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How do I convince my girlfriend that she maybe needs counseling? She has been battling anxiety and depression her entire life, and just about 3-4 years ago, she came to terms with the reality that her father molested her. She came to me about it 2 months ago (I was the first person she told) and then her best friend. It's like she's crying for help. But she thinks she can solve this depression herself, and that I as well as her friends can do nothing to help her be happy.

I'm worried about her, and I just feel as if she'll continue to carry the burden of her father as well as the fact that her mother has been married several times. These are both, in my eyes, really pulling her down. Is there any advice? Can I suggest? When I do, she becomes very upset and thinks I'm crossing a line.


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replied November 4th, 2009
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You would like to know whether there is any advice that you can suggest to her in order to help her fight with the anxiety and depression.

Molesting is abusing somebody sexually. It is rather common in different families. Women who have been molested while they were children may suffer from psychological difficulties such as anxiety, depression, fear from being hurt or may have difficulties in relationships and communication with people.


If you tell your girlfriend that she needs counseling, she may get upset and start believing that you want to make it look as if she is crazy. The best way to help her is to convince her that you would never harm her and you would never do something like that. When she feels down you may try to do things together (like going out, seeing friends etc.) that will keep her thoughts busy for a while so that she doesn’t think on what bothers her. If you really think that a conversation with a doctor will be helpful then you may see your doctor together and start the conversation there.

Please keep in mind that I am trying to provide you with medical information here. I am not able to give you medical advice online. Please contact your doctor or a qualified healthcare provider such as a psychiatrist to learn more about treatment options.



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replied November 5th, 2009
A lot of people seem to think that councelling is for people with serious mental problems, and that you should only see them if you are crazy. Why people have these ideas in their heads im not too sure, probably because of TV and films creating these incorrect stereotypes in our heads. It's only the name councelling or shrink that puts people off in the first place, but if you rephrase it and just say you want to see a doctor about it then it doesnt sound as bad does it?

I think you should try to help her as much as you can and try to advise her that seeing someone is the next step forward, and a very positive one at that. I can only advise you and it's entirely up to you what you choose to do, but I think the best help would be for her to have concelling, remember it is only a good thing, these people are here to help, and they will help.

I hope it all workouts for you guys.
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