My Fiance and I started dating 10 months ago. My friend had a big crush on him when he meet and he had a 5 month old his wife just up and left so I became the baby sitter thats all. then as time went on we started to date well wify comes back and forth in and out she has done it all from cheat to drugs to left him and the baby for a chick well lately she ran off to texas fine with me but know is comming up with ways to piss him off and then tried to get him fired. well the other day he was upset about her and he takes it out on me then relises I am not her she just gets to him so so bad he really loved her but how do you over come this
i always would say to my friends "where there's a baby, there's a baby momma" meaning it's a possibility there will be drama.
you have to have a strong love to be in this relationship. you have to sit down with your finance and talk to him and have boundaries and rules.
i was in a relationship where i had to deal with a women and her two kids (which wasnt even my b/f's kids) long story.
but i felt like she was always there, and it was his fault b/c she was fisty and bossed him around.
i also can relate to him being angry and taking it out on you b/c he's pissed. understand this is his baggage not yours. you have to talk to him and figure out what yall can do about that crazy women.
my advice to you is do not get into a marriage if this isnt resolved because then you will fill traped, or regret that you married into such a stressful situation.
serviceU is right, the other thing is there is obviously still love from the other girl otherwise she wouldn't be in his face. She is dealing with her addictions & they are where it seems the fault lies if she gets her life back on track who's to say he won't take her back out of the compassion that he seems to have towards her. Give it time, take it slow, that extra time you allow may mean things will work out for the better & cause you a lot less heart ache.