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dude82
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young girl problem
Posted: 03-17-08 14:34pm
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I'm 26 and in the summer I enjoy heading
to the local beach, mostly to watch hot
girls 16 and up in their bikinis, which is
normal. I'm ok with this. I have to admit
I get really excited sexually prior to
going as well as once I'm there, even
before I see any girls.
However, sometimes I get very disappointed
on the days when I don't see any girls.
and end up turning my attention to young
girls 10-12, mostly 12. They really don't
arouse me but I will try and force myself
to get aroused by these young girls for
some weird and stupid reason. Is this a
problem? Is it the immense sexual build up
I have prior to going and not seeing the
older girls that's messing with my mind?
Please give me some feedback. Thanks.
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marvel
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Posted: 03-17-08 14:52pm
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I'm sure there are more people than we
know of out there who find young girls
(10-12) attractive. I think the important
thing is that you do not act on these
'forced' feelings of attraction.
And, I wouldn't suggest forcing yourself
to get aroused in the first place.... If
you don't find something attractive, don't
'force' yourself to get aroused by it.
There are plenty of other ways of getting
aroused... porn, masturbation, etc. etc.
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Georgia59
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Posted: 03-17-08 15:18pm
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Yeah! Look at porn instead!
I agree with marvel.
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dude82
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Posted: 03-17-08 16:19pm
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Ok I will try and stop this practice,
thanks. I'm not saying that I'm but if I
were slightly attracted on occasion to the
age group mentioned, would this be normal?
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Tylanas
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Posted: 03-17-08 20:15pm
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No, it's not "normal". Normal adults are
attracted to other people who are sexually
mature, not children. However, as long as
you do not act on these impulses then
nothing is legally wrong. You have the
freedom to think anything you want.
Go find some adult porn. If you have to
force this attraction, then it's clearly
due to boredom. Fix that issue.
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MiseEire
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Posted: 03-18-08 07:00am
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How exactly are you attracted to these
girls? Is it a deep sexual attraction or
do you just consider them to be cute for
lack of seeing any older good-looking
girls? If it's the former, you should try
to direct your attentions elsewhere.
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be82
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Posted: 03-18-08 15:44pm
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The only thing that seems bothersome is
that you're forcing yourself to be
sexually attracted to something you
ordinarily wouldn't find attractive. If
you're worried about being sexually
attracted to younger girls that can be of
some concern if they're really young. The
definition of a pedophile is someone whos
attracted to an individual of the opposite
sex who is UNDER the age of 12 (aka
prepubescent). Pretty much as long the
girl has signs of sexual maturity (breats,
hips, curves etc etc) then its perfectly
normal for a male to be sexually attracted
to them. I think the fact that youre on
this board looking for help or advice
shows that you might think you have a
problem.... Like what mostly everyone else
has said on this board, as long as you're
not acting on these urges I don't think
its of major concern, but if you start
feeling you might have a problem or you
might do something stupid you absolutely
need to seek some professional help. If I
were you I would masturbate before I went
to the beach and for god sakes stop trying
to make yourself attracted to these much
younger girls!!! Hope this helped.
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dude82
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Posted: 03-18-08 19:12pm
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They certainly grab my attention...whether
that is sexual or just beauty I'm unsure.
Whatever it is I sometimes try and force
myself to aroused. Sometimes sexual
thoughts may enter my mind I think. I do
have a lot of pent-up sexual engery when
I'm at the beach if that somehow is apart
of it. Does beauty have some tiny
underlying sexualness to to our
subconscience? Anyways, all I know is that
I'm way more attracted to mature females.
But, if I have some slight sexual
attractive to these young girls, which I
know it's not normal, it's not strong at
all and I don't see it interfering in my
life. I hope it's not though.
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Posted: 03-19-08 09:41am
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Well of course beauty has a sexuality in
our minds! You're not likely to be
sexually attracted to an ugly woman now
are you? No. You're likely to be sexually
attracted to a beautiful woman. Beauty is
the first step towards sexual attraction.
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dude82
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Posted: 03-19-08 12:19pm
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I mean even when it relates to young girls
(10-12). I get an attraction feeling when
I'm around these younger girls but I'm
unsure whether it's sexual or just beauty.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 03-19-08 14:20pm
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It's the same thing in my book, because
one leads to the other. You're attracted
to prepubescent girls, and that's kinda
sick, no matter how you label it. If you
start having the desire to act on your
attractions, then please, for your own
good, go to a psychiatrist.
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dude82
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Posted: 03-19-08 15:19pm
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If I'm attracted to young girls (10-12)
beauty, what's wrong with that? I think
it's only their beauty, and nothing
sexual. I think out of bordum I just try
and get aroused by them, which I'll stop,
because if nothing sexual is there, why
force it.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 03-19-08 15:50pm
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Why do you think they are "beautiful"? I
think a grown woman is beautiful; I think
a child is cute, like a puppy. I would
never be attracted in any way, shape or
form to a 10 year old boy; the thought
nauseates me. Why would you even think to
force something sexual? Pedophelia just
because you're bored isn't excusable.
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dude82
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Posted: 03-19-08 15:56pm
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I should note that I'm extremely attracted
to mature adult females. Most of time I
don't really notice the 10-12 yr olds when
I'm around them but occasionally I notice
them but I don't think it's sexual.
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dude82
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Posted: 03-19-08 16:13pm
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I do think the human body is beautiful and
children are beautiful in a way but I
agree women are truely beautiful. I don't
think beautiful is the right word, it's
probably just cuteness. Yes, I agree it's
quite sick to just force attractiveness
and I plan not to ever do this again. In
some twist way I have all this pent up
sexual engery and for some reason I get
frustrated and try and force an attraction
on something. It's werid so I will stop
it!
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dude82
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Posted: 03-19-08 16:17pm
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Please give me you're feedback. I hope I
don't have a problem.
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Georgia59
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Posted: 03-19-08 16:33pm
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Everybody can have unhealthy thoughts from
time to time. If you're able to recognize
this, redirect your focus, and be fine,
you don't have a problem.
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Posted: 03-19-08 18:05pm
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Redirecting to porn is just fine; that's
what it's there for! Believe me I know
about pent up sexual urges. I'm single
right now. Porn and masturbation are my
FRIENDS.
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dude82
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Posted: 03-19-08 19:26pm
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I hate to keep going on about this but
need to say some more. Thanks for your
help so far.
In a nutshell, I find younger girls
cute/pleasant to look at generally (which
I hope is ok)? I think what I do is use
those thoughts as a jumping off point for
myself to get aroused, which is wrong. So,
I will re focus my thoughts on other
things. I didn't want to mention this but
I'm physically disabled so, I don't have
much of a sexual outlet, not that it
excuses what I have been doing. Anyways, I
seriously hope I'm not a pedophile!
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Tylanas
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Posted: 03-19-08 19:48pm
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You're borderline, but if you properly
redirect your feelings I think you will be
ok.
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