my boyfriend says he wants a break from sex....but always plays with me and then says that he'd love a good ride...im trying to make the move but when we get into it he jokes and he just stops playing..and he always cuddles me says how much he loves me nd all so wats da problem.....??????? HELP!
I smell libido problems. It sounds like he wants to perform and wants to pleasure you and make you feel sexual but the fear that he won't be able to perform makes him pull back at the last minute. I agree, definitely talk to him about what's going on, be supportive, focus on how you can resolve problems as a couple.
hey guys..thanx for all the great advice i sat him down and said we needed to talk and he knew staright away wat it was about because he knows its been gettin to me..so i asked him and he said that he's so stressed out about money and having no job and its all getting to him. but he said that as soon as he gets everything back on track that we'll be riding 6 times a day again...hehe...cnt wait...!! bu dats it all sorted now because i know that he's lost he's sex drive because he is so stressed out! so at least i know now thank god!!!! and thank you so much for your comments!! xxx
Keep in mind his libido isn't going to flip on like a lightswitch. Once a human being shuts down sexually it takes a little work to open them up again. Right now he needs a lot of support even though it sounds like it's hard for him to accept it. Just make sure he knows he's loved and you two are a team despite the problems he's having and that stress will be a lot easier to overcome.
i tell him i love him like a dozen or even more times a day and he tells me to..were so in love its crazy..he knows i support him in everything he does... im der for him...i try help him out and he knows he can talk to me about anything...so wolf what do i have to do...what would make him now that i apperciate his descion and that im gonna be there when he's ready to open up again sexually...?? and thanx for your comments there really helping me..! right back asap!!
Just what you're doing xoxtinkerbellxox. Reassure him that you're there job or no job. Don't push him when he backs away sexually but don't pretend that you're not feeling frustrated, just let him know what he can do to help you if he's struggling a little with performance and be patient if he's having some trouble. Sympathy and support will nourish the trust he's going to need to rebuild intimacy when this bad spell is over.
it's a good thing to be very supportive of your mate. my boyfriend has been with me through the worse of the worse. i understand his situation completely i've been through it myself, but it is so important to keep that kind of closeness and intimacy between you. when i really stressed it's hard for me to perform, but overall it's also hard for me to keep my hands off of him when he's around.
on the other hand i know his urges didnt go away 100%, so is he going cold turkey completely. please dont be upset with me when i say this, be careful that he isnt cheating on you with someone else. this is advice for you to protect your heart.