It sounds a little like you don't trust your boyfriend. It shouldn't matter who he is out with as long as you know you love and respect each other. Is there a reason for you to not trust him? If one of your friends introduced you to another guy, would you be into it? Of course not, because you love your bf. Unless there is reason to be suspicious, I wouldn't think to much about it. And if it is bothering you, you should be able to talk to your bf about it. Maybe he can re-assure you.
Good luck. I hope everything works out.

when i was 26 y.o my ex was 21. he was still interested in going to clubs, shaky butt clubs. all his friends were single. and my boyfriend lived in my duplex, we had a tenant paying the mortgage. my boyfriend had it all, but he was young and not satisfied.

i told him about his friends, his metaling mother, his bi-polar sister, his ex girlfriend. these are the people he allowed to destroy our relationship and i was in battle with everyone b/c i loved him. i felt like his friends was jealous and tried to break us up.
after cussing everyone out, demanding respect....bla,bla,bla. after 5 years from all that crap i dumped him.

if your boyfriend's heart is with you and he's committed to you. no one will be able to tempt him or break y'all up. no one is putting a gun to his head. i fought off everything that was a problem in our relationship and i came to the conclusion that he has to be on the same page as me.

my ex's friends made the single life look so good to him so he was always confused if he wanted to be with me, and i was the best he has ever had. he refuse to stand up to his friends, his mom, sister, etc.

i would have a serious talk with him again. if it doesnt work out the way you want it, start saving your money or plan to live with your parents. if he's not that committed this will be one of may problems you'll have.
but i do hope it works out.

I agree that you should trust your boyfriend, but he should also hang out with people who respect your relationship and aren't actively trying to sabotage it. Even if your boyfriend would never cheat on you, the very fact that he hangs out with someone who wants him to is really disrespectful. It makes you uncomfortable and that should be enough of a reason to make it stop.

Your boyfriend should either tell his friend to stop trying to set him up with other women or he shouldn't hang out with him anymore.

On the other hand, have you tried making friends with his friend? Maybe if he saw that you and his friend are good together and you make each other happy, he'll stop. How about all of you hang out together?

The main thing is to talk to your boyfriend calmly and rationally about why this is unacceptable. If none of this changes, you have to really examine the situation and ask yourself if this is something you can live with. I know you don't want to lose him, but if he can't understand why this bothers you, then you have more problems than you think.

well he came back to me . he had had a lap dance and now wont stop talkin bout it but non the less hes here with me again (and its just making me want to show him what hes got at home( why have burgers while your out when you can have steak at home).). THANKYOU for all your comments (they did really help !! )