Why am I not a catch for the ladies?

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The right girl has not come along for you yet. Too many people try to put the influence on "LOOKS" and its really sad. Beauty come from within. You said you were a nice looking guy and could write the "right words'....apparently the girl for you is still out there. You may be trying too hard. If you have a hobby or like to do certain things, you might try looking in that area. Join a club, volunteer somewhere in your area and share yourself. You sound like a wonderful youngman with good standards.....just wait and see.....too many PLAYAS out there. There are lots of girls looking for a guy like you! Hugs!

Well I think I am an nice looking guy, I can also see what some girls may see as ugly. My aunt and cousin say I look like this greek singer, and I can see it.

"But the ladies don't want me they seem to want every one else but me. "

I'll give you my personal advice on what girls are looking for.

Be yourself. Don't try to be someone else.
Be honest. If you lie at the beginning and she catches you... It's not a good thing.
Trust, he has to be able to trust you. (and vise versa) Girls always go for the guys who they can trust.
Be interesting, always have a topic to talk about with the girl.

Ask older girls if they really care about the guy's looks most of the girls don't.

If you have not found a girl for yourself, don't give up, she is out there I know that for sure =)

hey there i think u sound sweet and caring u must belive in urself how is anyone else goin to love u if u dont love urself that is wat my mothere used to tell me and its true beauty is not wat u look like beauty is so much deeper and u want someone to love u for ur iner beauty cause looks fade and ur body starts to look saggy no matter what ur body is like now its the inner beauty that will win all the time and im suer u have so much goin for u so best of luck and go on do urself a favour and belive xxxx

hey there i think u sound sweet and caring u must belive in urself how is anyone else goin to love u if u dont love urself that is wat my mothere used to tell me and its true beauty is not wat u look like beauty is so much deeper and u want someone to love u for ur iner beauty cause looks fade and ur body starts to look saggy no matter what ur body is like now its the inner beauty that will win all the time and im suer u have so much goin for u so best of luck and go on do urself a favour and belive xxxx

Yeah but where am I going to get his inner beauty? If the ladies don't like whats on the outside then they don't want to get to know the inner beauty.

thats not always true, i did not date my boyfriend for his looks, i dated him for his personality, there are girls like me out there. some will see the inner beauty and not even care what you look like on the outside. The inner beauty comes with confidence.

I don't think I want to go with a dating service. I don't have a credit card. So I guess thats out of the option.

im on a site called nzdating.com, its really good because it doesnt cost, and you dont have to put ur pic on, there are heaps of people on there and most of them say exactly what they mean. its a good way to meet new friends and even find a gf. if i were you id honestly give it a go.

How is that site working out for you?

Never mind about this. The other half of you are waiting for you. You said you don't want to go with a dating service, but i don't think so. I'm in an relationship now, we met at blackwhitemeet dot com. I think you will have more chances if you can change your ideas.

I really do not want to use any form of dating service. I want to meet a girl the traditional way. However, just cause I am showing some interest in it does not mean I am intersted in using the service. I am just curious if it does actually work and how it is working for one who is using the service.

You never want to attract the wrong type of person. Don't be needy or anxious, ready to pounce on any given situation. The right person will be sent to you within time. Never change who you are to please other people. Be you, if that's not attractive enough feed them beans.

You never want to attract the wrong type of person. Don't be needy or anxious, ready to pounce on any given situation. The right person will be sent to you within time. Never change who you are to please other people. Be you, if that's not attractive enough feed them beans.

You know tonight I got injured at work. It took an injury to get the hottest girl at work to talk to me, to see if I am alright.

Dear GJ:
My best advice to you
is try to avoid looking at yourself or looking at others
in general terms, where you group all "ladies" together
or you group yourself or compare yourself with other "men."

This causes more misery and confusion than
anything else I know. Racism and bigotry is based
on this same habit of lumping people together in groups.

The sooner you start seeing and respecting yourself as
an individual, and see other people that way regardless of
gender or race etc. (that is part of our identity but cannot
be the overriding factor or else we make class judgments),
then you will see the beauty in yourself and others, flaws and all!

Everyone has unique strengths and weaknesses. In truth your
worst weakness can be your strength, and vice versa. Sometimes
even our strengths work against us. So you cannot judge yourself
or others this way.

MOre later
thanks, Emily

All in all, what everybody is trying to say is.

You need CONFIDENCE.

Women are attracted to confidence, not confusion.

There is a fine line between confidence, and cocky jerk. Only difference between a cocky jerk and a confident man, is that the cocky jerk had too much experience being confident and decided to exploit his experiences.

As for greekjohn, maybe you should get hurt more often =P. Lose a finger or something. It does suck though huh, when they never seem to notice you.

Don't worry GJ!
I was always wondering why boys never looked at me. I always felt that guys never looked at me. I was always comparing myself with other people and that just hurts because you are always thinking "What do THEY have that I don't?" But to be honest now I don't care about other people.

My advice is NEVER compare yourself to anyone. Be confident and happy with who you are and don't change for anyone.
Also maybe you are trying too hard! Try going out without the intention of looking for anyone, because quite often it will happen when you least expect it and often this will be when you are NOT looking. Just go out and have fun and enjoy yourself without thinking too much about girls and it could be that you will find it will happen out of the blue!
It depends also on where you look for girls. Clubs can work for potential dates, but remember that a lot of times at clubs people just get drunk and aren't really aware of what they are doing, which can just lead to heartache.
Chin up and good luck!