hi, u r unusual in that u r not crying HE IS not turned on by me, and a typical woman in that u r nurturing and that is nice;
. . so try this; go to vitamin store and buy Horny Goat Weed and Yohimbe and give it to him and see if this helps
u can also try different positions like doggie and u on top facing forward and back
also some guys can't keep it up when they drink so smoke instead (if u like that)
. . good luck