I am 20 years old and 5 months pregnant. The father is 19 years old and I've been seeing him for about a year now. Once I became pregnant though a lot of things changed, and I'm beginning to realize what a child he is. He has never had a job, dropped out of school and is completely having an emotional breakdown over my pregnancy, scared to death of being a horrible father, getting drunk a lot, and generally just feels that he isn't ready. As the mother I don't know how to react to him right now, whether to have faith that he will try for our child our to continue trying to do things on my own, as I have been after he ran off for a month or two in the beginning because he just "needed the time to himself". I don't know whether to forgive him, give him a fighting chance or not. But I feel like he's too much of a child to handle it and even though he says he's trying to mature and get his life on track I don't really see the results and feel like he really doesn't even know what direction to take without someone telling him. What should I do? Its terrifying really and I don't know whether to open up to him fully again and be supportive after our break regardless of his current situation or to go on by myself and if he does ultimately straighten up and want to be a part of the childs life then do so at a later time when I can actually see the results. Opinions anyone? I'm really just confused and hurt by the entire situation Sad
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replied June 7th, 2010
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i am a solo mother of 2 boys at 20, and it is hard. I left the father when i found out i was pregnantwith my second because he was lazy, unwilling to work or help with the kids and just generally immature. i later let him in the lives of the children and he walked out again. Tell him you will let him share the life of your child when he can prove he wants to, tell him to get a job and grow up. You can make it on your own. good luck
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