Honestly I don't think she has those 'feelings' for him any longer (however ask her)...

The reason I say this is that my now ex and I were married for 5 years; separated for 5 more and I'm happily remarried for close to 14 years and if I were to re-live what my ex decided to leave the marriage, etc...I too would cry. My cry would not be from anger (well maybe just a little) but it would soon turn to tears of joy because I am happy with my life now.

It is like opening up an old wound...it's a way to release anger.

Maybe your wife hasn't really dealt with the pain that her ex caused and she just needed to release it the other night. Has she been to therapy?

To me this means that this was a terrible time of sorrow in her life...Something happened to her that will always be a bad memory...It hurts now, because it hurt then...Some things in life you just can't change....It is not that she loved him more or loves you less...It happened because this was such a hurtful time in her life......

Don't doubt her love...Be happy....Don't look for something that is not there....Best wishes...

Caroline

being a women we never forget anything. i think about bad things that happened to me years ago and i get upset. this guy must've hurt her so bad. she probably didnt think about how it would make you feel when she reacted that way.
i think it is weird for her to cry. i would think she would say "his lost, look at what i have".
you should ask her is she still hurt by that.

In my opinion, she has feeling for him in the sense that she wouldn't burst into tears if she didn't have any feeling. No Einstein needed to understand this. This, HOWEVER, does not necessarily mean you should be concerned about this. She probably was extremely hurt when her ex-her husband left her and that's why recalling those moments brought tears into her eyes. It's very normal according to me. I don't think she feels like he never left. Having feeling for ex-husband and feeling he never left are two different things. We all tend to cry when we remember a very sad moment in our life. Don't we?

no!

I don't mind people disagreeing with me anymore as I told you in a message!

God bless you!

i m only messing with you concernedn,

everyone is different! i hardly cry, but i get mad, depressed, pissed off. some people happens to be more sensitive than others.

i agree w/concernedn...it was a very emotional and hard time in her life..of course she was upset about it and it probably still hurts to think about that time in her life..it doesn't mean shes still in love with him or that she doesn't love you as much...when I think of my ex sometimes I miss it, it saddens me things didn't work out..but its in the past..and it didn't work out for a reason..i'm very much in love w/my current bf..and I had the chance to take my ex back..but he had his chance w/me...the past is the past...

No. Was that her first marriage? What brought their marriage to dissolution? A woman who gives her heart away and especially puts time into a relationship, hence the 5 years and then it is ripped away? There is probably a lot of mixed emotions she still hasnt dealt with. It doesnt mean she is still in love with him but more on the lines of feeling worthless and scared what if she does something to loose you?

i agree with all,

i m in a healthy relationship for the past 2 years. but i still think about my ex b/f that i've been with for 5 years. he hurt me so bad, he left a deep scare, and i get flash backs of the horrible things he's dont to me. i dont cry, but i get mad and try to shift my thoughts to something else. so her husband may have done something to her that was really bad.