I really need some help here. I have been dating the same girl now for almost 2 years. Our relationship has been so wonderful and perfect and on the other hand so so awful.

I don't know what is right and wrong in this relationship anymore because she is bipolar. I don't want to hold things against her when she has no control over herself. But, I don't really know if she has control or not.

Recently she started getting really jealous of everything and everyone. Im a coach and teacher. My job takes a lot of my time. She is so mad that I am not there whenever she needs me that she threatens me with leaving because I can't fill her needs. But, she has this way of manipulating things to make me think it really is my fault when I know it isn't. She finally got so mad at me for walking away from her hostility that she hit me very hard in the back. Needless to say, I can't lift my arm without hurting from the pinched nerve it caused. Is this from her being bipolar? Is this common?

I am a very patient person and will do whatever it takes to make things work. She is going to the psychiatrist this week because I wanted her to. Things just seem to be getting worse since she agreed to go. Is that ok? Am I supposed to wait for her and give her that chance to "get better"? Or is this too toxic to stay with?

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First Helper bluebell2
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replied February 9th, 2009
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yikes..i believe its unacceptable for a man or woman to physically attack their partner..hopefully seeing the psychiatrist will help, otherwise..its about time you start thinking about the future..do you REALLY want to deal with this for the rest of your life? if not then you're just wasting time and the longer to wait to break things off, the harder it's gonna be
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replied February 10th, 2009
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Yeah i agree with worrywart.....If she is hitting you it's a bad sign and it needs to be stopped asap......Hopefully it will help to see someone..Good luck jenny
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replied March 16th, 2009
no one deserves to be hit. excuses or not. be firm; her actions have consequences. if she is not up to sticking to a treatment plan, move on. if she wants to find a better treatment plan, please help her.

seeking a group that is for those whose signifiacnt other has bipolar may be useful too.

i wish you two the best.
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replied March 30th, 2009
Well...seems like she is controlling, has anitsocial issues, bullying, and thrives on seeing others miserable. Danger to self and others in more than just 'hitting' is a strong possibility.

Let her go...there are many balanced people out there and u don't have to live in the misery.
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