August 12th, 2010
i never had a single friend my whole life im 16 and the only person i consider some what of a friend is my brother and he dosent even like haning out with me that often. all the kids in school would make fun of me call me a teachers pet they would laugh at what i wear call me a fagg or a douche. i always never fit in and i would eat lunch alone and some times the jocks on the basket ball team would trip me and make me spill my food tray most of the girls in the school would make fun of me. that was until i snapped about 3 months ago that day i came to school with a bat and i beat the snot out of three kids that would all ways pick on me i may have gotten suspened and i will still stay suspended until the next half of this school year but it was so worth it now no one wants to mess with me at my school and im feeling much better. it also helped me get over my depression. thats what made me realize that you dont make your self depressed the people around you do. so dont ever blame your self and say i am not normal cause you are normal. you just developed this aspect of your life over time. so remember change your out look on life and try to be positive. i hope this will change your view on life as it did to me.
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replied August 26th, 2010
I have had friends everywhere I went until now. I just moved recently to start college and have no one really in my life on a daily basis except my sister and she just wants to tell me all about her life for hours and hours everyday! I'm lucky to get a sentence in, so I kinda gave up really talking to her. It's hard imagining this going on much longer, good thing I start college next month! But this sux big time and out where I moved I have been talking to coworkers, but they try to keep their distance or ignore me all together! What's wrong with people?? If things don't start picking up I must be doing something wrong, Im beginning to feel worse and worse everyday, thought about quitting my job, why would I want to be working somewhere I am not wanted?? But I haven't found another job or source of income... O well
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replied October 17th, 2010
hang in there!
i'd really like to talk to you on the phone or something!? I went through this exact same thing you're going through for the past couple of years and have just come out of it... I got a job and spent more time and money on myself with clothes and looking good. Completely changed my outlook on life! I'm seventeen at the moment and have a few friends at work and friends i met (my age) from friends of my mom. It works out in the end! I really suggest trying to find a job, friends are SO easy to make then as you can ALWAYS span a conversation about meeting up or general chit chat from talking about work briefly. HANG IN THEIR and please e-mail me or something I'd love to chat with you some more!? x Lloyd
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replied October 23rd, 2010
Iv had similar experiences.
I think its good to remember that confidence isn't something your born with, Its something you have to work on.
I found the best way to become more comfortable around others, is to push yourself into social situations where ever possible.
Try to remember how you feel around your family (or whoever you feel comfy with) and work on simulating that mood, within your self, around other people.
xxo I hope this was a little help
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replied November 23rd, 2011
Am I depressed or just a freak?
I feel totally alone, at school I just feel uncomfortable and spend my time trying to avoid people, human interaction is really hard for me. I'm not shy but quiet and I feel I have to because if I even spoke out no one would actually care. I speak to a few people but we never actually do anything outside of class. That's what depresses me so much, all my siblings find it so easy to make friends and they're so outspoken and that just makes me feel worse, and the GREAT thing is no one in my family actually know this, so I can't talk about it. I already feel like the outcast in my family if I said anything else, I'd feel even more alien.

RiRi... So I guess I'm not the only one who feels this way, I just wish I didn't turn out this way, I want to be normal and not depressed all the time at school. I'm 17 BTW.
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replied April 6th, 2012
I know what you guys mean....
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replied April 6th, 2012
I know exactly how you feel.....im 17 with no friends. I go to school and come straight home. When i don't have school i spend every single day at home watching tv, same routine as always. I hate my life so much, i don't know how to make friends at all. I don't know how to socialize and im worried my life's gonna remain this way always. I cry so much over this all the time. I feel lonely and depressed, especially with how i see my brothers and others enjoying life and having friends to be with/go out with. This makes me feel as if theres no point to nothing anymore. I dont know what to do anymore, i have given up in life because i have never had friends and fear i wont ever have friends. But at least i dont feel like im the only person in this situation....
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replied March 8th, 2013
i feel the same,only when i started high school life chnaged i was unpopular with people,shy-er than i was before, i got insulted cause of my braces and i never talked back because at this time i never did slabber, and when i thought about doing it i felt indimadated by how many their was of them compared to me,then i feel pregnant and now im at stage where i want to postive but dont think i can ever be a confitdent,happy,popular person again just people dont seem to choose me to be their close mate ,i try asking people to hang out but get turned down Sad
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