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Q: Why won't she leave me
asked by: chevca on October 29th, 2008
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I went out with the girl Meghan, we had tons in common, amazing chemistry, we talked all the time and seemed to be able to make each other happy no matter what. We had that 80% that everyone talks about and that was within a month of dating. We only actually dated for two months not counting the time we had just emailed each other initially. Its been over 3 months since she left me for her ex who suddenly came back, after his own 6 month plus disappearance.

I want to move on, I want to find someone else, but I keep feeling like she may come back. The pain of it all is effecting not only me finding someone else but other parts of my life. I want the mistake that was her to leave me forever, I don't have time for all this nonsense. I have been single my entire life and am sick and tired of it. I want to be happy like I was with her feel less alone then I have my entire life. I don't want her in my mind, I feel like too because I did meet her and felt what I felt its made my search all the more difficult. Its like I really didn't know what I was missing till I met her.

Looking for someone else has become even more like a full time job I have put my career on hold while I look. But I can only keep it on hold for so long I need to get over her and find someone but don't know how to do it at this point.

Can anyone suggest what I should do here, what will make this better or allow me to move on?
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replied on October 30th, 2008
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Sometimes, it simply takes time for someone to be out of the mind. She will, however, always be in your heart...and that is neither a good nor a bad thing. It simply is. I'd suggest that you look into activities that you enjoy and look for clubs or groups that do the same things. Sometimes distraction is the key ... and doing what you like is a good start!
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biodrux
replied on November 5th, 2008
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Chevca, I'm going to be totally technical with you. First of all... If a relationship ends passionately... it is the emotional equivalent of INDIGESTION.

In the case of your ex, Meghan, who went back to her ex, Who ever ended it... there were still things left to say and do for closure.

Sorry to say but the greatest likelihood is that you were the perfect canvas for her to offset her INDIGESTION with joy and fun... BUT that's just a bandaid. The underlying need to clear the EMOTIONAL CONSTIPATION is still foremost... THATS why she went back to her ex... it has nothing to do with how much FUN she had with you.

THAT is also why people bring baggage from one relationship to another... AND WHY they look for someone who is JUST LIKE THEIR EX who is JUST LIKE THEIR EX who is just like their MOM/DAD.

You are now... likely to perpetuate that same cycle.

Just make sure that every cycle... is complete and at peace before starting another cycle. In your case... it may mean waiting long enough for that desire to FIND SOMEONE TO REPLACE your ex totally goes away... then you'll find the right partner for the RIGHT reasons.
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chiamaka
replied on August 12th, 2009
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time is the healer of pain, just keep an open mind so as to attract other girls and try not to compare them with her.
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