Personally, I do not consider this cheating.
Have you ever experimented with possibly watching them with your husband?
I have found that to be fun for me and my husband. Usually men find it to be a turn on when their wives are willing to participate.

However, I do see a trust issue. While you are disappointed with him watching these movies, I find it hard to believe that any man is willing to quit looking at it altogether.

so I'm gonna tell you..........if this were something your husband has done for years......he will continue. I would not object lets say if it were my husband, I tell him as long as he keeps it private and I do not have to see it or hear it , be descrete......no problem. He keeps his magazines in his bathroom, under the sink. Courtesy for me. I mean, as times wears on, I am older. I can not compete with a 20 year old anymore...I am 50, and a month ago lost a breast. So my husband is a lot more considerate. He also needs to get his own computer if he is gonna contiinue this. You do not need to have to have this in your FACE when you trun on computer.........I would not call it cheating..............there are other terms for what I call this..........

unless the video was made FOR HIM by that woman and they had some cyber sex thing going on I wouldn't consider it cheating...its just some amateur girl he's watching to get off real fast...i could see how maybe it would make you uncomfortable, sometimes I wonder if my bf wants me to be more like a girl in a video..but at the same time he's probably thinking the same thing in the back of his mind when he sees a guy with a u know what bigger than his, it was just some video I wouldn't get too upset...however, I WOULD have a problem with those web cam things...if hes watching some girl live take off her clothes and stuff, i dunno thats just weird and crossing the line..stick to porno, have your fun..so long as he isn't using any web cams or anything i think its ok...maybe as someone else said you two could watching something together..before long you'll have all his attention

I don’t know… I’m really conservative when it comes to things like this, and I completely understand where you’re coming from. It hurts to think that your husband gets turned on by another woman. In an ideal world men should only desire their wives, and would want to make love to them rather than just do the deed to get the physical relief associated with pornography.
But, alas, it is not an ideal world - so what the heck?
Maybe we should both try and be a bit more open minded about sex and try what the previous posters suggested.
It might just spice up our sex lives a little.
(Gosh, I hope my fiancé doesn’t read this post! Lol)

I used to be the same way really,and I do agree with you, I remember when I first actually saw some of the things my bf was looking at i was insulted and upset...but then realized I was just being sort of insecure..these women are fake..and porn is so staged its not even funny(minus the amatuer stuff)...PLUS 8 months of our relationship for a while was long distance...SO, what the heck did i expect?! haha, i mean thats what he'd used while i was away...why would he stop if he wanted alittle quick relief? We have even watched a few things together just once or twice(more for him than for me)...5 minutes later he wasn't even paying attention to the video, I had all the attention so as I stated before...web cams is crossing the line..that gets into cyber sex and that IS cheating to me..but if its some cheap porno clip or even a dvd...eh..who cares..thats just some video girl...I'M the real deal haha

Thank you for all of your responses! We have talked things out, and i think, well, i HOPE that he understands me now! We used to watch porn together all the time, and then, i dont know what happened, but it totally turned me off, i think because i was thinking that he was getting turned on by watching it, and that is the only reason we had sex! LOL.. heck, i dunno. But we did have good sex when we did that, now we pretty much do the same thing and it is BORING! So maybe i just need to be a COOL wife, and bring that stuff back! hmmm ??!?! He says he learns from it! Porn really wasn't the big issue though, it was just that what i found on the computer was not porn that he could "learn" from. Oh well, its over now, only up from here i hope! Can't change anything, thats for sure