Let me start by saying I've read many problems people have on Forums and My problems could never amount to some Issues people have to deal with. Makes it seem as if my Depression isn't even worth speaking about. Although I feel the need to release my problem. I am a 16 Year old Teenage Boy thats been Depressed roughly 5 Weeks due to Love. Although The average Individual assumes a Teenager cannot have a Serious relationship. That at age 16 Each relationship is a Joke and doesn't know what Love is. May I say I believe I am an exception to this Rule. My story starts about a Year ago. At this time My number of friends were lacking and I never really had a "Best Friend" A school trip changed that forever. This Girl a year younger than me went on this trip and within a Day of talking with me, getting to know me, and being around me gained Interest in me. Being a somewhat Shy kid that doesn't open up to people right away, Most people don't find an interest in me right away. She did. And After this trip Her and I texted on a Daily Bases from 6 In the Morning until we went to sleep. Even during School and Class. She liked me...It was certain from the start. I myself wouldn't enter a Relationship without sure knowledge of the other person. We spent so much time texting and getting to know each other. She wanted to me ask her out as her Friends told me But I needed time to Open up. Eventually after 6 Months of our Nonstop talking, We went to a Carnival which was in town for the week and I asked her if we can start dating. From that Day I could call her not only my Best Friend, But my Girl Friend as well. 9 Months of our Relationship took place. During this I ended up giving Myself fully to her. She mean't everything to me and Things I did before I met her didn't matter anymore. We talked everyday texting and all. I could tell her anything! I felt so Loved. This relationship mean't Literally everything to me and I gave everything into it. I'd do anything for her. It came to the point where I was giving more than she was and She mean't more to me than I did to her. This was evident to our friends around us. Despite our lack of Personal time together due to her Strict parents I was still happier than I've ever been in my entire life. Giving so much to this Relationship.....9 Months after that Day I asked her to date me....She broke it to me. She said she doesn't feel the same way about me. She said I'm her best friend and doesn't want to lose that and wants to stay friends. I feel no anger towards her....Just depression. Of course anyone will say "Oh theres more fish in the sea" "Your a Teenager they'll be plenty more after her" But I've been depressed for Over a Month now and it isn't going away anytime soon. All I think about is her and I miss her so much and want her back. We almost never speak now. In school I'll pass her in the Hallways and not even a Hello is exchanged. I was addicted and now am feeling withdrawls. I don't think I'm an average Teenager. How can I find someone like her again...Someone who was Interested in me first. Who liked the same things as I do. Who looks the same way. I'm hurting. Everyday feels pointless than the next. Who else can I share the things in a relationship Including the Intimacy. I'm lost and Miss her so much. No one understands me. My friends have the mind of a Perdictable Teenager. They don't understand....Feels no one does. I'm Depressed over this and it Hurts in my chest. It may just be nothing and viewed to Most who read this as just some Stuipd Teenager with nothing close to what could be considered a Real problem. I don't know. I just feel depression and this is my reason. If anyone would like to talk with me about this.....It would be greatly Appericated.
i had also felt the same ,i fell in love with this guy when i was just a freshman(college) and after i dumped him because he is immature and doesn't care about his studies but i like him . After that we barely say Hi to each other because it feels awkward!
i know exactly how you feel.
the best thing to do is talk to people, maybe not your friends because they might give you the wrong thing you want to here , but someone older , like a sibling cousin parent anyone.
make sure you dont bottle it up because that is the worst thing possible and creates more problems.
You will eventually get over it , as it might take a while, you have to do things to occupy yourself.
hang out with friends more , do things that ur good at and that will distract yourself.
Try to have a positive mind , like " it will get better down the track" , and " i dont need a girl to bring me down".
It is obviously hard to try to think positive but thinking negative will make things worse...
also look things up on the internet in books of how you can help yourself if you dont know what to do
its easier said than done but hopefully this helps a little.
I have to be honest. Ypu may not ever get over it. You just have to try to carry on & not let it rule your life. I've felt like this for almost 10 years, since I was 15 because I fell in love with the wrong person. DON'T let it ruin your life. I hurts me everyday I blame what happened for ll my problems but I have to try not to. The only time I'm happy is when I forget them, I just wish I could forget him most of the time. You have to nip this in the bud, don't hold out for her, she ain't coming back. If you don't let her go now it (this bad feeling) will stay with you for the rest of your life. I wish I'd let him go back in 2001 and just got drunk and got on with my life. I think I'd be much more successful now. Believe me I know what I'm saying is hard but you have to try. Someone gave me this advice a few years ago and it has took the edge of it, but I think if you do this now, early on then it'll be alot easier for you. ATB