16 years old and starting pill Posted: 06-29-08 20:37pm
Well, I'm 16 years old and lovin' it! But
I'm not sure if I should start birth
control...although I think it's a good
idea. I've been going out with my
boyfriend for a while now, and we've had
many "talks" about this kind of thing. Let
me just say what you're probably thinking:
"Don't rush into things. You're too
young."
The fact is is that we have both discussed
things very maturally about having sex or
not, the consequences, and what we would
do if a problem arose (like getting
pregnant).
We are very comfortable sexually; we're
able to have fun with out going "all the
way" because we have accepted that we will
not be doing anything unless we have birth
control.
Talking about the "what if" scenarios is
within our comfort zone, rarely awkward
and usually an enjoyable conversation: it
gets everything on the table rather than a
potential awkward or uncomfortable
situation.
I am 16, yes, but in my own opinion, when
it comes to talking about/acting on sex, I
feel that we have handled ourselves better
than a lot of adults. We have discussed
the awkward, and we have both come to the
conclusion that we are ready.
And another thing...this is a boyfriend
that cares more about me in a situation
like this more than himself. We have had
times when I have felt uncomfortable doing
things and he was the one to stop to make
sure I was ok. This is not a relationship
just in it "for the sex" it is built on a
lot more trust and looking after each
other.
I pretty much answered my OWN question,
about going on the pill, but I still want
a general idea of when most people
would/anything about it... The thing is
the only thing KEEPING us from having sex
is the fact that I'm not on birth control.
We have both agreed that we will not have
sex on just condoms alone (it's too risky,
even though we have them. By the way,
that's the boyfriend's opinion too). So if
I go on the pill, basically we would have
sex, because that's what we want. I would
also feel that it would be right that if
we are the ones doing the deed, we should
be the ones paying for the birth control.
(What do you think?)
I'd also like an opinion on this
situation... Teenagers are usually labeled
for not being ready for sex. Well, that's
because they don't THINK ABOUT IT or
COMMUNICATE. Two teenagers exploring a
healthy sexual relationship vs. adults who
have a one-night stand. What really sounds
more healthy/mature here?
Age is not the factor...the ability to
maturally handle a situation is.
Your thoughts?
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Posted: 06-29-08 21:18pm
Good for you for actually having a
conversation with your boyfriend and for
being prepared and thinking things
through...i find many people your age and
mine dont even think about the "what ifs"
until after the deed has been done...I
think you and your boyfriend both sound
pretty responsible..good for you for
thinking smart
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Posted: 06-30-08 10:37am
YES definitely get birth control
A place like Planned Parenthood would be
great for you! MANY PP locations offer
free or extra low cost services to teens,
and they sell BC for very inexpensive.
Private doctors tend to charge a lot for a
visit, unless you use your parents
insurance.
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alison0197 Posted: 06-30-08 11:32am
hi its good to no that yyou and your boy
friend have talked about having sex and
not rushed into it like so many 16 year
olds do.i would definatly go for the birth
control.i am 36 and have 3 children i got
pregnant at 16,i jumped in with both
feet.i didnt think of the consequenses at
all and i could not talk too my boy friend
at the time.
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Posted: 06-30-08 18:05pm
I'd say go for it too.
You sound very mature for your age. The BC
isnt the big deal here it's whether or not
YOU feel it's the right time for you to
have sex, not just based on your maturity
but also based on your feelings and
emotions. Just make sure you would never
regret it, and the time is right. I'd say
get on it and wait a few months until
you're sure, and that way you'll be
prepared when you do want it to happen.
It also helps a lot if you have a mom or
older sister you can discuss this with
too. My mom put me on BC when i was 16 and
i had just started dating my bf, we hadnt
even thought about sex yet. I'm now 21 and
am very thankful, especially when seeing
many girls my age and much younger
pregnant when i'm doing their ultrasounds.
I know your BF probably seems very mature
and i dont doubt that he cares for you
very much but when a situation like
unexpected teen preegnancy arises, guys do
have the tendency to change. It's up to
YOU to protect yourself.
It's much better to have teens on BC then
have a bunch of teen mothers, on welfare
with kids who will have horrible lives, in
a lot of cases.
If you pay for the BC make sure he pays
for the condoms (and dont stop using
condoms until you ARE ready to take
responsibility for a baby). I didnt trust
my BC alone when i first started having
sex.
Hope this helps
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