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About 8 Weeks pregnant, Father of Child Left me

Hello all,

I am a female and I am 22, going on 23, years old. About 3 weeks ago, my boyfriend of 3 years broke up with me. I was, and still am, devastated. We lived together and had a life together.

He claimed to not be in love with me any more...saying that he loves me, but he is not in love with me.

Low and behold, a week after the break-up, I find out that I am 5 weeks pregnant. This is a horrible situation to go through for anyone, so to say the least, I was shocked.

I mustered up the courage to tell the father of the child. It was so hard because I don't want to be that crazy ex, like "OMG, I'm pregnant get back with me."

He said that he is more than willing to be in the child's life and financially be there as well, but he also said he does not see us getting back together. Of course, this crushed my heart. This is my first pregnancy and I just want a significant other to experience this with....someone who can be there for me not only physically, but emotionally.

I am now an estimated 8 weeks pregnant....the father and I have spoken since then. He said our biggest downfall is communication. He said if we can manage better communication, then that would be a good "starting over point".

Anyway...I just feel so lonely, hurt, and confused...I'm not sure what to do at this point. I am practically living out of my car now.

Any advice, or kind words are much appreciate at this time. I am just at a loss of words and actions...
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replied November 29th, 2016
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HUGS. Early pregnancy causes emotional swings that can threaten relationships. Guys don't have a clue. At least he is talking about a starting over point which you should pick up on as fast as possible. Ask for examples and how you might change your behavior. Look to your own childhood and the communication skills that were encouraged or suppressed. Ask if he would be interested in joint counseling, a threat to the egos of many but well worth it in the long run.

He is interested in being involved with the child. When the time comes encourage him to be in the delivery room, a powerful bonding experience. Do your best to keep an upbeat attitude when you are with him. We all like to be with cheerful people full of hugs and smiles.
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