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Q: Worried about pregnancy

asked by: CarefullyLost on May 9th, 2008

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Okay, I have read over all the stickied posts, and have looked over the internet for quite some time, but i still feel i need to ask about my situation.

I am 19 years old, male, and my girlfriend and i have been discussing this a bit. I am personally worried that she may be pregnant, but she seems quite sure of the opposite.

The circumstances are that last month, we spend one night together, unclothed, but we never had sex, simply touching. I realize this alone makes it seem quite unlikely, but a couple of weeks later she had her period, a full week earlier than regular (she has always been regular the two years we have been together). It was the proper length, but it didn't start out normal, because she is usually in alot of pain, and she bleeds alot, but this time, no pain, little blood. The next two days though, it picked up a bit, and looked quite like how it normally looks on the second and third days apparently.

This alone made me worry, but she convinced me that it was okay, and that she was sure it was normal. Anyways, now, about 25 days later, these past three days she has been a) sleeping alot, about 12 hours a night and b) been feeling really nauseous once or twice each day, never actually puking though.

Normally i would write this off as simply ill or tired or something, but nothing has come up in her life to make her tired like that, and nothing has been bothering you, and in reality, nothing has changed...

She should be getting her period in about a week (32 day cycle), and although i have talked to her about this and asked her to go take an HPT she keeps saying no, sure of herself that nothing is up.

We have not once had full intercourse, the closest is simply manual or oral, but i know that from the first of the two, if you aren't careful, things may still happen.

In general i know i am someone who usually worries too much about things, but this is something that i honestly can't just get over in an instance. Any thoughts, suggestions, or ideas as to what else it could be would be greatly appreciated.

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Reptar

replied on May 9th, 2008

Experienced User

It's not likely that she's pregnant. Sperm has to go inside the vagina for a girl to get pregnant (which I'm sure you know). Since you're really worried I suggest buying pregnancy test for your girlfriend and just getting her to take it. That's the only thing that's really going to calm your nerves. Otherwise I suggest getting her on birth control for your peace of mind. Really, that's about all I can tell you.

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CarefullyLost

replied on May 10th, 2008

New User

Well, i know the circumstances of how women become pregnant. I know the odds are astronomically small, because even if sperm was on my hand when i touched her, the fact of the matter is, its super unlikely... i guess its just because there doesn't seem to be any cause for everything that has happened. I know its probably just my mind playing around with what happened, and in reality all her symptoms have nothing to do with that, but its just in my nature to worry about these things.

Thanks for the advice... I will wait for a few more days, as she still refuses to take an HPT, so I will simply wait and see.

On a side note, its now the fourth day she has slept quite a bit, (about 11 hours last night) but I'm not sure if she felt nauseous today as I haven't had much of a chance to talk to her. If anything occurs I will come back and post about it.

Mabel

replied on May 10th, 2008

Moderator

It sounds to me like she had her period after your 'incident'.

Since you are a guy, let me fill you in on a few things, our periods are never the same from month to month to month to month. They are different. They are generally the same. But not always. 32 days isn't an average cycle either. A lot of women have a cycle that is a lot less than that. Although a lot of women also have longer cycles.

What I'm saying is that you are reading too much into this. Know what else causes pregnancy symptoms? PMS HORMONES. I know. What kind of cruel, unusual trick was mother nature coming up with to give us pregnancy symptoms and pre-mentrual symptoms that are the same? So are we starting our period or are we pregnant?

Your girlfriend is not pregnant. You are worrying her to death. Stop. Relax. Get some condoms and use them the next time. Sexual activities are way more fun if you don't worry yourself sick for two months! Use birth control.

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CarefullyLost

replied on May 11th, 2008

New User

Well, thank you for the advice.

I have/had an idea of how PMS works and all that... and I know the symptoms match to a great degree. It's rather frustrating! Sad

I know that as long as I have known her she hasn't had (at least not that she has told me or that I noticed) PMS symptoms or anything, but then again, I do realize that oversleeping can be caused by anything, and so is nausea.

I'll make sure to come back when all this is cleared up to provide my humble apology for my foolish blunder of a worry.

Right now, I am just trying to keep my mind off of it, and just wait for what I am quite sure now will inevitably happen. I think I have been really bugging my girlfriend too much about it Embarassed

Thank you again for your replies, and as I said, I will return with news once I have some Razz

and the childish shame that comes with it Embarassed

Mabel

replied on May 12th, 2008

Moderator

There is no need to be ashamed or feel foolish for worrying over pregnancy. Everyone has done it at one time or another. In your circumstances it is going to be very unlikely. VERY unlikely.

Good luck. Smile

jessamyn

replied on May 12th, 2008

Extremely eHealthy

Simply put she cant keep refusing to take one, you two need to test and get answers now so you can take action now!

CarefullyLost

replied on May 23rd, 2008

New User

Sorry to take so long to finally come back, but things have gotten weirder still. Okay, we decided to finally take a HPT when yesterday, when she was finally 6 days late. We were both really worried, but it came back negative. This is really weird. She is still feeling tired all the time it seems, perhaps a bit less than before, making it now nearly three weeks that she has been feeling fatigued like this. Also, she is still feeling nauseas sometimes, not every day though. Only every once in a while, like every two or three days. At this point we don't know whats going on. Could it be that she has just randomly missed her period for other reasons? I have heard that its possible, but I always thought it was superbly rare. Some advice would be greatly appreciated at the moment. Thank you in advance to any help provided.

PenguinsRus

replied on May 23rd, 2008

Supporter

Stress causes women to miss their periods/delay them. The more you stress out about it, the longer it may take to come! She is 99.999999% not pregnant. You did not have sex, or even come close to it for that matter. Since the HPT is negative, I would go by that. They are accurate 14 days after the sexual act and it has been much longer than that.

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Mabel

replied on May 23rd, 2008

Moderator

Teenage girls rarely have normal cycles. It is not superbly rare for them to be late on their periods.

aochriss

replied on May 23rd, 2008

Extremely eHealthy

She should go to the doctor to find out what is wrong, i.e. why is she so tired, why is she nauseous, what is wrong with her period, etc, etc.

I hope everything is ok.

CarefullyLost

replied on May 25th, 2008

New User

Well, with a few more days, it seems that her period still has not come. From past experience, I remember she mentioned that once, a couple years back, she missed her period once without any real reason. I'm wondering if by some freakishly evil coincidence the same thing happened again.

Also, a quick question about HPT's. We used first response, it came back negative as said, but she took the test in the afternoon (about 3 o'clock). I know it is recommended to take it in the morning, but I'm wondering if it would really make that much of a difference. I know why morning is better, just curious if its that much more effective.

aochriss

replied on May 26th, 2008

Extremely eHealthy

It does make a HUGE difference, especially in very early pregnancy. There is a much larger concentration of pregnancy hormones in the first urine of the morning after a full night's sleep, thus making it easier to detect by the HPT.

REDO the test accurately. Good luck.

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CarefullyLost

replied on May 26th, 2008

New User

Okay, having read the last post, my partner has come up with another question concerning HPT's. Apparently the package itself said to urinate for only 5 seconds, no more. What does this mean if you urinated more than that. She says that she just kept hold of it the whole time she was in the washroom, and that it was quite more than 5 seconds. Closer to about 30. I can't see why this could be a bad thing, but looking back on the instructions they seemed to be pressing the matter. Could there be a reason to this. Does anyone have the explanation for why 5 seconds, no more no less? Sorry for the slightly sillier question.

aochriss

replied on May 26th, 2008

Extremely eHealthy

What difference does it make? Why not just follow the directions exactly?

Here's an answer I found:

23. Can using too much or too little pee affect the results? Sometimes, yes. Too little urine and the test simply won't work-- the control line will not appear, because there will not be enough moisture to trigger the chemical reaction. Too much pee and you run the risk of over-saturating the test-- in which case the control line will wash away. (See the importance of control lines now? Smile

It is impossible to trigger a false positive simply by using too much or too little pee.

AyaMiyaki

replied on May 26th, 2008

Especially eHealthy

If she's having trouble knowing how long to pee on the stick, she could pee into a cup instead and then hold the stick in the cup for... umm... I think it's 15 seconds? 20? The directions will tell you.

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