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Bipolar boyfriend left again and I had been warned (Page 4)


July 5th, 2011
Well, guys I found out what I needed to and sorry to hear all that's going on w/ yall too. Via FB and a fake account I see that he is in a relationship w/ the girl he cheated on me w/ last summer. Sad he couldn't end a relationship w/ me and had to go this route but better I found out what needed to be found out. So over it!!!! A little upset yes but glad I know the truth. Wish both these losers a happy life. Glad to be done w/ the bipolar mess and in the future I will keep my eyes open never to fall into a crazy situation like this ever again. Hopefully the rest of yall will move on too. We all deserve so much better.
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replied July 5th, 2011
Extremely eHealthy
good for u, here is a truism NEVER get involved with anyone who has more baggage than u
good luck
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replied July 6th, 2011
Praising Jesus
AMEN! He for sure has a lot of baggage and I'm glad when he cheated I caught nothing. This the same chick who cheated w/ him on her bf and I'm sure she'll do it again. So all the accusing w/ me from him when he was the one cheating will 4 sure bite him in his sick bipolar a$$. What goes around comes back around. I'm a firm believer in that karma does exist. I'm just going to take this all in stride by keeping my head up and praising Jesus for allowing me to find out what I did via FB and wake the hell up in the future when it comes to men whether it be they are sane or not. Run for cover off the first sign of trouble and never look back. I'm beyond pissed but in due time I know my heart will heal itself and things will get better. I just pray that he never contacts me again. I'm so mad I can kill him!!! Anyway I thank God for this forum and wish I had of read it 10 months ago and I would have been out of this relationship the right way w/ me calling it off and never giving second chance. I hope all of you realize your worth and just give up on these sick people. Again we all deserve better!!!
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replied July 6th, 2011
Me too :-(
I am so amazed so many people go through this. I have never met anybody with the illness before and after almost 2 years I realise this is what my husband suffers from. Exaclty the same - he broke up with me every weekend for the first year. Come Monday, he wanted me back. None of you are stupid for letting these people come back into your life. Depp rooted love doesn't descrimintate. Eventually, I got tired of being broken up with, I left. He chased me. It started happening again, so I left AGAIN. We seperated 3 times in total. We have been married for almost 1 month and I am scared that again we are heading for a seperation.

It is a very difficult thing to go through with your partner because they can become very irrational and hurtful during an episode. I have read your stories and I have a new bill of strength to deal with my husbands outbursts. I also now have a better idea of why he does these things to me - I am going to propose he sees a GP. Wish me luck, looks like it's a difficult task convincing a person with Bi-Polar that they are Bi-Polar. I love my husband dearly, and would never leave him for having a sickness. Not having the strength to accept it however, has dire consequences to our future.

Good luck everyone, it is hard to live like this.
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replied July 6th, 2011
Experienced User
Anyone who had the pleasure of being in a relationship with another who was Bipolar thank God above you came out of it with your axx intact. It was the most difficult relationship I had ever been in and never wish this mess on anyone. As I read through posts and talk to people from this forum.....our stories are the same. Their (Bipolar) reactions can be predicted with a high rate of success; leaving, bad treatment, lying, cheating, financial issues, the lists of bad behavior is long and the same in all the cases/situations I have heard. If you find yourself in a similar situation I would advise you leave just as I and countless of others have. I found no contact works best as Bipolar individuals typically want to hang on to their victims and torture them for as long as they can. God be with anyone who chooses to stay in one of these realtionships.
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replied July 8th, 2011
well it has been 3 weeks no contact.. every day gets better little by little, like every one here the story is the same I too found all the e-mails from my ex and how she is setting up house with someone else while she was still living an sleeping with me!! how is it possible that a person can be so twisted and could lay next to me and hold me close an tells me how much she loves me while all the while she planning on getting with this other guy.. I was devistated.. even tho i shouldnt be this has happened many times before just for her to run back to me but not no more! i cant live like this anymore one min she so in love with me then shes not attracted to me any more this has been the hardest thing i have ever gone thru because i do love her with all my heart..... i have been there for her for 5 years i have been by her side with all the doctors and groups trying to be as supportive as i could even risking my job to be there for her......... none of it mattered to her.. for a person to love one min then is moving on the next with someone else is mind blowing...she has turned all this around on me and has acused me of horrible things and its all my fault why the relationship wont work.. all i did was ask her what is the truth about whats going on with her all shes done was lie about everything , when i told her about the e-mails that i saw she blew up and im a freak and a stalker and how could i go thru her things like that.... because i did that she doesnt feel comfortable around me anymore... again she just turned the tables on me... all i ever asked her was to be honest... just to many lies and secrets manipulation an on it goes... this new guy has no clue... he will be just another one caught up in a world of drama and lies... i just wish i had the ability to turn my love for her off like she has... i will never understand how its so easy for them..no feelings, or remorse or anything after 5 years its a big F&%$ you see ya!! just like that... my heart is so broken.........
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replied July 8th, 2011
I know i have to do whats right for me but i cant help feeling horrible i do miss her.. but have i done the right thing??? i have tryed to get her to see her patterns but she refuses to see it for her self it always everybody else thats to blame i wish that this was all a nighmare and that i would wake up and be laying next to my honey that i love so much...please can some one tell me that im doing the right thing???? living with a BP person is so difficult.. just maddning if she could just see thru my eyes.... am i doing the right thing or should i just give her space an time i dont know..........
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replied July 8th, 2011
rtj4022002 You have one of three choices; 1-stay with this person; two-leave this person; three-be a friend to this person. Let's consider each; choice one-you stay-be prepared for the same actions to happen time and time again as history has a way of repeating itself with Bipolars: choice two-leave this person-heart ache like you have never felt before including sleepless nights anxiety, etc: choice three-be a friend-very hard to do when they are telling you about their sex life with another. My choice was choice two the reason: Bipolars typically do not change and being a friend is way to difficult. I hope this helps.
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replied July 8th, 2011
Give it up, Turn it loose!
Its helped me that's 4 sure! I mean after not hearing from him in a month I gave up the calls and emails. He was still on my mind everyday but once I saw he was w/ that hoe he cheated on me w/ last summer I was livid. So pretty much I'm taking it he was still communicating w/ her while we were together and that FB message sent breaking it off was bs! He had me running to the clinic every 3 months and goes back to this girl that he met on vacation and went in raw. At this point I hate him!!!! I hope he get everything he deserves and if he comes back I can't wait to throw up what I already know in his face and tell him to kick rocks. rtj4022002 honey get over it!!!! As much as I hate him I still think about him but now its more like how could you accuse me of things, cheat on me and go right to the one you cheated on me w/ that you don't even know. They are dangerous people and once people find out about them the best thing to do is remove yourself asap. You've already wasted enough time w/ this woman. Now find somebody new who's going to treat you like a king! So much has happened to me as a result of thinking about this loser. Date rape yes! Going out w/ a guy to get my mind off of him and 3 drinks I'm out and don't remember a thing. Wrecking my car and flipping twice on the highway yep thinking of him cause it marked 2 months that day of not speaking to him. At this point I give up and refuse to keep him in my mind or in my heart. I hope both him and that girl jumpoff live happy in std heaven. I hate him!!!! You should hate her too!!!! Maybe then you'll start to lose those feelings faster. Our problems are gone and now the dude she w/ and the girl he's w/ can deal w/ both those sicko losers! I'll be praying that God removes her from your mind when I'm asking him to remove that loser from my mind. Stay strong and keep your head up. Trust me she is not thinking of you at all. If she was you wouldn't be on this forum like the rest of us spilling your guts. You must move on!!!!!
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replied July 10th, 2011
tomholly thanks for your thoughts on this... I agree, I have chosen to take option 2 just leave an dont look back it has been hard cause all i do is think about her, I dont have the ability to turn how i feel off."I wish I could"! this has gone on for so long its like i have to learn all over again how to live for myself.. just horrible.. but every day gets just a little easier I hope this will pass from me without leaving any deep rooted scares this has been just crazy... but today is a new day i just have to keep moving forward... one day at a time...
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replied July 12th, 2011
omg, after unbearable silence during month and a half, yesteday I text him, how he was, of course without any answer and in th evening I found out, that my ex (i suppose) bf removed me from skype!!! I was ready for everything exept of this. He just deleted me!!! and I phoned him, that was mistake butI couldnt stand. he told me that everything is over, he just doesnt want to see me anymore!!!! I asked about skype and did recieve a clear answer, I didnt know what are you talking about ... bla bal blaaa...
actuallly i amnt sure that he is BP, but after reading all the post and remembering how amazing he was at the begining of our relationship, caring an d love and his sudden porsonality change and rejection withou any reason... now i feel absolutly torn and this situation drove me to despair. I cant stop crying the hole day, ask myself why? I love that amazing guy I met three month ago and I thoug he loved me respected me too, but now all thefacts are against..I myself begin to visit the psychologist, but it doesnt help, I feel better only then, when ther is an ullusion tha t my frind will come back, but its just an illusion ...
I know I must move on, but it seems unrealistic!!
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replied July 13th, 2011
We all deserve better!
Wasterbearer @ least you got something. All I got was the chick he cheated on me w/ being added to his page and her profile pic got his bedroom in the background w/ her in it. I had to find that out w/ an alias FB page. In my case I was told that a doctor said he was bipolar and visited him in the mental ward. So his actions are what they are and I can't make him say what clearly should be clear to me that he is w/ somebody else and what we had is gone. Just 3 months ago I was the love of his life yet he goes back w/ to a chick he don't know that he cheated on me with and starts something new. Also too she's in love w/ him so I'm up in the air as to how long he's been in contact w/ her. Like I said before I hate him and I think this sickness is an accuse to treat people like crap so they can have their cake and eat it too. I hope we all move on from what these people have done to us. We all truly deserve better.
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replied July 13th, 2011
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If it is the disorder (and there is a good chance of that), I really do not see the point of the hate. He's sick, and unless he makes an effort to get better, he is going to continue to be ill. You will recover. He never will.

As for her, if she truly loves him as much as you did, it is almost inevitable that she is going to end up just where you are right now.
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replied July 14th, 2011
Actresslady,Waterbearer ,Reggie.. I know whare you all are.. I to am left in such a mixed state of anger confusion and pain all rolled up in one... the countless hours of sitting alone re-living every step of the relationship, trying to make some kind of sense of all this.. Actresslady said it best.. they still have a choice there illness should'nt be an excuse to hurt others.. but they do. I do believe that they care about us, but.. from what i have seen they know that the are self destructive and that they destroy the very foundation of any relationship they get involved in.. at that point thats why they run away and say that they lost all the love for us... its like they are affraid that if we see who they really are that we would leave them... so they end the relationship them selves.. makes no sense at all.. thats because we are the normal ones.. trust me when i tell you this.... they run to other people because they cant be alone they need constant attention.. even tho i worshiped the ground she walked on.. stood by her side, gave her anything she wants.. didnt matter... the normalcy is boring to them they need constant change the newness is what they crave and when that gets old they will move on... again trust me i have seen this over an over... all of you on this site my heart goes out to.. actresslady ,Cogito your storys has touched me our story seems like it came out of the same book.. so many stories are frightning the same.. it truly is sad that there are all these great people that are willing to love and except them for who they are.. but this is how they will live out there lives for the remainder of there time on earth.. all i know is that i am trying to move on and heal from this.. I try to focus on all the bad things, lies and cheating and convince my self that shes is a rotten person. but im not always succesful.. my heart aches every day for her... If anyone of you need to talk let me know... it does help to talk to someone that understands..trust me it helps... god bless..
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replied July 22nd, 2011
rtj4022002 you and me are in the same boat. No matter how much I try to say I'm letting it go it stays on my mind. What get's me is why he can't get rid of everything we shared on fb and introduced his jumpoff to his friends. Since she had to make it known she loves him yet she also has to look @ pictures of us together and know how she cheated w/ him last yr when he was still w/ me. I hope in his sick mind keeping all that up and if it don't work w/ her that he can come back cause no matter how much I still care he did the no no. A new girl he might have got a chance but the same chick who burnt him and he had me running to the clinic w/ is who he decides to lay w/ this summer I think not! When I meet w/ my doctor again who deals w/ mental illness I'm going to ask some questions because I don't understand how somebody can be up under you saying they love you non stop and just up and leave without saying it and cut you off like you never existed. That thought still remains on my mind as it does yours. How can these people be so cold?? I've stop contacting him months ago but I so want to say something but I'm going to let it be. Its best I vent here or to friends who still want to listen to me. I'm not going to wish anything bad on him but I sure do hope karma get's him back and that some how some way the thought of what he did to me pops up in his sick mind. As w/ the woman you dealt w/ for 5 yrs. Hope you are doing ok. Also glad you are seeing the light and I fully understand even though the light is on your heart is still in pain as mine is too.
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replied July 26th, 2011
Actresslady, we share so much of the same thing... like you she still has things of me on her fb as well, I dont know what is wrong with these people, but, I do believe in karma.. but there karma will be a life of this kind of drama and deception the rest of there lives.. we will heal and get past this but they will never get better... that is the sad truth!! this is a life long illness that controls there lives.. my ex is starting up again the texts and phone calls, she found out that i am taking a job back in Florida, some place that she loves... even tho she is with her new fb guy she is telling me to let her know when im going back.. the problem is my head is telling me...yeah right!! but my heart is still wanting to hold on to hope....But... then my mind tells me that she will end up doing this all over again thats there pattern... so yes im still in pain but we still have to be strong and focus on tomorrow.. we cannot let them back into our lives even tho its heart breaking it still sucks because when we love its from our hearts.. it just dont turn off!!! that is the hardest thing to wrap you hands around is how they can love and be so loving an the next second we are so disposable and we dont even exist anymore... that is so hard to grasp...one day I hope we can look back at this and it all be just a memory... I still have very sad days but I keep looking forward.. you will be in my prayers, if you want to talk anytime let me know it does help to talk to people that understands trust me.. we have soooo much in common with this stuff you would be suprised
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replied July 26th, 2011
Actresslady, we share so much of the same thing... like you she still has things of me on her fb as well, I dont know what is wrong with these people, but, I do believe in karma.. but there karma will be a life of this kind of drama and deception the rest of there lives.. we will heal and get past this but they will never get better... that is the sad truth!! this is a life long illness that controls there lives.. my ex is starting up again the texts and phone calls, she found out that i am taking a job back in Florida, some place that she loves... even tho she is with her new fb guy she is telling me to let her know when im going back.. the problem is my head is telling me...yeah right!! but my heart is still wanting to hold on to hope....But... then my mind tells me that she will end up doing this all over again thats there pattern... so yes im still in pain but we still have to be strong and focus on tomorrow.. we cannot let them back into our lives even tho its heart breaking it still sucks because when we love its from our hearts.. it just dont turn off!!! that is the hardest thing to wrap you hands around is how they can love and be so loving an the next second we are so disposable and we dont even exist anymore... that is so hard to grasp...one day I hope we can look back at this and it all be just a memory... I still have very sad days but I keep looking forward.. you will be in my prayers, if you want to talk anytime let me know it does help to talk to people that understands trust me.. we have soooo much in common with this stuff you would be suprised
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replied July 26th, 2011
Talking 2
Inbox me your #. We can talk for days on end. At least you are getting a response now. I'm getting nothing but profile pics of his jumpoff in his bedroom to let me know me know he with her or his cousin trying to be friends w/ me via fb. Part of me wants to go off on this girl to tell her of his lies and so much more but at the same time I'm 30 and these are children. He is 24 bout to be 25 and this jumpoff just turned 20 after graduating and staying back from hs at the age of 19. SMH. She is not worth my time and doesn't see that he is using her to make me jealous. If not then he would say he loves her back on FB and delete my being of ever being on his page ie the photos and love stories shared back and forth. I'm trying so hard to focus on business but I truly didn't think I would fall hard for this boy. We can't get back together because at this point I feel distrust for him and his mother. She had me thinking she had my back when all reality she wanted someone to take his sick behind off her back. If she think a 20 yr old is going to do it I think not. Once that girl see's his sick ways she is going to leave like the young one before me. Like I said I have a depression problems and I felt concern for him like I understood and was nice but there were a lot of times I felt like leaving but part of me is a little tore up too but I'm not crazy. Depression is an illness but its something anyone can get bipolar is different. I tried to help and got hurt myself. Why I keep peeking into his page is beyond me. Well, I know why I still care. If I didn't I guess I wouldn't still be on here or neither would you. I just wish he would leave my mind and heart. He's truly not worthy of the attention anymore and even I know that. My heart though needs to be replaced. It has a mind of its own and I can't help but to see if he has erased me before I will fully move on instead of just doing it and leaving it be. Yes, I do need to talk cause my mom is fed up w/ me and I'm starting to think my friends feel the same way now. Its just me, my journal, this site and me peeking here and there. I'm even calling myself sad now. Where do these people come from and why do they exist? I could never imagine hurting a person the way you and me been hurt. I did hurt my ex but I loved him too and never left him. That is a long story but at least I got a decent breakup and for that I let it be. Why can't this man just say he don't want me? Also that he never did and let me go w/ peace instead of I believe knowing that I'm spying on him. I found out via fb how about delete my stuff and say she is his girl and erase me. That way I will get the second message he couldn't be man enough to say. I hate him when I think of these actions but at the same time I think of the good part of him that is long gone. Just can't seem to get it together.
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replied July 27th, 2011
Actresslady, today is a new day... at least thats what i tell myself every day, you never know what doors will be opened today or who may cross our paths.. im sure you have been told all these things before.. i just wish it would be that simple. but, know that I do understand fully how hard this stuff is every day is a challenge I to peak at her fb from time to time, probly not a good idea but it is hard to understand why they wont just be open a honest and give us the closer that we deserve.. i could never hurt another person like this i almost feel like im back in jr high thats how crazy this has become.. but we have to keep moving on...my friends and family are sick of me talking about all this as well...they are all married or are with people that are normal so the dont know what its like to be involved with a person that is ill..I know I will never allow my self to be involved with someone with these type of issues again.. anyway i sent you my contact info in your in box call me anytime it truly helps to talk with a person that can relate....
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replied July 27th, 2011
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RTJ

I also have to let go. I phoned him yesterday to tell about my operation and he said 'I dont want anything to do with you', and said he had picked another woman some days ago. He had the kindness to say'it is nothing serious yet', but you know what kind of pain that phrase can produce in normal people who love another and spent nearly two years with this person day by day,helping, being a friend, a lover, a companion, hearing confidences, travelling together, having a life together and then they suddenly dont want anything else to do with you and casually pick another person in a public place, someone who does not know them and they dont know either, who never shared anything in life with them, and promote that person in a day or so to the status of significant other, when you have been everything in their lives and now you are demoted to something the cat brought in.
My pain in unbeliavable, my heart is broken in zillion pieces and im moving on, however I know he will leave this woman and come back to me someday.I wont be available.
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replied August 1st, 2011
Reggiane please don't be available. I know it hurts but how about nothing in my case and then finding out via FB that the same person he cheated on me w/ is now his gf. At least you got an answer for closure. That's all I ever wanted and still have not got. He is a jerk that was the coldest then ever to do. You are in my prayers 4 real. In fact all of you on here are in my prayers. I pray we find stable people to build a relationship w/ one day who will treat us right and give us the love that we return. Keep your head up. I fully understand your pain. <3
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replied July 27th, 2011
Regg, im soooo sorry for your pain!! we have to be strong no matter how we find our minds going back on them we have to keep it out of our minds... i have to make myself think of other things or i get up and go do somthing ro get my mind of her.... its not easy... but every day we just get a little stronger...mine to has already started the i might want to come back game with me... I CANOT LET HER BACK INTO MY LIFE EVER!!! we all on this site knows what will happen the cycle will just start all over again... i cant have that... she had a shot at being with me all has done is throw me away over an over again.... i am worth so much more she doesnt deserve to have my heart and my love anymore... she will try to come back they always do... but not this time... be strong you will find the person your suppose to be with... we just have to believe!!!
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replied July 28th, 2011
Experienced User
Rtj, after I wrote that to you he sent me an email, guess, he wants to meet and talk!!!!! This after saying he picked a woman somewhere. He sounded really like the old self, saying nice things and asking if I want to meet him to talk. Talk about what I wonder. I dont meet any men that picked another woman. I think he started missing me and like the time before he starts the 'shall we meet and talk' again, to progress to 'shall we have dinner', to progress to 'shall we be in a relationship but without any labels' and 'shall we sleep together'.This time Im prepared. Im NOT answering that email, im going to be completely gone from his life either by email or phone, he wont know what has hit him. When I get back to my country now in August he will be missing me and phoning me . Ill take ages to let him find me and even then I wont be anything else than a simple friend, since he has told me he is with a woman. I know him, it wont be long he will tell me he has nothing to do with her.
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replied July 28th, 2011
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I've been reading these posts and relating to most of them. I've been in a 3 yr relationship and the first yr and a half was awesome. The last year and a half a rollercoaster of anxiety. The text and e-mails "it's over", "we're done", "I can't take it any more", "at the end of my rope"... Like the rest of you, out of the blue, Ive been dumped. I started therapy last week. So funny, I am the whipping post, in therapy, hurting, and he just bought a new sports car. I don't understand. I just don't. Sadly, I secretly want him back.
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replied August 1st, 2011
AgainSeriously we all want them back but at the end of the day we deserve better then being hurt. Trust me I'm still spying on mine but I'm hoping each day that I will stop and let him rot where her belongs. Finally moving on w/ my life and meeting someone sane who loves me and won't hurt me like this boy child has done. Keep your head up. As you see you are not alone @ all!!!
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replied July 28th, 2011
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Again seriously

really, this is so difficult. I also want him back, desperately. I cannot even think of the other woman, I know she is nothing for him, and I KNOW she is the way he found to avoid loving me. But he does love me, in the midst of his confusion and BP, he writes 'I care a real lot about you', you are my number one'. Now he wants to talk!!!! It is difficult because it is giving me hope again, it seems that it will never really end and I dont want it to end even though i can see that this relationship is a mess. Why cant my heart obey my brain?However, he is not having me easily, it will be as long time till I reappear in his life.
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replied July 28th, 2011
Experienced User
Hi Reggiane.
I am such a wreck. I used to be a strong, secure woman. I am educated and have a good job/beautiful home. If he does come back, I don't know what to do. I love him, but he is destroying me slowly. The episodes are coming on more frequent and he is staying away longer periods of time. I think I am in love with his potential and not the whole man. I don't want to live like this any more. The reason I am in therapy is I didn't get closure, so perhaps clarity will suffice. If he comes back, I know it wil happen again. It's been going on for too long. In addition, I found out he walked on his first wife when she was 8 months pregnant. She is a decent woman, I've met her. if he could do something that awful, he'll surely repeat the pattern. We are both 40 and he has been divorced twice.
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replied July 28th, 2011
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hi friend

Mine also walked out on his first wife and FOUR kids. His eldest daughter does not like him and told me so. He had two more relationships and both put him out of the house. I must be mad to be so involved with aBP man who does not believe he is sick and is messing lives. inclusive his own.Incredible how they cannot keep relationships.
John has the most bizarre behaviour I have ever seen.
He is currently dating yet another woman but already told me it is nothing and asked me to see him again. The fact is , it is ME the person he loves and he denies it with all his might. We cannot be apart and he is already calling me back.At the same time he says horrendous things to me like ' Im open to any other woman but not for you'. This is really very odd and sick, since we have been together for so long and he said so many times he would spend all his life with me and I was his angel, his wife. Nothing happened for him to go to the other extreme with me, nothing at all.What has made him to flip that way is a mystery for me. Anyway, he breaks up with me and starts asking me out again, as he just did today. I havent got the faintest idea of what he is thinking.
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replied July 28th, 2011
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Hi friend (I like that)

What is he thinking? That is the million dollar question. I believe unmedicated bipolars are master manipulators. Mine has not disclosed he is bipolar to me, but my therapist says he is and may be borderline,he told me he is ADD. My guy left saying he would get help and "fix" our relationship. Then he went on a high and bought a new sports car. Now he doesn't need me or the relationship. He calls me selfish and says i bailed on him when he was feeling down, but now is the happiest he has been in a long time. Hahaha. You would think a man would like to have a pretty gal in the seat next to him wouldn't you? When he comes down from his wreckless behavior and wants to reconnect, I hope I can say no. I don't honestly see a future with him. Heck, I can't even trust him. Do you trust John? I'm just saying, this is as good as it gets. Is it enough for you? I love my man too, so I am not trying to be cruel, but when is enough...enough?
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replied July 28th, 2011
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No, I dont trust John at all. He lied to me, cheated on me, came back to me telling me a story full of holes about the other woman, dated us both at the same time, left her saying she was 'easy' and Im not, stayed with me for months behaving like a proper bf only to leave me again and stopping loving me and finding yet another woman, who he already said it is nothing again and wanting to see me. How can I trust such a person, however my world seems to be empty without him, I love him to distraction and really desire him and only him, even knowing so many wrong things about him.
It is more than time that I start to hear my head and pay attention to my gut feelings, but just the thought of another woman going out with him is killing me.
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replied July 28th, 2011
Regg, AgainSeriously, this is and will be the hardest thing you probly ever go thru... These people are sick they will never be what we want them to be...
I feel the same way I am in love with her potential and not the whole woman!!! this is why we cant let go..but we have to!!! how many more years will we waste?? we cant get that time back... the more we try and be there for them the more they will play games and continue to control our lives.. as harsh as it sounds this is the reality... this will never stop!!! we have to let go!! let them fall apart then maybe, just maybe, after they truly hit rock bottom they will come to realize what matters to them...but then again maybe not.. the point is do we want to continue hanging on to this madness?? life is so short... they will continue to destroy people in there lives.. dont think for a minute that they will be happy with that other person... they wont trust me!! mine has done this so many times just for her to call an want to come back because she just dont love him... for them they do not know how to love anyone!!! I tell myself everyday its better without her in my life.. I to feel like my life is empty without her.. and i have my bad days... but we have to be strong I have been thru all the same kind of rejection and bad treatment and lies as well as all the cheating... trust me we all deserve better but we have to believe that we deserve better...
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replied August 1st, 2011
Couldn't have said it better T! I need another chat session w/ you. Inbox me back. SMH @ these people who have hurt us all.
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