So, a three year
relationship could take a million days to
explain. To get to the point, here is
what has happened.
We're both young... I just turned 21 and
he is one year younger than me. We have
been dating for what would have been 3
years this July.
Our relationship was up and down. He
lived 40 minutes away from me and I didn't
have a car, only he did. We'd see each
other once, sometimes twice a week. When
we were together, I was on heaven on
earth. I was so happy, we had such
amazing times together. We clicked so
well, we were in love and happy. As soon
as we weren't together, we'd argue over
the phone, flight over dumb stuff. He's
never done anything to make me not trust
him, but I always had these questions in
the back of my mind. He started to get
miserable and fed up with my attitude. He
told me was was a negative person.
I was very unhappy.. I'd cry everyday,
he'd hang up on me every night. I always
was depressed, but when I saw him I was
happy.
About 3 months ago, his mom had purchased
tickets to go to Hawaii together for her
wedding that is taking place there. We
were stoked!! I've never been away
before, and my heart was racing everyday!
I was so excited.
We're supposed to leave on May 29th, 2008.
On Wednesday May 21st, 2008 he called it
quits for good. He said he was done being
unhappy with me. I too realize why we
can't be together, however it's so hard on
me due to the 3 years of memories. He was
my first love, first everything.
Now I'm stuck and I don't know what to do.
Should I go to Hawaii with him or not?
He's telling me to come, his mom is
telling me to come. His mom is assuring
me I will have good time and she will do
anything in her power to make me happy
while there. She is backing me up on this
and helping me out. She told me she loves
me like a daughter and said that she would
want me with the best man possible, and
she feels her son is not that guy for me.
People are saying I should go to hawaii
and not spend all my time with him. Just
go for myself so I can relax and get away.
When I come back, have a fresh start to
my life without him in it.
My heart is scared to go. I'm scared that
going will make getting over him harder.
Although I am keeping in mind why I
shouldn't be with him.
I want to go, but I don't want to go.
I don't know what to do.
Opinions?
I'd greatly appreciate it.
but then again I
could see how it could be
uncomfortable/awkward for you, but at the
same time it could benefit your
relationship as well...maybe you two can
move forward as friends, or work things
out and decide to get back together...i
think you should go to hawaii though 