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I was married to a man that abused me for like 6 years. It is a topic that I would like to see addressed more in the medical community as it's obviouse physical side effects are all medical related. In addition, and more importantly, the emotional abuse can be much more subtle and the result catastrophic in mental conditions such as Stochholm's Syndrom, Post tramadic Stress Disorder, Panic Attacks in addition to low self esteem, drug and / or alchohal use; all which take there toll on ones over all healthy well being.
I attended WOW: Women of Worth for over 2 years. There are groups all over the country and on line; other names are "Women Helping Women". It depends where you live. They are extremely private to insure the predator's do not know that you may be getting help. I think there needs to be more emphasis and public awareness of abuse starting at the high school level of education. I myself, did not ever realize I was being abused, I just started having symtoms of constant diahrea and extreme Panic which I already had anyways, and other trauma that I wasn't even aware of. Their biggest trick is getting you isolated and away from your family and friends so that you can become more easily sucked into there demented, phycho world. Then the cycle of abuse; which can be very easy to fall for. They are quite often very charming and doting at first, when in fact they are usually sociopaths.
If not for one of my persistant best friends of old that bullied her way through his blockade attempts; I would probably not be here to tell this story today. I am very intelligent, I went to college, and never even gave it a thought that I was a victem of such a horrible world. lifepreserver
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replied July 27th, 2009
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since you are so passionate about the subject there maybe ways that you can get this information out there in your area. like volunteering to places where women had been abuse and telling them your story for encouragement. creating a website and educating people about it. i cant think of anything else at the moment.
i currently attend an outreach program called the hubbard house in jacksonville, fl for women who was abused.
i was abused by my father and i recently got out of a horrible five year relationship.
the support group im in helps alot, my dad left deep scares on my whole family even till this day.
someone told me that i am an inspiration when i told them my whole story of what i've been through and where im at currently in my life.
maybe i can be of assistance to you.
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replied July 28th, 2009
Thank you, it is quite common for a person that falls into an abusive relationship has been abused to some degree from a family member; with me, my mother is/was emotionally abusive. When it is a man such as your father; that has got to make your choices in men crooked in judgement. My "men picker" is definately broke even though my Dad is a very kind man. I have pretty much taken advantage of the help provided, which is really a guide line & information, you do the work yourself to figure out the how's and the why's pertaining to you. I could still use help somewhat; not to the degree I did when I first joined the group, but I am seriousely gun shy when it comes to men and relationships. I am glad you are in a better way, but what do you do about dating now? I am just shut down about the whole thing, I have had 2 relationships since the abuser; but I tend to pull away quick when it get's to a seriouse level. Thanks for your input. I don't have the money to go to schools and tell my story, occasionally I will pop in on WOW meetings to show the new women that there is hope; we all come in so lost and scared. Lisa
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replied September 5th, 2009
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i am still in an abusive relationship. and i've been abused since i was a kid. mom, its hard for you to see if you are in an abuse relationship, if you were living an abuse all your life. because there is nothing to compare with only the wores and in such a way it would affect you. abuse would be a normal life to you. and normal would be ubnormal to you or extreme kindness.what you see in movies and tv would be a fantasy. but i guess the harder your life was the stronger you are or you become. problems, abuse, would build experience,intelligence and strenth you would be a better person. we people can handel stress and pressure more than others or people whom were spoiled all their life. we do not give up easily were strong we have powers.
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replied September 5th, 2009
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you can create a topic about how emotional abuse effected you and ask how it effected others on this website. this is a start to get women talking about it and to learn about how they cope with it.
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