Hi - I am a married man, have been married for about 1.5 yrs now with a really wonderful and caring girl. In the initial engagement period, before marriage me and my wife used to have some arguments like any other normal couple - most of which were childish.
When we got married we had a good life with a healthy mix of initial arguments, disagreements but also a lot of love and affection for each other that is continuing to this day. However about 3-4 months something happened which changed my life forever
MY mother in law had come to visit us, unnanounced at our home - me and my wife live alone. At that time there was some family -related issue at home,which needed my financial involvement -this was causing some stress in my finances given the urgency of situation. My mother in law saw that stress on my face, and my wife told the reason. At the same time in the next few days, me and my wife has a tiff in front of her mother - and my mother-inj-law instantly "announced" her decision like a judge that bnoth of you should seperate, I called up my father and had him speak to my mom-inlaw (incidentally my father is a heart patient) - he said fights happen between couples but that does not mean they should seperate. As long as there is no serious issues let the 2 individuals resolve it -- my mom in law was adamant and she has been constantly interfering in my marital life - handicapping my wife`s independent thinking and decision making abilities too --- at this point, I have to admit, I do have some anger issues, which I am working on and have successfully resolved to an extent - hwowever by heart I am genuine and have no bad blood againsts anyone
One of my wife`s brother in law and his wife came to our home to stay for a few days. Now, personally I hate this man and have voiced my contempt for him quite a few times - this bro-inlaw who is supposed to be a "well-matured" person, started bragging about his new found rich status - how he vacationed in Singapore and how he has invested in buying land, etc etc - but his intention was to belittle me, under the false assumption that I am an insecure, weak person who has no capacity to earn wealth - ofcourse I belong to a business family myself, have spent 6 yrs in the US - got my MBA from NY and worked for a while there. Now personally I kept my cool, however when he went back I wanted to convey my displeasure at his cheap behaviour and sent him a few text messages in decent langauge - however which was read by my wife. She didnt like it and I told her clearly what was the reason and why I sent the messages.
After that incident she left home for a week, stayed @ her parents place. Her dad (my father in law) who is a very matured person came over and helped resolve the issue between us - I said I didnt like the way the bro in law reacted and said things, but in the future I will try and not think in a negative line.
Next week after that - when me and my wife decided to visit my parents in Bombay, and attend a family function - my wife quietly packed her remaining clothes, went to her mom`s place which is also in Bombay and did not communicated much - next thing I know she, my inlaws came to meet my parents and told us that they want a divorce -which was a shock to my parents - as they did not see any strong reason or logic in such a decision.
This happened 3 months ago and uptil now there is no legal notice OR update or any kind of communication from my in-laws side --- it is such a weird and confusing story that even the person reading this may find it a little funny,but the kind of unneccessary stress that I am facing I know myself. It is a little too frustrating with this silence?
I have tried communicating and getting in touch, but no luck on that part
Hi nodivorce. If I were to choose either divorce or legal separation? I would choose legal separation it is really important to know about laws about divorce, what are its ups and downsides. I agree with you, It is really hard to accept the reality and one should not be swift in making big decisions. Just think of it first.