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July 16th, 2009
Hey this is my first time ever posting on the internet, but i really needed someone to talk to and I need some answers. I was with my boyfriend for 6 years on and off, because we have had problems in the past with him cheating on me. We moved on from that and were fine until recently when I am 7 months pregnant with his kid. Well he ended the relationship at 6 months. He said he just couldnt take it anymore with me acting like the boss of him, really all i was asking was for him to stop doing the drugs and drinkin, and slowly get away from his group of friends."they are losers". But come to find out he messed with one of his managers from work, he denied it over and over again until last night finally came out and told me. I am so hurt that one he can do this to me again and two when Im pregnant with his child he was able to do what he did. He is a hypocrit because after he ended things with me I hung out with one of my friends that he never liked me to hang out with becasue once when we werent together she introduced me to another guy. so he thought the same thing would happen again, he flipped on me. He kept texting me the whole night I was out saying he couldnt believe I was doing this to him. I wasnt doing anything wrong but sitting with a few girls talking.If he ended things and did what he did then why does he care what I do? I'm a stubborn person and honestly dont want him nor think its fair if he is in the baby's life, he tells me he crys at night because he doesnt want that...WHAT DO I DO???
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lawllllllll
replied July 18th, 2009
Talk to him in a serious manner about the future of your kid and how we plans to be the father figure. And yes do keep away from his friends and tell him to keep you company more, woman tend to be more "controlling" one could say while they are pregnant. Have a deep conversation with him and tell him how much you BOTH need each other, and the child.
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josieR
replied July 18th, 2009
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lawllllllll wrote:
Have a deep conversation with him and tell him how much you BOTH need each other, and the child.


I don't know if that is the best advice.



this man is on drugs, and drinks and cheats on a woman that is pregnant with his child.


my dad, was the same kind of guy. I honestly have siblings months older and younger than me from him cheating on my mom. I spent the first 6 years of my life living with mum and dad and a brother and sister from my mom and things were rough. dad was always disappearing for days at a time, doing his own thing and coming home usually when the police brought him there. after a night of drinking and him getting slightly touchy feely with my sister my mom decided to leave him and life, well, life was entirely different. sure, its weird going to kindergarten without a dad but by the second grade its weird to have two parents.


about two years ago, he found me on myspace. he insisted everyone else was to blame, that my sister exaggerated his inappropriate touching, that my mom and brother lied about him beating her, and even that more recently, his ex wife had lied about him beating her and he wrongfully spent time in jail....


honestly, the man is insane, one of those that need serious help, he really blamed everything on everyone else like he was an innocent party to it all, forever wrongfully accused.


we sent a few messages back and fourth over a couple of days before I decided my mom had did the right thing in cutting ties with him. deep down I was curious but upon talking to him, he couldn't tell me a single good thing about himself. whats worse is that he never asked a single thing about me. didn't ask if I was in college, if I had any kids, what i did for work. 16 years without him in my life and he wasn't even the slightest bit curious about me. instead he told me about my months younger sister and how she was gay and how her mom made her that way and how he hates gays..... about all the s*** he used to get in trouble for but never did....


anyways, I guess what I'm really trying to say is really, honestly, think hard. if your instincts tell you you and your baby will be better off without him, go with it. there are other fish in the sea
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rightside
replied July 18th, 2009
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And you want to stay in touch with this loser why? First, make sure your baby is ok, since his father was on drugs and booze when he/she was conceived. Then, if you were smart, you wouldn't set within a 500 mile radius of this guy. He is bad news plain and simple. If he is doing drugs, boozing and cheating now, and has done it in the past, he will continue to do it in the future. Do you want to be the lucky recipiant of all this wonderful behavior, let alone your child? You need to think of your baby and yourself first. He is definitely NOT a good example for a child to follow. And you will end up with years of misery if you stay with him.
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starship33
replied July 25th, 2009
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i dont agree with denying a child their father, but if the guy is on drugs, how well could he care for a child. it wouldnt be good to put a child in harms way.
if he wants to see his child, he should get himself together by getting off of drugs. if he is really serious he could go through the courts and get visitations that is in a setting where he is being watched.
right now just think about your baby and what's best for him or her.
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foxxyboxxy
replied August 14th, 2009
so sorry
I'm pregnant and my boyfriend left me. I'm 2 days away from the last day I can exercise my "choice", I don't want to force anyone to be with me but since I've never wanted children in my life I can't imagine doing this alone. Yet, I can't even imagine not going through with this pregnancy.

I'm so sorry this happened to you, I can't imagine being to the point of pregnancy that you're at and being under this much stress. I don't know a lot about pregnancy and children, but I know they aren't supposed to be done under these circumstances. If they were, stress wouldn't cause miscarriage and it wouldn't take two people to make a baby.

It might be best to grin and bear it and do it yourself, with out someone this negative in your life, things might be better for you.
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