In his defense, it must be just as frustrating to stop and change positions when you are close to orgasming as it for you to be on the brink and unable to achieve orgasm. Also, at that point in time, it is really hard to stop what you're doing. Keep in mind that when you are on the brink of orgasm, your vagina begins to clench and unclench- effectively milking his penis. No man wants to abandon that feeling to switch position. If I was on the brink of an orgasm and the bed caught on fire, I seriously doubt that I could immediately stop, and I'm a female. One other thing to consider is this: for many women, having a vaginal orgasm can only happen in certain positions. Instead of switching around a lot, you need to figure out what works for you and stick with that position. If you still can't achieve orgasm, you may have to slide your hand between your bodies and help things along a bit. Or make sure you achieve and orgasm through oral sex/ foreplay before intercourse begins.

im sorry, ive totaly worded that wrong, ive not been on the brink ive just started to have the tingley feeling you get when you start feeling something but that is all, so no clenching or un clenchin of my vagina for him during sex atall ..

maybee i wasnt clear infact i dont think i pointed this part out but when he does say that to me its a few minutes or so before he does cum? maybee this is because i have just disturbed him asking him to switch around lol!!

is it possible to not have a gspot atall??

i think maybee my bottom line is that wev tried for a year and a half to find it and i think now hes given up, as long as he pleasures me through oral hes happy. So was I i guess untill recently, im just dien to be able to cum with him, its meant to be an amazing thing ..

awell, maybee im just complaining over nothing lolol:P sorry guys:)

It sounds very selfish to me. It is pretty easy for men to cum. It is not as if he is going to miss the opportunity to have his orgasm if he delay it by a few minutes. He is making a choice that his immediate needs are more important than yours. This is not fair to you as he is using your body to satisfy his needs.

In my mind, the only time this is acceptable is when the guy ejaculates prematurely. Even in that case he should work with you to extend intercourse for as long as possible to allow you your orgasm as well.

Maybe you should start on top and stay there so that you have control over what is happening and can move however you want. If he does not want this he probably has control issues which will explain his behavior.

Or say to him, tonight is my turn to cum first and move away from him when you feel him getting close. It is pretty easy to feel when he is getting close - the penis gets suddenly harder. It is the same effect that allows the clitoris to withdraw under the hood when it gets harder/stiffer just before orgasm.

I'm confused. I still don't understand why you would want to change position just when it starts feeling really good to you.
Based on your first post it sounded as if you wanted to switch positions RIGHT before he reached orgasm, which can be hard to do. But since he is minutes away from orgasm, I see no reason why he would refuse to change.
susan862003 does have a good suggestion. If you are on top you will have more control over the speed, depth... so that may be more helpful to you.
Good luck.

i say being together over a year... you should be able to speak honestly about your sex life together. My husband and I have a completely open relationship when it comes to our sex life, we've been together two years and married almost two years.

If he tries something I don't like.. I tell him and he doesn't do it again.

Plus your bf should know.. you switching positions and stopping him from finishing makes the end result MORE intense.

also i don't orgasm just with sex.. It could be because I have a retroverted(inverted) uterus.. but he always makes sure I get mine first.. and you don't need a mouth for it either.

My advice is speak up about your complaints..talk it through.

sorry deteragram i just posted it all wrong, im not very good in trying to write what im thinking you know lol! id rather sit and chat verbally about it . thanks

upindust we do talk aout it all the time, and we make suggestions and we say 'right we'l defo try that' but when it comes to it that happens,


and susan862003 you r right he is selfish , because we have spoke about it and its not changing. its clear that hes all talk but as soon as it gets going he does only think of himself.

thanks im taking all of this in and im going to have a massive chat (again) with him tonight! wish me luck !

i usually have orgasm through masturbation. my boyfriend always pleases me before he cums and he is really big into foreplay.
if you know he lasts for 30 minutes before he cums, i think you should ask him to switch in the middle and not the ending.
some men need to invest in foreplay.
but if you have a vibrator! do your thing girl!