Like every major life change, divorce is stressful. It affects finances, living arrangements, household jobs, schedules and more. Children thrive on consistency, structure and routine — even if they insist on testing the boundaries and limits. If your child shares time between two households, it's important for the rules to be similar in both homes.

For help sorting through your feelings, you might join a divorce support group or seek counseling through a social service agency or mental health center. For more information, check out this site from the National Libraries of Medicine:

http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/divorce .html

Ok you are prolly going to hate me, but i will tell you i was in your same shoes except other way of course.. see all we would do is fight from the time we were married to the day i finally left. Our daughter was 2 at the time and i just got tired of her always crying ext and both him and i were so unhappy allthought we loved each other dearly neither one of us would just leave. So i did the unthinkable i knew the only way that our marriage would end is if one of us cheated and i knew he would never do that and so i did. Believe me i regreat cheating that should have never been the answer but i did it..

Anyways what i am saying is if you two consistantly fight in front of your child that is just wrong and unfare to it. THey will think it's ok and start actingout in wrong behaivers you know.. As she would bit other students then started smaking them so i just couldnt deal with it anymore.. cause we had done marriage couns 2yr ago and it worked for a while but then we both went back to our old ways again.. anyways my advice is think what is best for your child

how could you say that? what would keep you from having a relationship with your child? what will keep you from loving him, and him loving you.
if your wife has ADD did she take medication or see a therapist to keep it under control.