WHY does he feel this way still and how do we overcome it?

is he taking it out on you, or venting to you? if hes venting to you then he trust you enough/is comfortable enough to talk about a serious problem.

I think you just may have gotten in over your head with this kind of mess...Take it slow...

Caroline

i always would say to my friends "where there's a baby, there's a baby momma" meaning it's a possibility there will be drama.
you have to have a strong love to be in this relationship. you have to sit down with your finance and talk to him and have boundaries and rules.
i was in a relationship where i had to deal with a women and her two kids (which wasnt even my b/f's kids) long story.
but i felt like she was always there, and it was his fault b/c she was fisty and bossed him around.
i also can relate to him being angry and taking it out on you b/c he's pissed. understand this is his baggage not yours. you have to talk to him and figure out what yall can do about that crazy women.
my advice to you is do not get into a marriage if this isnt resolved because then you will fill traped, or regret that you married into such a stressful situation.

serviceU is right, the other thing is there is obviously still love from the other girl otherwise she wouldn't be in his face. She is dealing with her addictions & they are where it seems the fault lies if she gets her life back on track who's to say he won't take her back out of the compassion that he seems to have towards her. Give it time, take it slow, that extra time you allow may mean things will work out for the better & cause you a lot less heart ache.

She knows his weakness....She has had his baby....She obviously has a hold on him....Like I said, take it slow....IMO, he still has not cleared the cobwebs off his mind for her....

Guard yourself and don't lead with your heart.....Good luck....