Hi i am 18 years old and i have stumbled on a problem i have been having. For the past month or so i have been trying to have sex with my gf but each time i stick it in i cum! i have never had this problem before and i have had sex a lot. even sometimes i cum before i even stick it in. I was a heavy pot smoker and use to smoke at least one or twice a day but my gf wanted me to stop so i did. Do you think its because i stopped smoking weed? I cant think of anything else and its really messing up me and my girls relationship and she is the first girl i have ever loved. Even when i masturbate i cum instantly i really need to fix this problem...i need help!
It seems that you have premature ejaculation. This is a common reaction in any relation when sexual intercourse is affected as a result of âstressful life situations or doubt or lack of confidence with sexual partner.
When the issue of doubt comes into picture, psychological issues like performance anxiety and âpremature ejaculation come into play. The best way, to solve this issue would be a few sessions of cuddling up, naked with no actual âintercourse.
When as a couple, you are comfortable with yourself, completely exposed and with your partner, âand confidence builds in, then you will find that your issues of premature ejaculation will be âsolved.
In case you are able to have a proper erection with masturbation and by oral stimulation (oral âsex) there should be no major medical conditions causing erectile dysfunction.
You might consult your doctor, or a sexologist who can guide you accordingly and help you gain your confidence and help to spice up your sex lives.
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