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Why do guys like doing a girl through the butt?

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Does anyone know? What do yall feel.
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replied February 2nd, 2012
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Hi cuttie_pie and welcome to ehealth...I really don't know...Maybe it's a male macho thing....You know "I own you and do you the way I want to"...Like all women, I too, had to try it...Darn, it hurt...My husband hated it and for the life of me I can't understand this anymore than you can...

Saying this, some women must have sex this way...They do learn to enjoy it...A medical necessity and love for a partner can make everything right....

I guess that this is what makes life so interesting...That being, we are all different...Take care...

Caroline
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replied February 3rd, 2012
Omg, I haven't tried it yet because mostly every girl I now told me it hurts! My boyfriend wants to, but am like why in the butt? Is it because your tight there? Or what? Than he told me he has never done a girl through there... Lol. But thanks Caroline!!!!
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replied February 3rd, 2012
Its because it's really tight down there that they want to do it. As funny as it sounds, guys like "fine" butts and they want to do them too lol. But it's your body. If they really want to be with you then it's not necessary to do it down there besides experimenting or if you really just find it pleasurable. Although, you and your bf might want to look up some tips to make it less painful because it'll help in the long run after. It also helps if you really really want to do it too so you're less tense. :\
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replied February 3rd, 2012
Well, I am not a guy but I own one...just kidding. Anal can hurt and it can be good too. For one thing, tell you BF to google " how to have anal sex" .Use lots and lots of lube, use fingers first and then sloooooooooooow.
having said all this....its your butt. You can say no. A good lover will not pressure you.
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replied February 4th, 2012
@Elizaveta; I want but like am kind of like undecided I mean I want to satisfy my partner
@Nurse4U; thanks i'll tell him to google that hopefully for my first time that wont hurt cause if it does that will be the last! Lol. Do yaw know why some females get abdominal pain whem they have sex by thw way?
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replied February 5th, 2012
I'm a guy and I'll be honest with you.
I have done this at the request of my partner at the time.
I found it hard for penetration at first and less pleasurable for me than vaginal intercourse.
I suspect that men (and I really am one) are far too easily brainwashed into following someone else's idea of macho behaviour.
If you really don't want to do it tell him. If he's worth bothering about and cares for you, he'll get over it!
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replied February 5th, 2012
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waltzer55 wrote:
I'm a guy and I'll be honest with you.
I have done this at the request of my partner at the time.
I found it hard for penetration at first and less pleasurable for me than vaginal intercourse.
I suspect that men (and I really am one) are far too easily brainwashed into following someone else's idea of macho behaviour.
If you really don't want to do it tell him. If he's worth bothering about and cares for you, he'll get over it!


Please understand that what I have said comes only from women (both younger and older) that have both written me or that I have found on forums...I am sure that many women love this...I can recall when I was younger being stimulated when my husband would stimulate this part of me...But I can also recall him telling me at that time that he didn't want to do it as it could cause injury....It was only later in life (like 45 years later) that I wanted to try what I didn't know...My reaction was it hurt...Thus, the women that I knew that had to have surgery to help close up this delicate area from too much stretching made sense...This is the main problem with anal sex...Once that area gets too wide and stretched, then she ends up in diapers...I think a woman has to watch herself enough as she ages just doing her kegel exercises to safeguard this part of her body....Again different strokes for different folks...Whether it is a man thing or whatever, it is a part of stimulation for both some men and women....Yet, I am a woman, still wonder why they would pick that area when the best is in front...But then this is me...Take care...

Caroline

I am adding this later...I guess my reason for the macho wording is how she addressed this thread...Let's face it, we women do love to be mastered....But, maybe the real reason is that men would like this done to themselves...Maybe for some of them that this is their wish in the secret garden of their mind...So they do what they feel would be so hot and sexual....That being anal sex...
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replied February 5th, 2012
1.) For dominance and control
2.) The thrill of doing something you're not supposed to.
3.) A combination of both.


I personally love the feeling of vagina 10x more than ass but I still want anal anyway because I want the girl to feel pain.

To you, this may sound completely horrible, but is it wrong to hurt someone who wants to be hurt? There are girls (the kind I date) that like to be hurt and degraded- and for guys like me, we are a match made in heaven.
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replied February 5th, 2012
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eTom wrote:
1.) For dominance and control
2.) The thrill of doing something you're not supposed to.
3.) A combination of both.


I personally love the feeling of vagina 10x more than ass but I still want anal anyway because I want the girl to feel pain.

To you, this may sound completely horrible, but is it wrong to hurt someone who wants to be hurt? There are girls (the kind I date) that like to be hurt and degraded- and for guys like me, we are a match made in heaven.


Unfortunately, I have heard this more than a few times...One guy ripped her into her perineum....She had to have stitches and they never healed right.....They don't like to be degraded, they are just used to it....

Try socking the wall when your are PO....You may learn to like that too....
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replied February 6th, 2012
I thank god (or any other vision of a creator or supreme being) that I have grown up enough to realise that, as a man, I can be tender to women and don't need to be macho.
The truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth, guys, is, "It's much more rewarding and you can be yourself without all the acting!"
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replied February 6th, 2012
I have to agree with eTom...he is on the money with that reply
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replied February 8th, 2012
CarolineEF wrote:
They don't like to be degraded, they are just used to it....

While you personally might not want to be degraded, I do know of girls that ask for it. One of them was unable to achieve orgasm unless I lashed her in the back with a belt.
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replied April 5th, 2012
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Yet another fiesta of anal bashing. Seriously, people, anal is not that bad. It doesn't have to be degrading and if it hurts, you're doing it wrong. Just like GetHealthy4U said, stretch out the anus first and use plenty of lube. For those of you talking about how anal hurts, do you do that? I am genuinely curious and hope you will reply.

I can't help but feel like the stigma surrounded anal is harbored by the uneducated. There's nothing wrong or abnormal about anal sex. The clitoris can actually be accessed through the anus and so there's much pleasure for the woman to be had with anal. So why not bash blow jobs? They don't stimulate the woman's sex organs at all.
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replied April 7th, 2012
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Ask porn actesses about anal sex - they do it for money which is a good thing as it pays for the surgery they often need...

Porn isn't real and it is only foolish people who think it is real...

Anal sex with women is the traditional way to avoid babies. It might hit the spot for some but most would manage without and probably not even think about it if it wasn't for porn!

I prefer the vagina and the thought of anal does nothing for me. Sometimes when I am turned on and everything is wet I might tickle the anus and see if there is a favourable reaction...

A well endowed guy can cause physical injury if he is too vigorous but the woman can reach round and grasp the shaft of the penis to limit the depth of penetration.

I believe it is still illegal in the UK to practice buggery on one's own wife - there was a time when the empire needed populating and children should not be avoided.

Certainly some women find it degrading and domination is one of the reasons why men want to do this. Because it is "naughty" or because some mistakenly believe there is more sensation - although the anus is often tighter it is less textured than the vagina...

Suppressed homosexual or bisexual tendencies is another reason...
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replied April 7th, 2012
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That's exactly the stigma I was talking about. I thought exactly the way you do about anal until I tried it.
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replied April 7th, 2012
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Like they say, friend, "different strokes for different folk"...

Wouldn't do for us all to be the same, would it?

As far as I am concerned sex is not something men do to women but something men and women do to each other and anal sex mostly seems to be too much like men doing things to women for self-gratification to be acceptable to me.
of course if the woman actually wants to do it that way and will instigate anal sex it is an entirely different thing. In my experience few women actually want to do anal sex but equally many will want to please their men or will do so for a quiet life...

If there is a stigma against men doing anal sex to women I believe it is right and proper that it is so!

There is no stigma against anything BOTH partners in a relationship want to do...
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replied April 7th, 2012
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Oh it's an entirely different thing when women want to do anal sex? What's it called then?

My problem is that your attitude makes women feel abnormal for wanting anal sex.

Vaginal sex is surely used as something men do to women without the woman wanting to do it at least as often as anal sex is.

There is a stigma against anal sex because people like you are so doubtful that women actually do enjoy it and want to do it. I'm not sure why you consider yourself such an authority on it when you have so little experience with it.
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replied February 8th, 2013
I agree with the idea that porn has really excelerated this anal obsession.If you watch something all the time eventually it becomes the norm.I feel sorry for the young girls that are having their first sexual experiences and being pressured into that right away.My husband and I are in our 50s,by no means are we prudes,but we both think its gross!I mean stuff is suppose to come out of that oriface not go in,thats what it was designed for.Just saying......
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