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August 28th, 2009
yeah ino how you feel too. i always used to get urges to get pregnant. and now i am pregnant, and i am soo happy.
i dunno what it is, maybe its just my calling. but your 13, your body isnt properly developed yet. do you think you can wait a few more years?
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replied August 28th, 2009
Hello!

I am 21, and I have alot of friends that have had children at 16, 17, 18 etc. You are 13, that is so young! You need to realise, that although your body may be slowly getting there, or may be prepared physically for a baby, your mental and emotional development is only just beginning! Puberty is a huge and important part of your life, so let it happen at its own pace. The most annoying thing to hear is "There's plenty of time"...but there really is! You need to realise that babies are so much fun, they are amazing, but on the other hand, do you have a consistent and committed partner? If yes, is he willing and able to support you and your baby? Apart from all this, babies are SO MUCH WORK! I assume you're still in school, so waking up at midnight, then 2am then 4am then 6am then having to attend school 5 days a week will be tough. Also, are you employed? Do you have a stable job that will support everything from nappies, to childcare, to hospital fees (for the birth), prams, food, etc. All these things never end and boy, do they add up! A small amount of money is sometimes handed out to underaged mothers, but this doesn't last! I really hope you re-consider, you're 13, you have AGES! I am 21, and only just beginning a relationship. At 13, I was playing with friends, and didn't even have breasts! Motherhood is a beautiful thing, but at 13, you are just beginning teenhood! I would love to be 13 again, playing with friends, having your sweet 16th, puberty, girly nights, having a first kiss, parties, school camps, formals and dances, going clubbing when you turn 18, etc. You will miss out on all this if you have a child. You will literally not have a childhood to remember. All you will have is waking upo to feed your baby, mother's meetings, taking your child to school, wishing you could've gone to that huge party but couldn't because no-one could babysit...it goes on. Once you're married or in a sturdy adult relationship, the next step is parenthood. Embrace your teen years, you only have them once!

Kimberly
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replied September 26th, 2009
I want a baby to.
like,,now.
Im only 13 but ill be 14 in about 2 weeks. i tell mom and she thinks im joking.
i kno my boyfrann wouldnt leaave.\but ,like i have the money to support a child!
me and mom adn boyfrann talked about this a few months ago and she said if i ahd a teen pregnacy she wanted to adopt the baby adn let me live my life.
i kno i would have PLENTY or support but walking around school in the 8th grade pregnant! id be a prostitute forever.
but i dont really care what they think becasue this child is accually planned! but im REALLY skinny. i only weigh 95 pounds and dont think i can carry a baby. and i REALLY dont want a misscarrage. and i know for a fact my dad would kill me dead. hes a christian type a guy. but ive always been the kid not to listin to what other ppl say and just do what she wants. but everything happens for a reason right?
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replied September 26th, 2009
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Hey eia
If you're worried about miscarriage there are some teen pregnancy risks you're not grasping honey. At 13 it is unlikely that you will be a teenage pregnancy statistic or that people will judge you for having a child as a child and it is unlikely that you will end up sacrificing all of your dreams in life to provide a miserable survival-existance for your child. At 13 and underweight there is a significant chance that you will die in attempting child birth and your child may or may not die as well. You are more likely than not to miscarry, at your age and weight it is highly likely that failed pregnancy will leave you sterile. In the event that your child lives it will be developmently disabled, once again age and weight preventing any chance of a healthy birth. Most countries in the world will not allow you to raise a child with severe mental or physical handicaps and they will take your child away from you.

Now is an excellent time to begin planning for a child. Start lining up the things that you need to be a good mother. Work on improving your health and educating yourself in the skills you'll need to care for a child. Save the money that birthing a child will cost. Strengthen your familial bonds so that your child will have the love and support of a family. When you have taken care of the things you need to be a good mother and your body has matured to be physiologically able to bear a child and both you and your husband are ready to have a child then it will be time.
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replied September 26th, 2009
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HEY!
All your girls that are teenagers and want a baby.....
and I really can't find anyother way to put this...but your idiots.
come to my house for a week....take care of my son with no help because there's a good chance that's what will end up happening and I'll change all of your minds.
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haha.....jesus....you guys are that naive to think that you can really support a baby on your own...
I hate how I have to rely on my parents to pay for my son because up until a few months ago I couldn't find a job.
Now I can actually pay for most of his stuff that he needs...but don't put that responsibility on your parents...and they might not even help....so then what?
so stop be dumb....
go sleep over at your friends house and sleep in till 3 in the afternoon because I said goodbye to that almost 3 years ago.
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replied September 26th, 2009
i know what u mean but i am 16 and now that i am pregnant i really dont know what i am going to do i am so scared you have no idea whatall you have to do my boyfriend is as scared as i am and we are so lost and scared of what is going to happen i dont even know how to tell my dad
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replied September 26th, 2009
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Hey Ally119
Tell your parents now. It's not as though waiting things out will change the facts. The longer you wait to get the guidance and support of your family the fewer options you have and the greater the risks you and your baby face.
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replied December 21st, 2009
dont do it! i have a baby and im 16 and it is rough..sometimes i cry myself to sleep at night because it is too overwhelming....wait till after highschool or even college and find the person u truely love and someone who isnt controlling or you will have a h*ll hayride of a relationship
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replied January 25th, 2010
I had my son at 14, he is 2 now and im pregnant with my second. You have no idea the things that come alnog with having a baby. finish school first get a job and save money prepare for it first. You cant barely get a job now days and your 13 no one will hire you! wait til you can provide for your child!!!!!!!!!!!!! It is harder than you think.
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replied January 31st, 2010
No! You cant get pregnant at 13. For starters it would kill your social status and you would be known as the school *[email protected]#$ so don't do it. Ask your mom for another baby. Or say hey i want a baby sister/brother. Can we adopt or have one? Pregnancy at your age is not the answer. But you can start to plan the babies future like putting money aside or just thinking of a possible name. But its to soon
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replied March 16th, 2010
could i just ask you something why do yoou want a baby so bad your only 13. i was 14 when i got pregannt and was 15 when i had em. the i was 16 when i got preg again and 17 when i had her do u no how much u will have to give up because you are so young i was the same as you. bu now i have 2 kids at 17 and i found out yesterdsay that im pregnant again so think be4 you make eny decisions. x
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replied March 26th, 2010
hi.im 16 and i got pregnant in november 09.and my advise to you is to wait.your only 13 you have sooo much and you probably havent even started high school yet.it may sound cute to have a bby and to be preganant but its alot,its soo much tht when i got preganant i decided to get an abortion at 17weeks.i felt horrible about doing it but in the end i feel i made the right decision...so i stress tht i want you to wait to have sex all together.theres probably girls in your school already having sex but be a positive example by proudly telling them tht your a virgin(i hope).
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