I am confussed do not what to think maybe someone can help me I have been in a realationship with a man for many years but it was always off and on.. I have had dreams of being with a woman sexually but have not done it. I dream about it more times then I can think about I see woman down the street curtain ones turn me hot but I have never done it.. I am a older woman at that and have the fear or two things one of really realizing I might be gay or two being turned down because I am over weigh about three hundred I feel I might get turned down. insecurity issue on top of all of this can someoneone help me.....
Being attracted to women is a natural thing. I think all of us at some point in our life are attracted to someone of the same sex to some extent. It's just a matter of whether or not it carries on for the rest of your life and how intense the feelings are. Especially since you say you are attracted only sexually, that makes me think that you may just be simply fantasizing about women, but it doesn't neccsarily make you a lesbian or bisexual. Could you see yourself in a ROMANTIC relationship with women? That's the big question. If the answer is yes, then think about it further, but don't make it a big issue. If you're with a man you truly love, don't let this affect it. (especially if it's only sexual or physical attraction) And lastly, if you truly are lesbian or bisexual in the end, DO NOT FEEL GUILTY. There is absolutely nothing wrong at all with having feelings towards someone of the same sex. It shouldn't be a fear. At all. Be proud of who you are. Always remember that Good luck and hope this helped
thanks I was in a relationship with a man it did nothing but destroy me hurted me so bad that i am at the point I can not trust a man... I am attracted to woman but not only sexually I could see myself dating a nice lady that has alot in common and I would love that I had never felt an attraction toward men it never last it would last for four month then I had to make an excuse to brake up their was no connection their.. after talking some lady friends I could be around them all the time and not think twice of braking up I feel real comfortable like I met somone one time and we had dinner and talked and I felt like I knew her for years I felt like I was in my comfort zone and but with a man I could never feel that way alway on egg shells this is why I was getting confused... do have something to help with that.
If being with a man was really that painful, maybe men aren't for you. Don't force yourself to be with a man if you don't feel comfortable with them. Now that you say you could date a girl romantically, that's taking a step further. Test it out a bit. If you find yourself liking a certain woman ( or even that woman you had dinner with), ask her out again. If she's bisexual or a lesbian as well, you two could try to seriously date and see how you feel with that. Do whatever you feel is right, but always be proud of your sexuality