Yet another request for sex advice with a small penis.

Ive been (and remain) in your shoes. While there are women who need a large organ, most women who are emotionally invested in a man to the point of going to bed with him are there for him rather than for it. That is the good news.

The less than good news is, of course, your size - thats not going to change. This is where you need to be creative and develop your skills. Assuming you are in shape, you will find that most intecourse positions will work. I personally like positions like the missionary position in which I can rub my pubic bone against hers while inside her. In this position, length does not matter and it actually is easier with a shorter penis. Same goes for woman-on-top if she likes to grind and rub. If she likes long strokes, you have at least four inches to work with, assuming you withdraw completely with each stroke. This pokes and stretches the vaginal opening each time. Doing Kegel exercises (tightening the muscle you would use to stop the flow of urine when you are urinating) can also help give you a little extra girth (this happens when you tighten the muscle) and help you control your ejaculation. Many women find this pulsing effect enjoyable, especially when nearing their own orgasm.

Oral and manual skills are essential, too. This not only spices up the encounter but also, by increasing the womans arousal, adds to the congestion of the genital organs, giving you a snugger fit and giving her the feeling of being penetrated by a larger organ.

While some women will automatically reject a guy who does not measure up, my experience, even with women who were initially skeptical or surprised at my small penis size, is that penis size is only one variable in the totality of a sexual experience.

You can make it bigger, google PEgym (penis enlargement gym) lots of men there have made huge gains by using stretching exercises, it takes awhile apparently but does work. The penis is stretched over a period of time with a special weight, when healing occurs the muscle heals in the longer/thicker way any muscle does.

Ive not tried it myself, i measure 7.5 x 6, this is supposed to be fine but see it as inadequate, i came across that site from research, it seems to be the only way to get bigger.

It could be helpful for you to also improve your oral and hand skills.

A supposed Nurse, on some web site asked: "What's the big deal with men and their concern about Penis Size?
Women don't care."
My answer for her goes something like this:
"Man's concern about Penile Size, is the same as, women's concern over Breast Size
It's AESTHETICS, Pure and Simple!"

Do you know what the biggest sexual organ is? The BRAIN! And honestly, the most sensitive part of a woman's vulva--her clitoris--won't be affected by how big or small you are. I know pornography makes men think women get pleasure from being stretched to the limit by some huge thing, but real women don't work like that. Focus on connecting with her heart and being confident--and I mean that in the sense of real confidence, which is not acting like you're fearless or perfect, but just being yourself; admit when you feel vulnerable or scared of rejection, if she cares for you, she'll want to help. I don't think most men understand how important emotional connection is to helping a woman enjoy sex--being a good lover isn't really about pushing the right buttons or technique in the head, so much as it is about being caring, asking how you can please her, and creating a connection with her heart through little things in your ordinary day, not just when you're ready for sex. Personally, I've seen a larger penis that I loved and thought was very beautiful, and I've also been madly, passionately in love with a man who'd actually had to endure a penectomy as part of cancer treatment, and he was every bit as beautiful to me (not to say you don't have a right to your fears, but think how full of doubts HE was)--and you know something? It didn't matter, because I cared about him as a whole person. Bottom line, some women are obsessed with penis size, and some men are obsessed with breast size, but would you really want to be with somebody like that? There are plenty of amazing, wonderful women out there--Hold out for the woman who's right for you & she'll love you as you are. Also, you know the most sensitive part of the vagina is the first two inches past the opening, right? If you're happy to supply her with oral sex, that'll get everything engorged and you should be just fine. Don't stress! And PS--re the part in your post about not being able to "pound away the way some girls seem to like"--SOME and SEEM are key words there. As a woman, I would feel like curling up and dying if a guy just pounded away at me, but I also thought for a long time that that's how men ALL wanted sex to be--tell her you want to make love to her and for things to be sensual and gentle, and maybe even look into some Tantric stuff--I PROMISE you, not all women consider a giant wiener thrusting away at them the gold standard for sex!

Hey Queenie,

Thanks for taking the time to reply. This was helpful in putting things in perspective, and I suppose you're right; being a good lover and having a relationship is more about the connection you make with your partner, less about bottomless orgasms.I guess I should start thinking a bit more about the person connected to the end of the penis.