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I am 70 and have always had a sexual obsession for
masturbating. I have not had any sexual relations with my wife for
over ten years now. I have always had a problem with a firm erection
from age 55.

When I ejaculate, hardly anything comes out.

If I stop for a period of time will I regain a firm erection
again? Or is there some medicine I could take to help replace my lost
juices?

I am not thinking of Viagra etc, as I want to try and do this without
such devices.

Hope you are not offended by my questions.


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replied January 20th, 2011
why do you care about the juices...do you have an orgasm?
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replied October 6th, 2013
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In reply to "Pranga17" I'am 67 and masturbate 2 or 3 times a day, it is very enjoyable, I do not cum every time I do it, that is usually about 4 or 5 times a week, so I would just relax and enjoy yourself and don't worry about what might come out or not, masturbating is a good excercise for us older uns.
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replied October 15th, 2012
Masturbation is a great, keep it up.

Even without an erection, you can still have an orgasm.

Enjoy. That's what it's there for.
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replied October 6th, 2013
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ey there wow, how can you masturbate without an erection, yes you can play with you willy as if it is a toy, swinging left and right, but to take a grip of a penis, it has to be at least 3/4 erect and a full session should be fully erect, I do agree with you that masturbation is great, I do it 2 or 3 times a day in a regular bases, at age 67 I don't always ejaculate every time, but it is still very pleasurable nevertheless.
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replied March 7th, 2013
I am 78 and still masturbate regularly though the force of the ejaculation is much less than it used to be. Edging (delaying and holding back) produces good results
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replied October 6th, 2013
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Congratulations "Wulfstan" its great to know that you still masturbate at 78 on a regular basis, you must be still be in good health, some of that to do with masturbating through the years. I am 67 and still do it 2 or 3 times a day, but like you I delay back the ejaculate if I think that its not going to cum, that usually is in the region of 3 or 4 times a week, holding back as you say produces a fantastic amount of semen.
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replied March 7th, 2013
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This is a happening with aging...as well as the reason while men who enjoy sexual intercourse at this age do not masturbate...Not to worry...Just part of life...Take care...

Caroline
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replied August 7th, 2013
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Don't masturbate so often, say if you masturbate 3 or 4 times a week,that's every second day or third day, then you should ejaculate some semen. I find that sometimes when I masturbate, after a while, say 5 minutes, my penis will just go down, it only wants to be played with, not to fully climax and ejaculate. So don't worry, if you want to masturbate 4 or 5 times a day, don't expect a climax, it just wants to be played with, you cannot force semen to come out at your age all the time.
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replied August 11th, 2013
I am in your age bracket and enjoy masturbating very, very much. Although I have been married for many years, I have always masturbated because it gives me a release of tension.
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replied August 11th, 2013
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Curious,
Good input, I will be 70 in couple of weeks and I have been married for 48 yrs. Masturbation always gives me a lot of pleasure, also. It gives a balance to my sex drive vs my wife's. I take it , by your site name, that you are 73. You are doing good. ojsam
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replied August 28th, 2013
As a younger man, I appreciate reading all of your experiences. I have a son and am curious to know, did any of your father's discuss masturbation with you? Was it advantageous or just creepy. My son is still young yet but I am not sure if it is w benefit to discuss it. My father didn't with me and I grew up with some guilt, shame and just plain ole curiosity because of the lack of communication about masturbation and sex in general. I'd appreciate some wisdom from older men.
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replied October 6th, 2013
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Hi "Almost36" I assume you are 35, however, regarding discussing masturbation, I never discussed that with my father and have never discussed it with my son, its just a thing I do and have done but never talked about it. I don't think that there is anything wrong if your son ever asked you about it, but he probably won't. I doubt if you will discuss that subject with him either. At 35 I assume you have a son who will, if not already is in his early teens, only mention that subject to him if he asks you, he probably won't.
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replied September 3rd, 2013
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Hi Pranga,

I'll turn 55 this year and I masturbate regularly. I enjoy it and hope I can still do so when I am your age.

Don't worry about your ejaculate unless it contains blood or something equally disturbing. Just have fun!

I would assume you masturbate because it gives you pleasure. I see no reason to stop or question it so long as you still get the pleasure.

Feels great, doesn't it?
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replied September 3rd, 2013
Hi, I too am older too 68, and enjoy masturbating about once a day, sometime twice. I like to watch porn to get me in the mood, does not get very hard and don't ejaculate very much, but oh boy it still feels good, keep it up.
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replied September 4th, 2013
Hi jhgTaxpayer: Just a curious question for you. Did you always masturbate at least once a day or is this something that you do more often now that you are older? My husband is 60 and up until a year ago he had a pretty good sexual appetite. Now once a week maybe. I on the other hand would like it once a day and he is not finding himself in the mood more than once a week. He use to masturbate between our love making for years but now he doesn't because he says he has a hard enough time keeping up with me. I am hoping this will change? I am also hoping that it doesn't continue to get worse. Any suggestions? I am 53, keep myself in excellent shape. Please tell me this is a phase!
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replied September 4th, 2013
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Creaturesofthabit,
When I was 60 I started having low testestrone and did not start treatment until I was 63 and it changed my sex drive with in a few weeks and I feel great and I am still taken the shots on reg. basis. My wife stared last year also.. It has to be checked as you get older..
Hope this helps, ojsam
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replied September 4th, 2013
Hi ojsam: Thanks for the reply. I don't know if my husband would be willing to do the shots or not. I am guessing his testostrone is low too. He had a heart attack a few years ago and is on HBP and cholestrol pills so I don't know if his Dr. would let him do the shots or not. It is worth inquiring about though. I am pretty frustrated sometimes that a once active man went south on me in less than a years time. Thanks for the suggestion.
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replied September 12th, 2013
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You say he had a heart attack a while back, has high blood pressure and is on cholesterol meds too? Maybe I'm off base, but he may not feel that he can handle that level of physical exertion more often. (i.e. thinking that he's risking another cardiac event...)

You should encourage him to have a frank discussion with his doctor about this entire scenario including the T question.

If it is feasible, you could attend that appointment with him and all three of you have a frank discussion. This will likely yield the best result from the Dr. visit, but depending on the couple it may not be possible.

Anyway, your husband may just need reassurance that having sex won't kill him or he may need low dose anti-anxiety meds or it may be related to his T level. It could also be a side effect of some of his meds. you didn't say if he is on other meds too.

Hope this helps and wishing you many future orgasms,

Clyde
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replied September 13th, 2013
Hi Clyde,
Thanks for your response. No my husbands decline in interest is not about his past heart attack. When days are good they are good. It is just with less frequency. The desire to want more. He is not nervous about sex bringing on another heart attack. He was anxious after the heart attack as a matter of fact to make sure everything was still working...hehe. I believe now it is more of the aging with men process and low testosterone levels, which he hasn't had checked but I am hoping he will. Then we can address, shots etc. when and if that time comes..thanks again.
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replied September 14th, 2013
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Ok, Glad to hear that you don't have to cross that bridge-it can be a real challenge. I would move forward with investigating the T levels. There is a lot of evidence that it can make a WORLD of difference.

Good luck
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replied September 13th, 2013
My "T" was low so my Dr. gave me shots, realy did nothing, but on my next check-up my red cells were way up, like three times normal, so be careful with the shots.
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replied September 13th, 2013
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Jhg This issue that you brought up can be controlled and watched by your DR with Reg check ups. The "T" treatment for aging men is extremely critical to many areas of their health and will being. The increase of red cells can also be caused by too much air being used from CPAP breathing devise. You can also give your blood every 56 days to help control this level. The input you made should have come with more of your details instead scaring the h--- of a person. Such as,
how much of a dosage you were being given and how often was you taking the shot and what did the DR do, did he reduce your dosage? Did he stop giving you the shot? Did your blood work show that you returned to normal when you stopped taking the shot? You can not state this level of reply without more details, BE CAREFUL is not enough info.. I have been taking "T" treatment with reg, check ups for almost 8 years and it changed my life, and my blood is right on the money and I will be glad to share my details with any body that ask..
jhgtaxpayer, I am sorry if this offends you in any way,
I will be glad to discuss this with you in the private message system... ojsam
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replied September 4th, 2013
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All I can say that "T" helped me so much, more then sex drive. I am sure the DR can advise him better than me. But, it does sound like my life when I was 60 to 63. My thoughts only.. good luck, ojsam
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replied September 20th, 2013
creaturesofhabit, you have received many good suggestions to evaluate your husbands diminished desire. Frankly, what you describe, although undesirable, is not unusual with his age and history. I hope you will not be offended by my suggestion that you consider alternative methods to give yourself the sexual release you need. There are many masturbation devices on the market that users find highly effective and satisfying. Good luck.
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replied September 24th, 2013
Hi Rule22,
Thanks for the reply. No, I am not offended by your suggestion. I was glad to get some feedback. I hear where you are coming from but I still believe my husband is 60...he certainly should have some good years left, so I am going to continue to pursue a better solution but certainly understand where you are coming from just the same. I am not letting him off the hook that easily. When I replied to this post I thought certainly if these men that are 70 or almost 70 have the need and desire to masturbate almost daily, some twice...he has to have something going on inside him still right? I am going to pursue his staying active as long as I can, somehow. Thanks again for your reply.
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replied September 27th, 2013
Hi creaturesofhabit, yes, your husband should still have desire, and apparently he does, but to a minimal degree. Age should not be an issue. Men in their 80's are still engaging in sex and masturbation multiple times a week. As you know, sex is largely mental. Typically men can get turned on very easily just by sights and thoughts. Whether in the mood or not, if you get him aroused, which is usually not hard for a man, perhaps he will then follow through. Try the testosterone supplementation and be sexually forward and hopefully, something will click. If you think about it after trying the various suggestions you have received, let me know if things have improved for you. A success story would be nice.
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replied September 27th, 2013
Thanks again for the reply. Yes, we have a few things we are looking into trying and I will come back to update on a good success story for sure.
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replied September 30th, 2013
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Masturbation itself does not cause any damage and adverse consequences. However, excessive masturbation is a form of mental disorder, and will seriously affect their health, resulting in some of the urinary and reproductive system diseases, sexual neurasthenia, recommended 1-2 times a week.
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replied December 8th, 2013
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Farwell,

Can you give us the DSM code for that "Mental disorder"?

It would certainly make a believer out of me and validate your statements.

Thanks
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replied September 30th, 2013
farwell, I suggest you comment only on those things where you actually have some expertise. Masturbation "to excess", however one wishes to define that, is not a mental condition, nor does it cause disease. If you wish to make such claims, please cite your references so people can check your "facts"
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replied September 30th, 2013
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Rule22,
You are so right on your input to farwell. I should already said what you stated. Thanks for getting the job done...ojsam
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replied October 7th, 2013
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Hi everyone, been reading through ALL the posts above, very interesting indeed, no, you cannot masturbate to excess, the body would not allow that. Very often, sometimes as much as 2 or 3 times a day, I will get an erection and masturbate slowly for 3 or 4 minutes, gradually my penis will go down and not ejaculate, that's OK with me, I would NEVER force the cum to come, however, every so often my penis will stay up and the semen will come out without any force whatsoever, the lesson is just take it gently, no force needed, if you do force it out, that can be dangerous, particularly for guys in their 60's or over.
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replied October 7th, 2013
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Hi everyone, been reading through ALL the posts above, very interesting indeed, no, you cannot masturbate to excess, the body would not allow that. Very often, sometimes as much as 2 or 3 times a day, I will get an erection and masturbate slowly for 3 or 4 minutes, gradually my penis will go down and not ejaculate, that's OK with me, I would NEVER force the cum to come, however, every so often my penis will stay up and the semen will come out without any force whatsoever, the lesson is just take it gently, no force needed, if you do force it out, that can be dangerous, particularly for guys in their 60's or over.
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replied October 7th, 2013
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PS don't understand why my post came up twice, I only wrote it once, computers are strange things!!
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