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Every time that I have a heavy nights drinking,I get really depressed and worried for the next few days. Just this past weeekend I had a work night out. Everybody from the company was there,which is a few hundred people.

Drink was flowing and my memory of the night is hazy to say the least. I ended up talking with this girl from work,and eventually we went back to a house party.Nothing happened,not for lack of effort on my part,but now im ashamed because I have a girlfriend and she has a boyfriend.Back at this party,some guy accused us of cheating on our partners,and im now ashamed and worried incase this rumour catches on at work. As I said,nothing happened,but for some reason I am now worried about what stories will circulate around work.Even as i write this,i can see how crazy and dumb it sounds,but for whatever reason,alcohol just seems to put all these horrible feelings of guilt,worry and depression into my head,despite nothing actually happening.Why do I feel this way?

I know it might sound ridiculous,but im dreading going back to work.Why do I worry so much about what other people think? Im assuming its something to do with the fact that i was so drunk,that i cant recall most of the night,and am afraid of what i might have said or done. Alcohol seems to worry and depress me and make me focus on the negatives. Anybody have similar experiences or feelings after a lot of alcohol?
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replied July 6th, 2008
Extremely eHealthy
i too get some of the same guilty feelings, just because freshman year of college when I first starting drinking I'd go out, get insanely drunk and make a total fool of myself, i'd wake up the next morning feeling like a complete idiot even though most of my friends thought it was hilarious..i hated the feeling of waking up and trying to recall what stupid things I had done... so from now on, when I drink I make sure to take it slow and drink in moderation...very rarely will I get to the point of being drunk anymore, i've learned my lesson about alcohol the hard way...so just slow down on the drinking...take it easy
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replied October 20th, 2009
paranoia after night out
i am in the same boat,everytime i go out on a night out drinking i drink so much i get blanks in the morning and its the little word what IF gets in to my head, what IF something happened in that blank (as people say your more likely to remember somethin that happened rather than it being blank) the next day i get my phone bill up on comp and put all my times together and if theres a space for half a hour i think where did i go who was i with what did i say...... i feel so low for about a week after it. i was out this weekend stupidly walked home (hours walk)came home went to my neighbours party till 5am who i hardly know, and all thats going through my head is what is everyone saying (even though nothing happened) but the little word what IF is playing on my mind, i havent eaten for last couple off days as the thought of what IF....... i am engaged to be married and im 29 you think i would have grown up by now... think if dont change now i never will, tea total from now on, no more ifs futures looking bright already Smile
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replied April 4th, 2010
Booze
i get that really bad!! drink on the weekends.......but get really bad hangovers.....low/paranoid feeling!! it''s the mild case of the dt''s
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replied November 17th, 2010
well if anyone knows its me i always make a complete fool of myself say things to people that i no way should i ever open my mouth about paranoid and depressed for about a full week...what IF i said this to someone what IF i done that will they find out i said that about them or will people be all against me....only when drunk these problems occur and it gets worse and worse each time i do it
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replied November 6th, 2011
i get it when ive been on a night out the next day,why did i do this and that why did i say this and that i feel like a fool the next day, but the thing is no one remembers the stupid things we do becuse eveybodys the same the next day, not thinking about what you did there thinking the same as you why did i do this and that did i make a fool out of myself last night, so dont worry where only human.
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replied November 8th, 2011
I used to be the life of the party and even though I know I shouldn't (and I mostly don't) once in awhile I want to live it up like I did when I was young. I usually drink champagne, way too much. I have feelings of paranoia, low self-esteem, and depression - sometimes for two weeks. I keep wondering why the people I'm with can drink so much and not have a reaction while I suffer so much, for so long a time afterwards. I can drink one or two beers without this reaction. Mostly I just stay away from it.
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replied December 11th, 2011
I get this all the time.
I totally lose control and get so drunk I have blackouts.
I don't usually have any physical symptoms of the typical hangover but I get extremely worried and paranoid.
I'll feel terrible for about a week and get obsessed trying to remember events, and the events I do remember get distorted because I'll analise them over and over again.
I know this should help me to quit drinking but it doesn't.
I always get back to that same state, I cannot drink in a "normal" way, once i start drinking I don't stop until I'm copletely wasted.
I have lost my girlfriend to alcohol.
I'm only 26 years old and I really want to quit drinking before I srew up my entire life.
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replied January 4th, 2012
I been getting those since for the last few years now.
I don't drink often and I only drink beer but any time I go out and get drunk I have this bad feeling the next day, like a combination of guilt and paranoia.
I couldn't explain why I was feeling that way. I would try to recall things I said or did the previous night. I wouldn't remember much and most of what I could remember wasn't something to feel too bad about. just a little loose talk.
So then on those hungover mornings I'd probably call up some friend from the previous night to find out if I really did do anything mad. But even after talking to a friend I'd still feel strange and slightly sad. So I'd watch something funny on Youtube and eat some ramen noodles to feel better.
I thought to myself "from now on , drink slowly and not more than 2 beers". long story short, I tried that and failed several times. I realized that I don't enjoy light drinking. The only thing I want after 2 beers is more beer. In when I'm about to finish the second beer which is supposed to be my last, I feel uneasy like when you happen to see the time during your favorite tv show and realize it's going to end in a couple of minutes.
So then I gave it a good hard think and I came to these conclusions:
1. I like getting drunk. But I don't like the hangover that is accompanied by the anxiety, fear and sadness the next day. Is it worth it?
2. I can't have a few beers and even if I do, it's a lot of fun when you considered the time and money I'm spending.
3. Do I really enjoy this? Of the number of times that I drank how many times did I really have great fun ?
What do I really enjoy? A good movie. A good game of basketball or a good work out.
I find an early morning jog much more exhilarating than any night of drinking.
So I decided that for me personally, alcohol is something I can do without. And so I quit on my own.
I wasn't addicted in the first place so it's just that I don't do it anymore.
I am not against drinking. I still have fun at parties. I never rough night drinking or an unproductive day because of a hangover.
I've drank for 8 years in my life. I've had all kinds of booze although I liked only beer. So I've experienced it enough.
Cheers guys
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replied April 13th, 2012
ALCOHOL SOCIAL EFFECTS AND HANGOVERS
Hi,

After reading these posts (it is current anyway. Jan is just 3 months behind). Hope you have all realised the effects of alcohol and become wiser.
I have been through the same "What did I do last night? What did I say? Did I bump into the wrong crowd or person or people? Did I give away too much information to strangers that I normally wont? Will that be a problem?".
I guess people who ask these questions are usually very careful people who must he release ave had self talks like "I have to be very careful when drunk. Dont give away unnecessary info or avoid bad situations. etc". But when one is drunk one will dwell on these DONTS and guess what happens? Captain paranoia comes out of the bottle and stresses the situation. So as a preassure release one will do the very thing one has decided not to. A better stance would be not to reprimand oneself and go with the flow when drunk. This will help you think and act in a situation better than putting DONTs because alcohol does just that. Brings down the gaurd or makes you rebel against your sane self. When you come down the next day you regret 10 times as much. This can become a cycle and become repetitive unless you lock yourself up, no phones or emails and just TV or youtube will keep you safe from embarassing yourself or blowing your own trumphets.
But about 99.99% of the time you would not have caused any serious trouble other than losing money, acting silly and drunk or spoken to just about anyone about anything. If nothing happened right there, you are doing fine because usually bad situations will make a statement right there.
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replied April 13th, 2012
ALCOHOL SOCIAL EFFECTS AND HANGOVERS
Hi,

After reading these posts (it is current anyway. Jan is just 3 months behind). Hope you have all realised the effects of alcohol and become wiser.
I have been through the same "What did I do last night? What did I say? Did I bump into the wrong crowd or person or people? Did I give away too much information to strangers that I normally wont? Will that be a problem?".
I guess people who ask these questions are usually very careful people who must he release ave had self talks like "I have to be very careful when drunk. Dont give away unnecessary info or avoid bad situations. etc". But when one is drunk one will dwell on these DONTS and guess what happens? Captain paranoia comes out of the bottle and stresses the situation. So as a preassure release one will do the very thing one has decided not to. A better stance would be not to reprimand oneself and go with the flow when drunk. This will help you think and act in a situation better than putting DONTs because alcohol does just that. Brings down the gaurd or makes you rebel against your sane self. When you come down the next day you regret 10 times as much. This can become a cycle and become repetitive unless you lock yourself up, no phones or emails and just TV or youtube will keep you safe from embarassing yourself or blowing your own trumphets.
But about 99.99% of the time you would not have caused any serious trouble other than losing money, acting silly and drunk or spoken to just about anyone about anything. If nothing happened right there, you are doing fine because usually bad situations will make a statement right there.
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replied May 7th, 2012
I had this yesterday really, really badly i honestly thought i never wanted to leave my house again and i'm just a massive idiot. It's quite worrying something can make you feel like that really and i'm planning on cutting out the drinking would rather spend less money, make more sense when socialising and remember the boogieing on nights out anyway! However i think the best way to get over that feeling is talking to someone who knows you well and wasnt drunk with you at the time...they soon tell you how silly youre being and make u laugh again Smile. Woke up this morning and actuallg cracked up at how dumb it all sounded...the nature of drinking and clubbing is loud and in your face so why does it matter that you were being a bit rowdy (as long as not harming anyone)..plus everyone else was drunk too so they are probably hidibg out at home worried about their own behaviour rather than laughing about yours!! Smile
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replied June 3rd, 2012
This definitely happens to me as well. Interestingly enough, I don't really understand why I keep drinking given the feelings I have for the next day or two after the night drinking. As some have stated, liquor is the worst and I find I fare much better with beer. And, like many also stated, I am not really the type of person who likes to casually drink for the taste- I drink for the effects. I think what probably unites everyone here is that we drink to ease anxiety in the first place, which makes us already anxious people. And then, when we can't remember or put our fingers on what exactly happened the night before, it makes us even more anxious, ESPECIALLY if any of us (present company included) have a history of absolute ridiculousness when drinking too much. It's a problem, for sure. I understand WHY I feel the way I do, but I don't like feeling it nonetheless. I've been thinking for the past couple months that I should really probably stop drinking, at least for a while (I've had to do this before in the past), but it's been extremely difficult given the circle I run with. I'm not the type of person that will usually have fun at a bar or a club if I'm not able to drink, so it's difficult to cut alcohol completely, even for a little while. Oh well, I suppose I'll figure it out in the end.
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replied January 23rd, 2013
My girlfriend drinks a lot and she thinks nothing of knocking back 12 cans of beer on a single night and will only maybe have 1 day without drinking alchol. She is happy one minute then later in the night she turns nasty and paranoid - is this a sign of a bad alcoholic?
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replied July 28th, 2013
Paranoid mess after a night of drinking heavily- please help
The following day after a night of drinking I am a paranoid wreck!!! Yesterday I woke up and thought I called someone I shouldn't of called whilst being very drunk and said some stupid things, later on that day I called them to say 'hello' and asked them if I called them last night! They said know! So maybe I didn't but I have played it out in my head to think I did, has anyone experienced this?
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