I'm not even sure why I'm typing this. I'm just at my wits end. I'm 29 and can count the number of times I've had sex on my hands. This isn't due to the fact that I can't get a girl either. I'm a good looking fun loving bloke who appears pretty confident in all things that I do. This makes it worse as women just expect me to have had plenty of partners and be a dynamo in the sack, what's worse again is that it's always a hot women I end up in these dreaded situations with - I know, it's crazy, my problem is that hot women want to have sex with me! You couldn't make this up. I just avoid sex now.
The problem was premature ejaculation, only lasting a 1-3 minutes. It's a nightmare as it plays havoc with your mind. Now I simply dread the thought of going to bed with someone as I know what's going to happen. This has a knock on effect and you get so worried about it that you can't even get hard.
Last night I ended up in this situation again. Hot girl, likes me and I really like her. Complicated by the fact that she knows me and all my friends, in fact she's related to one of them! So, it's not like she's just a random that I don't have to see again. I've dodged the bullet for he last few weeks but ended up at hers last night. We messed about for a bit but that recurring thought wouldn't leave my head. I was waiting for it to get hard.... then I'm panicking about the fact its not getting hard! I mean, what exactly do you say to someone in that situation. Now I'm quite simply mortified, even worse than the last time I let this situation occur with someone else 2 years ago.
The not getting an erection is psychological I think, for the most part. I can masturbate well enough - in fact, I've practically perfected the art. But say I get it up then I have the pre-ejaculation issue to contend with and sometimes once its up it doesn't stay up - which makes me think maybe its not all in my head.
I even tried cialis once but it didn't help due to me panicking about how bad it could all turn out. I'm willing to give cialis / viagra another shot though as I'm desperate here.
I just, you know, want to be able to have a normal relationship with a girl. Do the stuff that boyfriends & girlfriends do and have sex like a normal person.
Is this something you go talk to your doctor about? Is there anything he could really do?
I'm seriously out of ideas here. People are starting to think I'm gay due to the whole lack of women thing. Hell, I've even wondered it - like is my brain deliberately doing this coz secretly it doesn't like girls, which I know doesn't make sense as it's women that I'm attracted to.
I'm not living like this for the rest of my life - I'm not contemplating suicide or anything like that at the min, but there's surely only so long a person can go before they start going down that route.
omg i know how u feel,i mean i am a girl but my b.f is the same as you,i feel like we're at the end breaking point,he is always depresses,he hasnt been able to get up for more than 2 mnths and to amke it even worse he hates the idea of taking any sort of drugs to help him,what am i supposed to do here? Whats happened with ur situation,any luck?
Ohh.. buddy that's sad... i went under ED myself.. so i can completely put myself in your shoes...well yes you 1st of all need to stop thinking that you would ejaculate soon have confidence in you that you will over come it..
it worked for me apart from this also learn to go with the flow..medicine will help you get an erection and your thought process will help you live it longer!! all the best buddy!!