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Q: why is it difficult to orgasm ?
asked by: Jennak79 on July 4th, 2009
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I will be thirty soon and have just started having some issues with sensitivity.

Let me start by giving some background of my past. I was always very easily aroused both vaginally and clitorally. I was always able to reach orgasm by myself by clitoral stimulation from the time I was 15 years old. I was also able to ejaculate alone by myself. I was even multiply orgasmic. I learned early in my twenties what I needed to orgasm when engaging in intercourse with a man.

I never had any problems reaching orgasm until recently. I had gone through a "dry spell" without masturbating or having sexual intercourse for almost 8 months. I had a new sexual partner and I was able to orgasm the first time we were physically intimate. That was the last time that I have been able to easily reach orgasm with a man. We were together for almost a year and I was never able to orgasm again with him.

It's very difficult for me to orgasm, even by myself. Everything physically feels different than it once used to. I barely have any stimulation to my g-spot and I am not as easily aroused during clitoral stimulation. I was always able to orgasm by myself within a few minutes of stimulation. Now it takes forever. I can barely feel sensation when I touch my clitoris.

My body can produce lubrication and my brain knows that it should feel good. I am aroused when I kiss my boyfriend and I am lubricated then also. I can feel fingers inside of my vagina but not like I used to. My boyfriend says I feel "tight" but I don't feel the elasticity of my vagina gripping onto his fingers.

I've seen three doctors for this and have had testing done to make sure I do not have any infections. They all came back negative. They referred me to a psychologist. I do not feel it is a mental issue. I know my body and how it works. I know what I like and how it used to feel and what it should feel like. I am so frustrated with not having any answers.

Other facts: I have had a leep almost six years ago. I go back for routine paps to make sure that I do not still have moderate dysplasia. A few paps come back here and there for mild dysplasia every once and a while and sometimes they come out fine. I do not think that this is related but just wanted to pass it along.

I've also been told that I have a lot of gas. Not sure if this is related or not. It went away for a while when I took an antibiotic for a sinus infection. I thought that was weird but I just happened to notice it! It came within a month of it leaving them it came back.

Also: I eat healthy, and am a healthy weight for my height. I'm a non smoker, have an occasional drink every now and then, and take an antidepressant for anxiety, stress and depression. I know these can inhibit sexual performance. I had taken this for five years and never had a problem while on it. I stopped taking it for almost a year and realized I needed it so I went back on it. I still had problems with orgasm when I was off my medication and still have the same problem now and I take it daily.

Sometimes I can feel weird tickles in my lower abdominal region, which clearly are not related to digestion. One of the last few times I was able to orgasm I fully felt a rush of these strange lower abdominal tickles during the orgasm. That was the last time I was able to orgasm easily. I still can now, but it is very hard and not as intense as what it once was. It is only about 50 percent intense, if it happens at all.

I get regular periods that have started getting just a bit lighter. Sex can be painful if a penis repeatedly contacts my cervix. I get abdominal pain during and after engaging in long periods of intercourse. I remember always feeling as if I had to urintate during intercourse and masturbation.I know when I have to urinate but the urge does not feel as strong as it did before all of this started. I do not feel this at all now during intercourse or masturbation but do feel the need to urinate after I am finished.

My last doc gave me orders for a pelvic us and blood test. What could these show?
Please give me any info with what could be going on with me. I am way too young to be sexually malfunctioning.
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oo7josy
replied on July 31st, 2009
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I know what is the problem with Jennak79 . I need to ask more Questions in order to to give you the right treatment OK. do not take more medicine. the problem is combination fisical and mental you only run out of aerobic energi and i will teach you how to get it back. long life to you all
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