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Q: 15 with 10 month old baby
asked by: morgan3894 on February 17th, 2009
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Hey im Morgan im 15 and i have a 10 month old baby and i always feel like im going to be a disappointment to him when he gets older since im so young.Is it wrong to feel like this?
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Dannzibelle
replied on February 17th, 2009
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It's not wrong at all.
Just concentrate on being the best mum that you can be and build a good future for him. I remember when i was pregnant i used to think 'what if i don't get into college?','what if i never get a good job?' etc etc but if you are determind enough you will never be a disappointment to your son.
For example,i am 17 years old,my daughter's father is 18 and our daughter is 19months old. I am halfway through the 1st of a 2 year course in hairdressing and beauty therapy and Dom isat the same college doing english language,english literature, classical civilisation and government and politics all will grades b and above with hope to go on to uni and train as a lawyer.
It can be done if you want to do it
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ProudMommyof2008
replied on February 17th, 2009
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i think every parent, young or old has felt this way at times.
i feel this way somedays too and wonder if i am doing a good job, if im doing whats best for me son, and how he will turn out.
but i think every parent has felt the way i have and the way you do as well.
i talk about this to my boyfriendand best friend , and i feel its helpful to get it out. my boyfriend and best friend always reassure me that im doing a good job, and there support and positive words get me through.
my best friend and i exchange christmas gifts and in the card she gave me it said how much she is proud of me and how she does not know how i do it, there was more but her words meant alot.
i dont know your situation, but do you have someone in your life to talk to about this? your baby's father, a best friend, family member? You could even talk to a counsellor or therapist about how you feel if you do not have someone like this to talk to.
getting it out, and having someone tell you how proud of you they are really means alot.
i know it helps me. sometimes we all just need words of encouragement to get us through.
but dont feel like a bad mother for feeling this way, i, like i said earlier, think every new mother feels this way at some point.
its not wrong to feel this way though.

if you need to talk you can always PM me anytime.
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harmony1
replied on February 19th, 2009
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I think you always feel you will be a disapointed to your babay. I think we all have self doubt sometimes but you'll be fine. Do we work too much. Are we home enough? Can we provide our chn with enough. ah the list goes on. Your baby just needs a lot of love and don't be suprised if you feel drained at times cos this is completely normal. Just love your bub and the rest will all fall in place. I have a 2 and a hlf yr old so if you ever need to chat pm me. xo
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guinevere_1110
replied on February 20th, 2009
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what you are feeling right now is very normal specially on your age. people around you will tell you a lot of things, some might help some just needs to be disregarded.
at your very young age,the question is how responsible you will be as a mother?

my answer would be...

responsibility does not count on how old you are, so as you being a mother. at a very young age, i know you are still attending school and still living with your parents.aside from taking care of your little angel, it is now your responsibility to finish school for you to land a good job. Let your little angel be an inspiration to you.

do not think of you being a disappointment to your baby, they'll never feel that way especially if we let them feel they're the most important person in the world.

give my hugs and kisses to your baby.

love lots,
May!!!!
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morgan3894
replied on February 22nd, 2009
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May,

Thanks im living with a friend i dont know my mom and my dad doesn't have much to do with me.
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tmolinarcastillo
replied on February 23rd, 2009
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no this isnt wrong at all dont worry age doesnt define how good of a parent you are!! im 15 due in october 22nd and want to hear about your story it feels like im so alone sometimes
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breck08
replied on May 26th, 2009
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No one will ever be the best parent. No matter what you want or do for your lil one. Parents are human. The fact you have doubts shows the love and compassion you have for your child. I had my first when I was 16. He will be 22 in August. Everyday I am thankful for him and I will be the first to say I grew up with him. Anyone under 25 thinks they are adults. I felt the same. If I knew then what I know now........WOW! Life doesnt work that way. Support group! Keep one! You are not alone! Just remember that.
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kyrafaith
replied on May 27th, 2009
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no one on this site is alone. We are here to give each other help and support because in this day and age it is so hard to find that from others. Other kids, adults , people who look down on us because of our situation in life. This forum is not for people to be judged but rather for all of us to come together to get through the good times and the bad, the sleepless nights, and waiting for an ultrasound. This forum is to help those who are scared and a place for those with experience to tell their story and help out all they can. No one should feel alone and if you do anyone can feel free to pm me, I will be there to talk to because we are all pretty much in similar situations and it is extremely important to have support when the rest of the world seems to be looking down on you.,
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