As I type this my wife of 36 years is packing and leaving. My life has fallen apart over the past 2 years. My "hippie chick" has turned into an angry and hostile person. She only remembers all the mistakes I have made over the years. She recites them daily and wishes me dead. She doesn't seem to recall anything good, only the negative. I have been a good husband and have cared for my wife through the years. I have been a good provider and friend. I am at an end.

She has spent the past month in the spare bedroom, I call it "cave time". She locks herself in and only comes out occasionally, usually in great rages. She has destroyed many of our things. Our dogs are now frightened of her. For the first time I am fearful that she might harm me. She will not entertain a conversation about all this. She has refused to seek a doctor's help and denies the changes in her mood are medically related although she admits the onset of menopause and experiences hot flashes. She is 50 YOA.

The "cave time" has repeated itself several times over the past 2 years. Each incident last for nearly a month.

She has seperated herself from ALL of her friends and most of the family. It seems that lately she hates more people than she cares for. She has moved me to her hate list. I am sad for her and know that her life has turned into a dark and depressing place, I wish I could help.

Today, the day that our paths will take different turns for the first time in 36 years, is heartbreaking. I wish I knew what to do?