Hi Jenny:
I am up late but did want to answer this...It is bad enough that I was so bugged off when I wrote this post that I sounded off, to ignore it now...You were kind in your reply...Last night when I wrote it I was so troubled..A woman that I had met two years ago had married a man with a big sexual ED problem...They were both 49 and she struggled just to get him to have an erection...She thought she could change him and I told her no...They were sexually different..Different libido's and you can't change what you can't change...She and he are now 51 and she has passed through menopause and is sexually hot...She can't get enough and he, from an earlier union where his wife made him sleep in a separate bedroom, cannot perform sexually and it has killed the marriage...I could see the problem but sometimes love is blind...Erectile dysfunction is a killer in many marriages but I believe if there is not a medical problem that a man can be kept sexually alive by a woman...There divorce will be final in March...
Back when my husband first started showing signs of ED in his late 50's is when I should have acted...Actually, I believe a woman should act far before this time...The first signs of having a hard time staying erect she should work with him...She should do this by herself...It should not be something that he is aware that she is doing...She should become his Porn Queen or whatever it takes to bring him back to youth...I believe this can keep him from having to go to medication and make him young as it has made my husband young...
We women have it easy...We lay there and get pleasured and the man does all the work...He not only has to pleasure us but at the same time struggle to keep himself at a high state of sexual passion to hold onto his erection...We do not help him but instead relax with our own pleasure and this is wrong...He should be kept motivated...Not by saying anything to him about losing it but by prompting him....Caressing his sexual part with our knee...Hot kissing and a lot of oral sex....A wife should be more than a wife during the later years of marriage...It is then her turn to woo him....Never stop turning it off...She is the catalyst in keeping him alive and potent and believe me, she can do it....
If women only knew how important this wonderful object of love will be some day to them, they will take this step....Don't let him grow old but keep him young...Make him believe it and he will act like it....
I am sorry that I sounded like a jerk above but I was bummed out by what the woman wrote me...I knew it would happen....But so goes life....
