Hi, I am 18 years old and I have just found out I am pregnant.
I am yet to go to the doctor's so I don't know how far gone I am, but I am guessing maybe about 7 weeks.

There are a couple of possible fathers, who are all not very decent men (I seem to be attracted to them) and the main possibility would probably not want anything to do with the baby.

I have always said that if i was in this situation, I would never be able to get an abortion but now that it comes down to it, I really don't know if it would be the right thing to do.

I have just got myself sorted at college, applied to universities in Scotland, as I was hoping to move there from Oxfordshire. The baby would be due around the time that I would be starting uni and moving, so I am so confused as I would really want to keep it.

Any advice?
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replied January 4th, 2009
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Ignore the previous post, please.

No one can tell you whether an abortion is right for you. That's something you need to decide for yourself. You need to ask yourself if you can handle a baby and college at the same time, or if you'd be willing to put college off until your child is older. You need to ask yourself whether adoption is an option you could handle. Ask yourself if you could support and raise a child right now. And ask yourself if you could mentally and emotionally handle having an abortion.

These are questions only you can answer. Don't let others make this decision for you. Only you know what you can handle. This is your life and your decision. Make sure it's the right one for you.

Good luck.
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replied January 23rd, 2009
i get yea.
yea,, i understandddd whatt ur thinking.. i would never be aloud to abort. i wouldnt be here if my mom did..she was 18 when she hadd me 2. she said it was the tougest thing ever.. but she would havee beenalwyass thinking about me when she got older. she had supoprt of my grandparents and such my aunt had a kid when she was 17 to.. and got married at 19.. shes 21 now and im 17. teen pregnancy isnt a big thing were i am from thou. so im not good on, how to helpp butt dontttt abord it.. u;ll reget it.. good faher or not.. the baby and u dont need him. the child will alwaysssbe mad at you thought when its all grown up that u never stayed with him.. i grew up with out a father.. it abosulty sucks.. aha you dont gett how people can act like that around guys. ah. but i turned outt alrightt i'd say aha: )
but it iss a big deal. you dont have to get the father involved in their life.. unless they reallyy want to knoww years from now.
but its all up to you..
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replied January 27th, 2009
Right, you have to think about this yourself- noone can tell you what to do.
I was in the same situation a few months ago and it's really not nice to think about aborting as i was always veryyy against it, but at this age its not exactly that fair to bring a baby up and its not fair on you if you want to go to university.
I mean my mum managed to do it with me but struggled financially.
I did feel awful thinking about what to do as im sure you do now but you need to decide very soon, as when you hit 9weeks you can only get surgically aborted- which is not very nice and personally i wouldnt have done it.

But i really hope you make the right decision for yourself and noone else. Im sure your friends and family will be there for you whatever you choose to do.
wish you luck x
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