Wife Problems

Married 25 years, wife has accused me of cheating/sleazing with
all three of her sisters,my sister, Her mother,he coworkers, my coworkers, neighbors. She grew up with an alcoholic father and a mother who would rather work during the day come home and then leave to spend the night with her boyfriend. I truly feel that she only sees relationships as being normal if they are abnormal (subconsciously). I also think this is a controlling issue due to being unsecure. Husband talking and getting along with a coworker, I make his life hell and wake him up at 6:30 am and late at night and accuse him of liking/emailing coworker. I went to her work once to help her out and met a coworker of hers once and then she accused me of liking her and trying to contact her because the coworker would ask questions about me! I think she would actually tell this woman things about me (work wise etc) and then when the woman would recount this info, she would get pissed and come home and ask me how she new this info about me! We tried counseling the first was with a man counselor and he gave me a wink wink, men shouldn't tell their wife's certain things, so of course that did not go over well, the second counselor was a woman and we went in there like we were talking to mommy, each of us yelling and trying to get our point across. The counselor just sat there and did not help much. So here i am posting on some forum.