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BiPolar and Hyper Sexuality

I spoke to someone/counsellor at Metal health and was told that some men/women with bipolar go into episodes that include large amounts or prnography and searching for sex outside of a committed relationship.

Does she know what she is talking about?

What about lying, ................... my husband is also lying daily in large amounts to cover up what he is doing?

Any insights here?
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First Helper crazy4nothin
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replied July 12th, 2008
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Hypersexuality is a common feature in the manic episodes of bipolar disorder. It can present with seeking sexual encounters outside of a relationship. Sexual promiscuity is one of many symptoms of bipolar disorder. Lying would be a direct result of some of the behaviors involved with bipolar disorder.

There are so many behaviors that accompany this disorder. Is your husband being treated for bipolar disorder?

If you would like some further information private message me and I can discuss and refer you to more information.
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replied September 9th, 2010
hypersexuality and bipolar
I found this thread while doing some research. i suffer from bipolar and have the hypersexuality symptoms. i am a completely committed man to my marriage and relationship. i even consider pornography cheating. yet every year around august to early november i get in these moods where i am attracted heavily to cheating. i become very distant - and it kills me. i absolutely hate it. last year i found some natural cures that worked but i am not so sure. it maybe that they worked because i was leaving my "mania" state and going the other direction. i just have no idea why this happens. i can't tell my wife - she knows my bipolar and she knows that it torments me but it would kill her if i told her how bad it can be. one site said it best and I quote here

"You often see a lot of regret for the past behavior because they put themselves in very bad situations," says Viguera. "When they're well, they reflect back on that and there can be a lot of regret and remorse. It's just another clue that shows you that that was not their normal state."

I fall right there. i hate what i do but it is like i am a prisoner to it. i feel completely worthless. i feel good in that i have been able to isolate it. After years and years of feeling like a dirty man it has been the past 2 that i have been able to isolate a time period and see a pattern. i am going to keep working at it. but i swear, it gets me so down that i want to die.

If your husband is feeling any of these things, he is lying because he is emberassed or does NOT know how to express himself.
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replied December 22nd, 2011
Thank you for posting this. My gf of 2yrs suddenly ended our relationship. This is the 3rd time she's done this and it's always around the same time of year. Found out she was e-mailing her ex bf. She gave me the whole "nothing happened" and "I got scared" excuses. Blamed it all on her being scared. Same excuses she's used a hundred times...and not just with me I'd wager. It's ggod to see I'm not losing my mind and this is a common seasonal bipolar symptom of mania. And that all the lying is part of it too. I still love her, but I'm just not strong enough to keep going through it with her. Her bipolar finally beat me.
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replied December 30th, 2011
I had a 6 month manic episode 3 months ago. I actually moved out of my parents house 18 years old)and moved to New York. Where I ended up sleeping with 11 guys. Some I didn't know, some were friends. I have never cheated on a boyfriend. When I am in a relationship, such as now, I just get extremely sexual with my boyfriend (Whom ever it is at the time). My boyfriend now and I have sex 2-3 times a day everyday. But sometimes My moods change, and I just don't want to have sex. Confuses my boyfriend a lot.
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replied December 19th, 2011
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ive beeen diagnosed since i was a teen i am now 34, was never sexual much as a teen, been married 12 years that ended basically he didnt support me and my illness, now i am soooo permiscuous since the seperation, with men and women, i feel so angry with myself, ive been trying to be in a relation with man for 6 mths or so and have cheated 2 times once with women and once with man? i am so confused and angry i dont get it?
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replied December 19th, 2011
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@Villa you were diagnosed with Bi-Polar disorder? are these symtoms typical of that illness?
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replied December 24th, 2011
I am a bipolar and have experienced increased libito and impulsivity. Bipolars go from extremes. I usually have a very very high libito or I do not crave sex at all. I know that from experience bipolar people will be very impulsive and have multiple sex partners.
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replied December 25th, 2011
I am bipolar as well, diagnosed in my late teen years, during adolescence, I wasn't interested in sex, I was self-medicating to avoid the pain. I knew my dad was cheating before my Mom did, the stress and the divorce was a huge trigger, and the onset of bipolar became. Increased libido, impuslive behivaior, I was in a manic state.
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replied January 22nd, 2012
bipolar gay man's hypersexuality
I am a gay man with bipolar disorder. My hypersexuality can occur at both ends of the mood spectrum. I have suffered consequences greatly. Sometimes, i feel like giving up on trying to be understood by others, and just want to live by my own rules in my own world. can be very lonely. There are times when I am completely insatiable, sometimes self-medicated with drugs when this happens. This is compounded by being a childhood sex abuse survivor. I am now 46 years old, and i feel like I am either on the brink of self-discovery and ZI will conquer this, or that I am about to just give in to my dysfunction.
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replied February 28th, 2012
I WAS ENGAGED AND SO IN LOVE WITH MY MATE FOR LIFE AND HER SON UNTIL I CAUGHT HER LIEING ABOUT CONDOMS IN HER GYM BAG AND SAYING SHE WAS OUT WITH HER GIRLFRIENDS AND FOUND OUT SHE WAS WITH A MALE FRIEND ONE DAY BEFORE WE WERE SUPPOSED TO GO AWAY TO MAINE FOR 10 DAYS.AFTER BEING CAUGHT SHE STILL WANTED TO KNOW WHEN WE WERE LEAVING FOR MAINE.I WAS TOLD BY HER BEST GIRLFRIEND THAT SHE WOULD FLIRT WITH OTHER MEN.IT TORE ME UP INSIDE AND AFTER A YEAR IT STILL DOES I HAD OUR FUTURE WITH HER SON AND ME AND WE ACTUALLY TALKED ABOUT HAVING A BABY TOGETHER.I AM STILL HEART BROKEN;WE WENT TO COUNSELING TOGETHER; I FELT I WAS GOING TO GIVE 110% PERCENT.FINALLY I REALIZED THAT I WAS DRINKING AND ON XANAX JUST TO COPE WITH HER.
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replied April 28th, 2012
I just wanted to say thanks to everyone who posted about their bipolar disorder and sexuality. I am 28 and was diagnosed 2yrs ago, although I had been suffering with symptoms on and off for about 6yrs. I am in a loving relationship, yet I continue to have an outside sexual relationship. It makes me feel awful, but everytime I get manic there is no other way to make me feel like I can stay inside my own skin. It makes me feel better just knowing I am not alone.
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replied December 5th, 2012
Well now I feel extremely hopeless as to what I've just been diagnosed with. I don't want to be a slut the rest of my life! I'm in my 20s for God sakes! I would much rather die.. but I can't because my kids would be so sad. Fml.
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replied October 29th, 2013
I have struggled with and now am comfortable with my bipolar condition. I have medication that works for the ups and downs of elation and sadness, energy and depression, but still have the hypersexuality impulses. I am single so it doesn't effect a relationship with anyone but myself. Please hang in there. Counseling helps a lot. Education about the disorder and learning that the urge doesn't cause the activity - we do - and we can do something about that.
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replied October 21st, 2013
I have been diagnosed as bipolar since my mid 20's. I am now 30. I had a really bad break up a year and a half ago and decided to not be in a relationship for a while. Right after my break up I engaged in sexual behavior with a girl and a man. A couple months after that I engaged in sexual behavior with a male friend. I felt awful about both so I decided to not have sex until I was in a committed relationship with someone. Its been about a year and 4 months and now I have started with the sexual encounters again. Last week I texted two people for a one night stand and started "sexting" with another male. I have a date with the one night stand this weekend and have thought long and hard if this is what I want. Honestly I'm kind of scared of going back to my old ways.
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